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The Mixed Emotions of Divorce

Wed, 01 Sep 2010 11:19:27 -0400

We all know that divorce is painful, but what most people are not ready for is the assault of mixed emotions that come with it. The moment you and your spouse agree that there is nothing left to be done but officially separate, you are likely to be hit with at least a few of the following emotions. Rejection Feeling as if you weren't good enough for your spouse or somehow have been rejected is very common, and not only when the divorce was the other person's idea. If you were the one to initiate the split, don't be surprised if you still feel rejected on some level. When you really dig deep and analyze those feelings of rejection you will find that they are really a mix of other emotions. It might be a tingle of regret mixed with guilt or some other combination. Figuring out why you feel rejected and what other emotions may be wrapped up with it will help you overcome the feeling and move on with your life. Disappointment You had so many big dreams and hopes for your future when you were first married. **End Summary** Topics: surviving infidelity divorce laws divorce support marriage d]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

Self Defeating Thought Patterns & the Fear of Being Alone, Rejected

Wed, 01 Sep 2010 11:18:17 -0400

The transition from a marriage to a single’s life is difficult. When you were married, you had someone to share problems with, but once single, you have to solve all problems on your own, handle the stress of daily life alone, and then come home to a quiet house or perhaps children to care for alone. It is even difficult just to sit through a quiet evening alone if you have been accustomed to sitting quietly next to someone else. Eventually most people get past the loneliness and find companionship in a new healthy relationship, but some people end up in a string of unhealthy relationships that are not fulfilling. One of the reasons for this is the self-defeating thought patterns. There are several different thoughts that could interfere with your ability to move on to healthy, fulfilling relationships. For instance: 1. I'm going to be alone forever because there aren't any real good men left out there. 2. I'm too old. 3. I don't deserve a good man. 4. There aren't enough men for me to choose from so I need to settle with whoever shows interest in me. **End Summary** Topics: child support sites divorced]]> divorce advice challenges of]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

What Manipulative Behaviour Does to Your Relationship

Wed, 28 Jul 2010 10:42:49 -0400

We all say that we would turn and run from a controlling, manipulative spouse or lover, but in reality many people are in emotionally abusive relationships without even realizing it. Some manipulators are so smooth and subtle that their partner may sense something is not quite right but find themselves unable to put a finger on what is actually wrong. Do you think someone you are with right now could be exhibiting manipulative behavior? Do you believe you would be able to identify a manipulator if you were interacting with one? Most people believe they could tell the difference between manipulation and respectful communication, but time and time again highly intelligent women fall for manipulators without realizing it. The biggest sign that you may be dealing with a manipulator is a sense of guilt and confusion after talking with them. Manipulative behavior is not physical action, but spoken words and subtle stares and odd glances. Manipulation is a form of communication that is often designed to make you feel wrong, ashamed or guilty of your own opinions, ideas, or preferences. **End Summary** Topics: relationship divorce sites child support sites divorc]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

When Your Spouse Rejects You - Is there Love & Life after Divorce?

Wed, 28 Jul 2010 10:40:38 -0400

The feeling of being rejected in a relationship and divorce can deliver a huge blow to your ego, no matter what your age. But when you are older, you suddenly find yourself alone and single, but this time around it’s a little different. You don't feel attractive and wanted. You don't feel as if you could snag any handsome man who comes along. Rather, you feel defeated and unwanted. You feel unworthy of love and genuine care. If your spouse saw you for what you really were, raw and uncensored, and turned you away, why would anyone else want you? Are these your thoughts? Because if they are, it is time you made a serious effort to change them! Why? Because these thoughts can be all-consuming. They lower your self esteem and make it impossible to open your heart to someone else. Feeling rejected and unworthy can even lead to social awkwardness that prevents you from meeting others and going out on dates. Simply put: rejection and the lowered self-esteem that comes along with it prevents you from moving forward with your life in a healthy manner. You remain trapped in the past rather than moving on to something new. **End Summary** Topics: dissolution child custody alimony law family divorce advisor]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

