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5 Tips to Get Into the Holiday Spirit When You Are Single

Tue, 24 Nov 2009 15:41:08 -0500

The holidays are always depressing for singles who truly want to be in a relationship. Many find this time of year to be extremely painful and heartbreaking. It is difficult watching your siblings' children, new engagement announcements from friends and, worse, listening to the annoying advice you get from your aging relatives on how to find a good man. You may not be able to control having a man on your arm at the holiday gathering, but you can control how your mind thinks about your current fate. Here are some tips to help you keep your chin up and brave through the cold, lonely holidays with grace and ease: 1. Don't make the holidays such a big deal. Look at Thanksgiving, Christmas, Chanukah, New Year's, etc. as just days in the year. When you have great expectations for these events, you will always be disappointed. 2. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you are broken because you are single. Take a realistic look at the couples around you. Are they really so blissfully happy? Just because they are a couple, doesn't make them better than you. **End Summary** Topics: singles]]> dating]]> relationship dating techniques]]> singles holiday]]> hypnosis]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is the World's No. 1 Love Hypnotist and Relationship Expert, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website, Attract Love Hypnotist at AttractRealLove.com

Single for the Holidays? How to Attract Love Without Trying

Mon, 16 Nov 2009 19:21:58 -0500

If you have been single for a while and fed up with the lack of available men, you probably feel a little anxious about the upcoming holidays. Dreading going through another season alone, you force yourself more than ever to get out there and meet Mr. Right immediately. The urgency can move you out of your comfort zone but can also increase the pressure on yourself and those you meet to make love happen. The problem I see in most women is not that they try too hard to make love appear on command. By now, you may have read about the law of attraction and have been visualizing your ideal man. Just being aware that you are in control of your life through the power of thought can be a daunting responsibility. Often times, this idea makes women feel as though they are "doing it all wrong" when their dream guy doesn't manifest out of thin air. They feel worse about themselves which only leads to more pressure on the single life situation. **End Summary** Topics: singles]]> holidays]]> dating]]> finding love]]> attract love]]> relationships]]> desperation]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is the World's No. 1 Love Hypnotist and Relationship Expert, Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website, Love Hypnotist at AttractRealLove.com

5 Common Blocks to Attracting Your Desires

Mon, 19 Oct 2009 20:16:26 -0400

There are tons of books and articles about the law of attraction and many of them tell you how to attract money, love or health. They make it sound so easy and you wonder why you aren't getting the results that you want. If you feel like you are failing to shift your current circumstances, review these five common blocks that prevent you from attracting your desires: 1. Desperation - When you are holding the energy of desperation, you are really saying to yourself, "I don't trust." You get what you focus on, so shift your focus to faith and you should see a new outcome emerge. 2. Incompatible Action - When your actions are not aligned with what you want, you block the flow. Whether you just sit around and wait for a check to arrive in the mail, or date unavailable men while hoping to find a committed relationship, both inaction and misaligned action sends a signal to the subconscious mind that you are not really serious or focused on your goal. 3. **End Summary** Topics: personal development]]> self-help love]]> law of attraction]]> blocks to manifestation]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is the World's No. 1 Love Hypnotist and Relationship Expert, host of The Love Hypnotist Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website, Love Hypnotist at AttractRealLove.com

Singles Want to Know Why Nice Guys are Boring

Mon, 19 Oct 2009 17:06:13 -0400

Jen gets excited about her date. They met online and he has all the qualities she is looking for in a man. He is successful, attractive and has a great smile and, best of all, he is straight and available. After years of swimming in the dating pool, she finally feels hopeful about a night out with someone who has potential. As she greets him at the restaurant bar, she is pleased with his looks and he is a perfect gentleman. As the evening progresses, their conversation is flowing and natural and she discovers that he has the same goals in life. He, too, is looking to settle down, get married and have a family. She feels as though he is too good to be true as if the universe handed her Mr. Perfect on a silver platter. The only problem is that she does not feel anything romantic toward him. He was nice enough, but no spark. She never returns his calls and wonders why she couldn't just like the guy and be done with her search. Beating herself up, she continues to pine over her last boyfriend who dumped her for another woman months earlier. **End Summary** Topics: dating tips]]> relationship dating]]> nice guys]]> dating confidence]]> attract love]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is the World's No. 1 Love Hypnotist and Relationship Expert, host of The Love Hypnotist Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website, Love Hypnotist at AttractRealLove.com

Who is Responsible For Your Love Life?