When Post-Divorce Anger Points Inward

Fri, 02 Jul 2010 11:21:02 -0400

We all understand someone feeling angry at their ex after getting a divorce, but what do you when the anger is turned inward towards your own self? If you feel at all responsible for the break-up of your marriage, chances are high that you will feel some level of anger at yourself. In fact, many people find that they suffer from intense self-hatred and inward anger even though they know deep down that the divorce was not just their fault. There are lots of things people typically do to take out their anger at someone else. However, most do not lend themselves too well to alleviating anger that you feel with your own self. For instance, you aren't likely to spend the weekend with your friends trash talking about yourself and you probably wouldn't pin up a large picture of yourself and practice darts. (And I’m certainly not saying that that’s how you should take out your anger when it is directed towards another person. Not at all! **End Summary** Topics: divorce separation divorce help relationship divorce sites child support sites divorced]]> divorce advice challenges of divorce and custody divorce and]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

What to Do When an Affair Ends Your Marriage - Help Dealing with the Guilt

Fri, 02 Jul 2010 11:18:49 -0400

You don't go into a marriage planning to have an affair and hurt your spouse in the deepest way possible, but it happens all too often. In some cases an affair can highlight problems within a marriage and you can come back together stronger then ever, but in many other cases it is the final act that destroys the relationship. If you were the one who had the affair that ultimately ended your marriage, how do you deal with the guilt? The following tips are not solid solutions as no one can promise you that, but they will direct your thinking so you have a fighting chance of freeing yourself from the guilt. Accepting Responsibility The first thing you need to do is to take responsibility for the affair, but not necessarily for the breakup of the marriage. We will discuss who accepts blame for the end of the marriage in a moment, but your very first step is to just accept that you had the affair and that it caused your spouse and you a lot of pain. **End Summary** Topics: divorce lawyer dissolution child custody alimony law family divorce advisor visitation attorney legal marriage]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

Holding Your Ground in a New Relationship - Boundaries Serve a Purpose!

Fri, 02 Jul 2010 11:16:39 -0400

You have dealt with the pain and confusion of your divorce and have decided to start dating again. Perhaps you have already met someone who you love spending time with, or perhaps you are just eyeing the available candidates and sizing them up. Before you get in too deep with someone new, take the time to consider how well you stand up for yourself in relationships. Understanding Boundaries Boundaries are lines that separate acceptable behaviors from those that are unacceptable. These lines are different for everyone and one person can have weaker boundaries with regards to one type of behavior than they do for others. This is why some people find it difficult to set and respect boundaries in relationships. Each couple has to determine what those boundaries are with each another and learn to respect them. When you set clear boundaries with others regarding what you will and will not accept, you can express yourself freely and easily say "no" when it is appropriate. You don't worry about the other person getting mad at you for not agreeing with them and you don't change your mind or undervalue your own opinions and ideas just to appease your partner. **End Summary** Topics: divorce lawyer dissolution child custody alimony law family divorce advisor visitation attorney legal marriage counseling lawyer divorces]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

Control Does Not Equal Love - Do You Control or Are You Being Controlled?

Fri, 02 Jul 2010 11:13:25 -0400

Every relationship has its own unspoken "rules" by which both people fulfill particular roles in relation to one another. In the best relationships these rules just naturally develop and both people feel comfortable and happy with the security and predictability of the relationship. In the worst of relationships there is a struggle for control or one person wants to stifle and control the other person's free will. This can happen in a relationship before marriage, during marriage, or in a second or third relationship after divorce. What everyone in a relationship needs to understand is that control does not equal love. If a partner demands to know who you are talking with on the phone, where you are going whenever you leave your home, or insists that you not be friends with people they don't approve of, these are not signs that they just love you so much they want to keep you safe and protected. These are signs of controlling behavior that could be dangerous in the future. When you talk with abused women many of them report controlling behavior in the beginning of the relationship. **End Summary** Topics: divorce lawyer dissolution child custody alimony law family divorce advisor visitation attorney legal marriage]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

Post-Divorce Guilt - Is This Normal?

Tue, 18 May 2010 08:54:34 -0400

If you are feeling a lot of guilt over things that occurred within your marriage or find yourself pointing all the blame inward after the divorce, you may be wondering if you are normal. Post-divorce guilt can range from occasional thoughts and doubts about things that occurred during the marriage to intense self-blame and thoughts of guilt that can stand in the way of moving forward to a happier life. In fact, if you are feeling intense guilt you may feel as if you don't even deserve to be happy. After all, your actions or possibly lack of action led to the divorce and created misery for your ex and yourself, right? Why would you deserve to find someone wonderful and move on to another happy relationship? If you find the guilt, regret, and self-blame interrupting your daily life, you are completely normal. Don’t think that no one else has ever felt this way and that you are some freak of nature dwelling on a broken relationship. Many others have experienced post divorce guilt. In fact, the majority of new divorcees feel at least some degree of guilt in the short term. **End Summary** Topics: divorce procedure how to divorce]]> children and divorce causes of divorce separation and divorce divorce petition toronto divorce coulseling]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> About author Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship.

Are You Ready to Hit the Town? Or Is the Pain of Divorce Still Too Fresh?

Tue, 18 May 2010 08:52:59 -0400

Deciding when you are ready to start painting the town red is difficult for most divorcees. Some feel the urge to escape their sadness right away while others have no desire to be with anyone but themselves and their pain. How we all react to the pains of divorce is different, so the decision about when to start going out and seeing others will be different as well. Going Too Soon The danger with starting to see other people too soon after a divorce is that you escape the emotions that come from the divorce so they are not dealt with properly. When you avoid feeling those feelings and working through your lingering issues you don't make them go away. You simply allow them to build up inside your soul, which will eventually cause problems in other relationships. What often happens for someone who gets divorced and immediately starts seeing someone else is that they start treating their new loved one as if they are guilty of the crimes of their ex-spouse. **End Summary** Topics: surviving divorce parenting plans divorce services divorce professionals divorce consultant surviving infidelity divorce laws divorce support]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> b>About author Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship.

3 Fun Things to Do As a Divorced Woman

Tue, 18 May 2010 08:51:14 -0400

Yes, divorce is painful. It's no more fun than running down the street in front of a speeding bus and hoping you can make it to safety before you get plowed down. No matter how you look at it, divorce is a complicated, painful, agonizing process...but what is stopping you from having a little fun as a divorced woman? When you give yourself permission to let loose and do something unconventional or out of character for yourself, you just may find that there are some aspects of being a single woman that aren't all that bad. 1: Do something drastic with your hair Did your husband insist that you were only attractive with long hair? You don't have to listen to him anymore, so cut it all off and see how amazing you are with a short do! Have you always kept your hair short because it was how your man liked you best? Give yourself a bold new color and start growing it down to your butt. Better yet, head to the stylist and get some extensions for an instantly glam look! Your look should express your personality and where you are currently at in your life. **End Summary** Topics: law family divorce advisor visitation attorney legal marriage counseling]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> About author Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

Dealing With the In-Laws after Divorce

Tue, 27 Apr 2010 10:48:19 -0400

Whether you loved or hated your in-laws while you were married, dealing with them after divorce can be a hassle. If you are sensing a change in your relationship with your ex's family, there are some things to consider before you react to the changes. Understanding the Family Role It is important to remember that families tend to stick together, which means forming a mutual love or mutual not-much-love for people who come in and out of the lives of different family members. If you had a great relationship with your ex's family during the marriage, it should not be a huge surprise that they start giving you the cold shoulder in the grocery store or stop showing up at your parties after the divorce. Even if you have not done a single thing wrong to other members of your ex's family and considered them friends who you cared a lot about, they may not be as warm toward you after the divorce. Or, you could find that they are just as warm as ever before. The difference often comes down to the terms of the divorce. **End Summary** Topics: child support sites]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

How to Tackle the Stress of Divorce - Overcoming those Unwanted Emotions

Tue, 27 Apr 2010 10:47:14 -0400

We’ve all seen the movies and read the stories about messy divorces that cause even more hardship to both people. As if the fact that your marriage is falling apart is not enough! When going through a divorce, more pain, more stress and more anxiety is the last thing you need. This is why I have outlined three of the most common stressors of divorce and how you can overcome them and move on. The Feeling of Guilt - Many women will think that the divorce is their own fault. Perhaps you feel like you did not love enough; perhaps you paid too much attention to work and not to your husband; perhaps you yelled a lot; perhaps you made false accusations; perhaps you took too much….stop. Just stop. This guilt trip is not going to do anything but make you feel worse. You can go through a million different reasons why and, unless the answer is laid out in stone, you may never know the real answer. The reality is this: people fall in and out of love all the time. And, in most instances, there is nothing you could or can do about it. **End Summary** Topics: child support sites]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