Wed, 30 Sep 2009 09:31:47 -0400

In every single woman's gal pal circle, there is inevitably a conversation about the latest romantic tragedy. Whether it was the guy who didn't call or the man who just broke your friend's heart because he went back to his old girlfriend, the story has the same theme. There is always a victim and a perpetrator. The victim is typically the woman who feels shut out from love. The perpetrator can be a man, society, the city she lives in or the parents for past childhood abuse or neglect. The lonely woman sees herself as powerless prey in the scary singles' world trying to find her way to the safety of a man's love. Impatiently waiting for some miracle of love that never seems to arrive, she resorts to complaining to her friends hoping that someday her pain will be understood and resolved. The victim never sees that she held the key to happiness all along. The perpetrator is not society, men or her parents but darkest thoughts of her own mind. By not taking responsibility for her life, she will continue the cycle of heartache proving that she is right and the world has wronged her. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> attract love]]> healthy dating relationships]]> love coach]]> love hypnosis]]> debra berndt]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is the World's No. 1 Love Hypnotist and Relationship Expert, host of The Love Hypnotist Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website, Love Hypnotist at AttractRealLove.com

Do You Need a Love Stimulus?

Sun, 23 Aug 2009 15:43:19 -0400

Dating for too long (or not at all), feeling like you have been in the game way forever? Many singles suffer from a love recession but they are often working against themselves and remain stuck in the same old relationship rut. There is a way out - an easy way to get a stimulus in your love experience by changing your subconscious mind. Humans are creatures of habit and what most singles do is attempt to change their single status by using the same worn out methods. The subconscious mind will automatically draw you to the same partners over and over again. Waiting for someone to come along to tell you that you are worthy of being loved only leads to giving away your power and feeling let down when rejected. No one can tell you that you are lovable except you. That's where hypnosis comes in. By relaxing your rigid mind with a hypnotic trance, you can allow new ideas to flood the subconscious and create a new reality in your love story. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> singles]]> love]]> attract love]]> hypnosis]]> subconscious mind]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website, Love Coach at AttractRealLove.com

The Myth of Mr. Right v. Healthy Dating Relationships

Fri, 07 Aug 2009 09:50:46 -0400

There is a legendary person in every single woman's life called Mr. Right. He is a suave, handsome knight, riding to rescue her on his great white horse. He will arrive to whisk her away from the dreadful place called single-town and make all her troubles go away. Sadly, she may always seem to jump on the wrong horse and get discarded back in single-town again. Believing in this fantasy often prevents singles from finding real love. Many singles look for a companion as a way to fix their life. They unwisely believe that if only they were married, then everything would be great. As if the man has some enchanting power to erase all of their insecurities, baggage and gloom, and he would be able to lift her up to a elevated realm of being. I used to believe that too. What I discovered was that this legend about romance created a huge block from allowing true love into my life. I had my list of Mr. Perfect and compared every man to my must-have file. I watched romantic movies in awe waiting for that same amazing feeling of blissful union and happily ever after. **End Summary** Topics: healthy dating relationships]]> love advice]]> love coach]]> dating tips]]> debra berndt]]> Mr. Right]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at NY Love Coach - AttractRealLove.com

When It Comes to Dating, Are You a Cougar?

Tue, 28 Jul 2009 18:23:12 -0400

In case you haven't heard of this new phrase, a "Cougar" is named used to refer to an older woman who dates men much younger than her. Cougars come in all types and the reasons for their particular fetish with the boys are varied. Some are content with having fun and others seek more in the relationship than what the young stud plans. An older woman may get involved with a much younger man right after a bad breakup or divorce. She may do this because she wants to heal the wounds after her husband left her for another woman or desires to simply feel good about herself again. Many of these affairs are intended to be temporary as she transitions from one committed relationship to another. There are other Cougars who make it a game, a conquest of getting the younger man and have a little fun. These flings are also deliberately short-lived and not necessarily a source of despair. The heartbreak comes when the Cougar expects the young lover to turn into a long-term partner. Many times the young guy is in only involved for the fun and other perks an older, wealthier woman can provide him. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> singles]]> attract love]]> hypnosis]]> subconscious mind]]> cougar]]> younger men]]> older women]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Dating Tip: How a Love Coach and Hypnosis Can Help Your Love Life