Dealing with Childrenâs Issues after Divorce

Tue, 27 Apr 2010 10:45:56 -0400

If you are having a hard time dealing with your failed marriage, just imagine what your children could be going through. They have to deal with the fact that unlike before, they have one parent who is living with them and one whom they rarely see. They have to deal with the fact that the parent who is given custody over them is the one who is their primary caregiver. They have to deal with constantly packing and unpacking while visiting the other parent. The thing is, children have different ways of reacting to this kind of problem. To help you deal with the different issues children have after marriage, here are some tips that you can use. While these tips do not entirely get rid of the issues, they can ease things a little. Be Astute Always remember that after a divorce or a separation, it is not just you who is suffering the after-effects. The children are having problems adjusting to it, too. With this in mind, become more sensitive to their needs. Provided that their needs are within reasonable grounds, try to meet these as much as possible. **End Summary** Topics: child support sites]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

Making Divorce a Positive, Life Changing Experience

Tue, 27 Apr 2010 10:43:50 -0400

Most people view divorce in a negative light. For instance, a woman who is newly divorced is expected to be in the grieving process and might be criticized if she were to jump right into the dating scene. Similarly, men who are newly divorced are seen as bad emotional investments by many women because it is assumed that they are emotionally fragile. Some women even assume that a man who is divorced (even in the distant past) is bad relationship material simply because the divorce shows their inability to maintain a long term, committed relationship. This is a completely inappropriate view that holds no merit for most men, but it is one that many women cling to. But wait...what if you could completely turn around this negative view of divorce? What if it were possible to make divorce a positive thing in your life? Before you laugh off the idea as ludicrous, consider that divorce doesn't have to always be a horrible thing. For some people who are able to put their mind in the right state, it can actually be something that turns their life in a positive direction. **End Summary** Topics: child support sites]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

Preventing an Ex From Controlling You After Divorce

Wed, 31 Mar 2010 10:20:44 -0400

When an ex-husband is angry, bitter or not fully accepting that a marriage has ended, he may attempt to control his former wife as a way of preventing her from moving on without him. Like an attention-starved child exhibiting unruly behavior in search of attention, it does not matter to a controlling ex-husband that he is furthering the wedge between he and his former wife. Even if he can temporarily satisfy his anger or receive bitter attention, he is willing to continue his controlling behavior at any cost. However, there are effective ways of preventing him from doing so and continuing with your life despite his upsetting efforts. Recognize Your Right to Life Before your ex-husband's behavior can be stopped, however, you must realize that you have a right to live in peace. Your marriage and subsequent divorce may have been a chaotic experience, but you survived both because you wanted a better life. Allowing him to control you now serves no good purpose, as it prevents both of you from moving forward and toward happiness. Your decision to stop his behavior should be guilt-free and you must be firm in your efforts to stop it. **End Summary** Topics: child support sites]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose (www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=5) is a Professional Life Coach helping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Vanaja helps people create a new relationship with money that propels them to take action and stop being an underearner. New Teleclass series starting soon: www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=192

Heal the Pain of Divorce - 2 Tips for Healing and Moving Forward with Your Life

Thu, 04 Feb 2010 08:37:42 -0500

It may not seem so right at this very moment, but there are great things set to happen in your future. You will continue to put one foot in front of the other, holding your head high in the world, as if your heart were not breaking into a million shards with every step. Eventually, the shards will hit the ground, bounce and disappear into the gravel. You will no longer feel the pain that seems to be your destiny today. Sounds poetic and hopeful, but doesn't apply to your life, right? This is a common response from people who have recently separated from a spouse they don't necessarily hate and despise as much as they seem to be hated and despised from the other side. In fact, this could be your emotional response even if you do completely hate this person who has now made a sudden exit from your life. Rest assured you are completely normal. No one in your position has the ability to look into the future and know for certain that better and happier times are to come. Yet, you have to trust that they will come. **End Summary** Topics: relationship]]> divorce separation]]> counseling]]> attorney]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