Tue, 14 Jul 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Love should come naturally, right? We should not have to rely on experts to give us dating tips, be more attractive or make better dating decisions. Isn't that what our girlfriends are for? Unfortunately, most of the dating advice you get from others is incorrect or, worse, damaging to your love life. I remember when I was in my pre-awakening years during my mid-twenties and I was dating someone I really liked. My best friend was seeing his best friend and it was great. Unfortunately, my friend's guy was being a little flaky and she was mad at him. During that time, my love interest cancelled plans with me because of a conflict. My girlfriend told me to stand up for myself and lay it all on the line. So, I called him back and said that I was not going to put up with him cancelling at the last minute and I guess I should look for someone else to date if he wasn't going to commit. This was totally out of character for me and it felt awkward. Guess what? He never called me again. **End Summary** Topics: dating tips]]> love coach]]> dating coach]]> relationships]]> hypnosis]]> attract love]]> ]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

What Michael Jackson Can Teach You About Dating

Thu, 09 Jul 2009 00:00:00 -0400

I know the correlation between Michael Jackson and dating seems like a stretch, but after you read this article, you will see the connection. Whether you love him or hate him, Michael has had a huge impact on pop culture and there are lessons to be learned about his life that can transform yours. Since he took everything to extreme, you may not realize at first how he could teach you anything, but take a closer look. You may see how to avoid similar pitfalls in your love life. 1. Resenting Your Parents - The story of Michael's childhood and the resentment he had for his father is not a secret. Many believe that he had so much plastic surgery because he wanted to erase the image of this father's face in his. In order to have a healthy romantic relationship, you must clear the baggage with your parents. No matter how severe they seem to have affected your life, it is not fair to you to keep holding on to the anger. This lack of forgiveness is blocked energy that keeps you from love. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> confidence]]> resentment]]> Michael Jackson]]> relationships]]> love]]> attract love]]> subconscious min]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Top 5 Mistakes Women Make in Dating

Tue, 07 Jul 2009 00:00:00 -0400

There is a point in every single woman's life when she pauses and asks herself, "Why is everyone else finding a match but me?" She gets advice from her coupled girlfriends and is assured that she is desirable and there must be something wrong with them. Or, perhaps they have an intervention confronting her with the fact that she is just too picky. If this sounds like you, check out these top five mistakes women make when searching for Mr. Right. 1. Making him your "God"- No matter how good-looking, successful, charming and appealing he is, he is NOT better than you. Many women shrink when they find someone they think is a good catch or someone they are just infatuated with. If you believe that you are less than him and need to earn his love, what does that say about you? Many men may find this appealing at first as you feed their ego but they will tire of this energy after a while. You are always unconsciously communicating to your potential mates and your inner feelings of inferiority will be picked up by him. Eventually, he will start to believe that you aren't that great either. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> relationships]]> love coach]]> dating advice]]> find love]]> breakup]]> Mr. Right]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Transform Your Love Life From Tragedy Into a Romantic Comedy

Mon, 29 Jun 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Is your dating life stranger than fiction? There was a movie a few years ago starring Will Ferrell that talked about the difference between a tragedy and a romantic comedy. Dustin Hoffman explains to Will's character that a tragedy ends with someone dying and the romantic comedy ends when the loving couple lives happily ever after. The movie wasn't so great but the interesting parallel is that most singles often feel like someone else is writing the script for their love life. The secret is that you are the author of your own life's script and you get to choose how the story ends. The movie has Will's character hearing a strange voice in his head describing his every move. He continues in the movie searching for the source of the voice so that he can change his destiny. In real life, the voice you hear that is not in alignment with your highest good is your ego. This part of you sees your life through a lens of what happened before and does not have access to new, creative ideas. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> relationships]]> hypnosis]]> hypnotherapy]]> love coach]]> romantic]]> love life]]> dating advice]]> ]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Are You a Dating Sell-Out ?

Tue, 16 Jun 2009 00:00:00 -0400

You may hear about celebrities, musicians and artists selling out for short-term gain. How many famous tunes are now cheesy television commercials? When it comes to your dating life, do you sell-out on yourself just to find someone to spend time with? I hear so many women and men complain to me that they do not want to be alone. They have their ideal partner in the mind but always settle for less when they meet someone. Making dating decisions based on neediness and desperation to fill a void will only make them more miserable. The problem is that when you are dating online or at a singles event, you have so many opportunities to meet someone that the chances of falling for Mr. Wrong or Ms. Wrong are great if you do not stick to your guns. You have an internal nudge that speaks to you and guides you to the right people, but that true message is often drowned out by the anxious voice who just does not want to be single another day. I remember when this happened to me. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> personal development]]> relationships]]> love]]> attract love]]> online dating]]> singles]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

5 Tips to Keep Your Summer Romance Alive

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Summer love can be fun but also stressful if you have a habit of sabotaging relationships. The pattern of crash and burn dating is hard to break because your subconscious mind tends to draw you to the same situations and people again and again. Here are some tips to make your summer romance last until the air grows chilly in the fall and hopefully transform into a long-lasting relationship. 1. Do the opposite. If you are in a new relationship, do not automatically fall into the same patterns that did not work for you in the past. No matter how strong the pull, try to resist the common behaviors that drove the person away before and take a risk by acting against your fears. You may find that a new approach is both beneficial and freeing in keeping the person interested. 2. Hold on Loosely. Remember that old song from the eighties? Think of holding a pen in your hand. If you grasp it too tightly your writing will look forced and too loose will make it sloppy. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> relationships]]> summer romance]]> hypnosis]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Ten Ways to Get Over a Breakup or Past Relationship

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 00:00:00 -0400

So many people as me how to get over a breakup. They want to know how to stop obsessing over the ex-boyfriend or lover and get on with their life. This topic seems to be the most asked question in my work. Here are some easy tips to help you get over the one that broke your heart so that you can move on, date again and find true love. 1. First, take him/her out of your cell phone directory. Each time you pass his/her name when reviewing your contacts you will feel that pang of upset. Why put yourself through such agony? Remove any reminders of him or her in your home, car and workplace. 2. Stop telling your sad story of the breakup. Sure people want to help and give advice, but after a month you should be refraining from talking about your ex. Some talk about their ex as a way to feel close to them. As you disconnect from the pain of the romance, you can more easily move on to a better relationship. 3. Make a list of all his/her bad qualities. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> breakup]]> bad relationship]]> attract love]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

The Truth About Hypnosis

Sun, 10 May 2009 00:00:00 -0400

When hearing the word "hypnosis" many immediately think of an old man with a pocket watch controlling an unwilling subject. The person appears asleep, often frightening events are recovered and, ultimately, the person emerges with sweat and panic. This is the hypnosis of the movies. Then there are those amazing hypnotists at comedy clubs or colleges who mesmerize the audience with their power. They display their incredible ability to make people do things that embarrass them like barking like a dog, sexual acts or even forgetting their name. They argue that they introduce hypnosis to a larger audience and, to their credit many people emerge with a new understanding and interest in this cool process. It has great entertainment value, but if the program is not done in good taste it can give the wrong impression.. While the previous examples can be entertaining in a weird way, the actual experience of hypnosis is much more profound and enjoyable than depicted in the movies or on stage. These performances can demonstrate the power of the mind but have caused much fear in people who contact me asking, "Is it dangerous? **End Summary** Topics: hypnosis]]> hypnotherapy]]> hypnotist]]> subconscious mind]]> mind power]]> dating]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Dating Advice for Struggling with Perfection

Wed, 29 Apr 2009 00:00:00 -0400

If you struggle in love, you are probably one of those people who claim to be a perfectionist. The root belief of that type of personality is about not being good enough. No matter how good your life can be there is always that voice inside that says it could be better. Even when you have a fantastic date, you start to pick apart their faults. If someone breaks up with you, immediately you begin to wonder what you did wrong. Many perfectionists have grown up in critical households. Rarely complimented and highly judged, they become their own worse enemy as their parents comments become their own voice inside their minds. To make up for this imbalance, these people strive for success but are seldom satisfied with whatever goals they reach. When good things happen, they tend to label their fortune as luck and have anxiety about being worthy of having it all. Some singles with this belief will find fault with the nice guys/girls they date saying "they are not good enough. **End Summary** Topics: dating advice]]> hypnosis]]> singles]]> relationships]]> self esteem]]> confidence]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Money Is Not Out There - Law of Attraction Lessons

Tue, 21 Apr 2009 00:00:00 -0400

During these uncertain times, many are wondering why the law of attraction is not working for them. Any attempt to manifest money seems to be futile no matter how much meditation, EFT tapping or visualizations they perform. You see, the law is always working but what people tend to struggle with is the quality of energy they put into it. One simple reason for lack of results is the focus of the person - they are directing their attention outside of themselves. The source of money is not out there but inside. All things come from you and your mind first before it is created in the external world. Unfortunately, we are so conditioned to believe that things come to us instead of being created from us. In order to manifest unlimited wealth, you must first recognize the power within you to create your own reality. Acknowledge that you have created your current financial circumstances and by doing so you can then believe that you can change your situation. The famous Wallace Wattles says to use your will toward yourself by directing your mind on what you want. **End Summary** Topics: law of attraction]]> wealth]]> money]]> success]]> hypnosis]]> hypnotherapy]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