Evaluating Your Career After Divorce

Sat, 09 Jan 2010 10:34:34 -0500

It is important that you evaluate your career a year after leaving your marriage or divorce. The reason is that even if you receive monthly child support or alimony, you have needs that even money cannot meet. Being able to feel a sense of accomplishment is just one of these needs. Another would be the ability of being able to provide for your family. Regaining your independence is another. So how will you re-evaluate your career? Here are four simple questions that you need to ask yourself to see whether or not your present job is for you or if you need to change jobs. Do you like your present job? Did you know that there are a lot of people nowadays who are in a career that they don’t even like? Sad as it may seem, this is true. While having a job that you don’t like is way better than having none at all, it poses a lot of consequences. For instance, there is neither satisfaction nor a sense of accomplishment. You will also always feel discontented. So if you answer “yes” to this question, stay with your present job. **End Summary** Topics: divorce lawyer]]> divorce procedure]]> children and divorce]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life. Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

Four Steps to Moving Forward and Accepting Divorce

Sat, 09 Jan 2010 10:29:28 -0500

No one wants to admit that their marriage is falling apart. After all, you most likely put in a lot of hard work and the best years of your life making sure this did not happen. And then, poof, its all gone. However, the best way to deal with an amicable divorce or breakup is to do it as logically as possible. The quicker you can move forward, the quicker the whole mess can be left in the past, where it belongs. To help you along the way, I have put together a four step program that will help you get through the beginning of a divorce and move to a better place in your life mentally, physically and spiritually. 1.Consider the financial situation We know, this is the last thing you want to do, but this is the first step, especially for your future financial security. With all the emotional stress you are going through, its important that you do not add financial burden as well. Collect bills, mortgage payments, bank statements, tax returns and other financial statements. If you are unfamiliar with the financial aspect of the relationship, its time to familiarize yourself with it now. **End Summary** Topics: surviving divorce]]> divorce services]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life.Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/

The Greatest Investment Ever

Fri, 01 Jan 2010 07:42:22 -0500

Nowadays, the value of a person is often measured by his financial net worth. Thus, when thinking about assets, the first thing that comes to mind is ones material possessions that can be measured in monetary terms. Think houses, investment portfolio, consumer electronic appliances and gadgets, bank accounts and jewelry, to name a few. The Most Valuable Asset - Yourself However, the truth is that your greatest asset is yourself! Your monetary net worth is just one aspect, and a small part at that, of your total worth as a person. After all, you have other parts to your self physical, mental and emotional that needs to be developed. And when you develop yourself in totality, you are also positively affecting your personal and professional life. So, if you must spend money to earn more money, then investing in yourself is the best way to go! Invest in Your Health More than anything else, your overall health is your most valuable weapon in your quest for a better personal and professional life. **End Summary** Topics: ]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose ( http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com/about-2/ ) is a Professional Life Coach helping divorced women and those who chose to leave their long term relationship, and now want to powerfully create a dazzling life. Download your FREE mp3 audio on "Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce" and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.divorced

5 Holiday Tips for the Newly Divorced or Separated

Tue, 15 Dec 2009 09:41:16 -0500

Are you newly divorced or separated and struggling to put on a smile through the holiday season? If so, then take a few tips on how to survive with your dignity and sanity stronger than ever! 1. Center on your negative emotions and feel them fully and then let them go. You are justified in feeling whatever negative emotions are dragging you down, whether it is lingering anger, a sense of betrayal, overwhelming resentment or unresolved bitterness. Depending on the circumstances of your breakup, you may even have a sense of abandonment. Take an afternoon or evening to really feel those emotions. Pour yourself a glass of wine or order pizza, then write out everything you are feeling. You may start out feeling silly, but eventually it will come pouring out and you will feel a release. Then, drop it in the trash, bury it in the snow, or light it on fire in the bathtub...just get rid of it. Then move right along to the next tip. 2. Focus on bringing positive energy to everyone you come across. **End Summary** Topics: divorces]]> marriage]]> dissolution]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose (www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=5) is a Professional Life Coach helping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Vanaja helps people create a new relationship with money that propels them to take action and stop being an underearner. New Teleclass series starting soon: www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=192

Divorce and Addiction - Both Painful - Both Have Something in Common

Mon, 14 Dec 2009 09:51:20 -0500

It just so happens that our society currently has the highest rates of divorce and addiction that it has ever had. It may seem at first like these two things have absolutely nothing to do with one another, but when you take a closer look you realize that trying to get away from an addicting substance and breaking up with someone you love are extremely similar. For starters, both of these things are extremely painful life experiences. And both are often done in order to make your life better. Drug addicts and alcoholics may go into a long term rehab facility because they know their future is on the line. If they continue with their addiction they will hold themselves back from their full potential and will not be able to accomplish all the dreams they once held for their life. Quite similarly, when you separate from someone you love there is often a sense of improving your life or that of someone you love. **End Summary** Topics: surviving divorce]]> divorce support]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose (www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=5) is a Professional Life Coach helping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Vanaja helps people create a new relationship with money that propels them to take action and stop being an underearner. New Teleclass series starting soon: www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=192

Never Divorce with Drama in Public - 3 Lessons to Learn

Mon, 14 Dec 2009 09:43:31 -0500

If you are in the throes of divorce or are getting ready to head in that direction, there are quite a few things you can learn from some very public divorces. This is not a list of things you want to do during a divorce, but rather mistakes that you definitely do not want to repeat in your own life. 1: Never allow the children to take your bullets! This had to be number one on the list because it involves people who cannot defend or stand up for themselves. Children will actually be permanently changed when they are put in the middle of their parents’ problems, be it during a divorce or in a household destroyed by fighting. Think of it like this: using your children as pawns to hurt your spouse in the deepest way possible is like holding them in front of you as a shield during an armed robbery. Some mothers will deny their husband access to their children or in some circumstances make it very hard for him to see them on birthdays. **End Summary** Topics: surviving divorce]]> divorce support]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose (www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=5) is a Professional Life Coach helping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Vanaja helps people create a new relationship with money that propels them to take action and stop being an underearner. New Teleclass series starting soon: www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=192

The Perils of Moving on Too Soon After a Divorce

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 08:24:05 -0500

After a divorce, a woman can feel very confused, vulnerable and lonely. At the same time, her newly single status is accompanied by a sense of freedom that she has not had in a while. When these two elements are combined, it becomes very easy for some to get into another relationship on the rebound. Often, women regret these relationships and are faced with, yet again, having to detach themselves from an unhappy situation. Avoid the Rebound Trap The reasons that led to the divorce may vary in any one woman's circumstance. However, one constant is pretty much certain in all cases. There was a loss of happiness and a general feeling of being unfulfilled. In some cases, a woman's feelings of self-worth have also suffered tremendously, which can leave her looking for validation in all of the wrong places. As painful as divorce can be, many women seek the arms of another man to make up for what they feel they lost in their marriage. These relationships are popularly identified as rebound relationships and, more often than not, they do not last. **End Summary** Topics: The Perils of Moving on Too Soon After a Divorce]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose (www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=5) is a Professional Life Coach helping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Vanaja helps people create a new relationship with money that propels them to take action and stop being an underearner. New Teleclass series starting soon: www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=192

Learning to Live with Less Money

Mon, 02 Nov 2009 07:59:29 -0500

If you recently left your marriage, or recently got divorced, you may be in a situation where money is going out faster than it is coming in. If you were a housewife, before you can get a stable job and monthly alimony, there is that certain period in time where you may not have any source of income and thus, are struggling to learn how to live with less money. If you are one of these women, or know somebody who is, there are some ways that can be learned so that you still live well with less money. Stop Buying What You Do Not Need and Budget Wisely You might be one of those women who are fond of buying things that they don’t even need. As one who has been there and done that, I can totally relate to that. But when you are on a tight budget, you need to reevaluate what you “need” and what you simply “want”. And then stop buying the items on the ‘want” list. These are the unnecessary things. Budget wisely, and set aside money for food and bills. **End Summary** Topics: challenges of divorce and custody]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Vanaja Ghose (www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=5) is a Professional Life Coach helping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Vanaja helps people create a new relationship with money that propels them to take action and stop being an underearner. New Teleclass series starting soon: www.leavingyourmarriage.com page_id=192