The Power of Susan Boyle

Sat, 18 Apr 2009 00:00:00 -0400

The world has been mesmerized by this humble woman with an amazing voice. What lessons have we learned about our society's view of attractiveness and fitting a certain look to appeal to the masses? As a dating coach, I work with singles who struggle with their confidence feeling not good enough, thin enough or young enough to attract the right person. Comparing themselves to the images on television and movies, they feel inadequate if they do not resemble Angelina or Brad. I think it is time for a shift in our humanity, a wake-up call to what we believe is beautiful. People are saying that Susan Boyle should get a makeover, but then she would succumb to the pressures that the world has placed upon physical attractiveness. Who decides what makes a person appealing anyway? This brings me to a larger issue, society's attachment on the external as a gauge for their self-worth. People look to what others have to judge if they are good enough, if they rate. They question themselves if they have the right talent, skills, education, look, friends, body, and so on. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> confidence]]> susan boyle]]> success]]> dreams]]> hypnosis]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Dating Advice - Living from a Different Past

Fri, 17 Apr 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Many people are held back in life, blaming their past for their current situation. Maybe Dad wasn't there for you or you grew up poor, whatever experience you had before seems to dictate the limitations in your future. But, what if you lived from a different past? You see, your past is just a story that your mind makes up about what happened before. All of your memories are part fact and part fantasy. The fantasy that most carry with them is the dark stories that keep them stuck in current undesirable circumstances. Since you invented the story in the first place, you can amend the tale as much as you like. What if you decided to believe that you came from royalty and assumed that money was easy to come by? You can believe that your parents were so loving and held you up on a pedestal and you expect to be treated with love and respect in all of your relationships. Maybe you can change the story about your health prognosis and start living from a place of complete health and vitality. Think of all of the possibilities that your imagination can dream up. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> hypnosis]]> singles]]> relationships]]> divorce]]> breakup recovery]]> law of attraction]]> subconscious]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Letting Go of Resentment or Past Relationships

Thu, 09 Apr 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Have you ever wondered why you hang on to resentment or cannot let go of a person that you think you love even if they are not treating you well? Whether it is an ex-lover or a difficult or abusing person from the past, our inner mind reacts the same way. It is difficult to just let it go. This occurs because you want the other person to be or act different. You want them to apologize, love you, treat you better, talk to you differently, or even worse, you want them to suffer. Many times it is about being right and other times about being loved. The reason your feelings are so intense is not because of their behavior as much as the story you have created around it. You may be confusing their action or lack of action as a gauge of your own self-worth. You need them to be different so you will be okay. The part of you that does not feel worthy is hooked into them and their actions. So imagine that you are all light, a beautiful light beam. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> hypnosis]]> relationships]]> attract love]]> resentment]]> divorce]]> breakups]]> soulmate]]> hypnotherapy]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Do You Have any Toxic Assets in your Relationship Vault?

Tue, 24 Mar 2009 00:00:00 -0400

Do you have toxic assets in your relationship vault? There is a lot of talk about toxic assets that banks have on their books, but when you conduct an assessment of the relationships in your life, do you have any that are toxic as well? Toxic relationships not only bring you down but also block good things into your life. These people are not an asset but a liability in your desire for a richer, more joyful experience. What is a toxic relationship? Toxic people can be a parent, sibling, child, co-worker, ex-husband/wife, or a friend who is a constant strain on your emotional life. These people tend to be highly critical of you or put down your efforts to improve yourself. Many times these mental contagions have their own problems and want to dump them on you by blaming you for their failures or dissuade you from reaching your own dreams because they are jealous or lack motivation to improve their own life. Many times the toxic person has an addiction, mental illness, extreme low self-esteem that keeps them stuck. **End Summary** Topics: dating]]> relationships]]> breakups]]> confidence]]> self-esteem]]> datin advice]]> love coach]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Relationship Expert and Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com

Your Mind and Relationships - The Power of Attraction

Mon, 02 Mar 2009 00:00:00 -0500

Everything in the universe is created by one original substance. This formless substance or energy is neutral. It is the thought applied upon this substance that creates the thing that is imagined by the thought. Since you are thinking source, you can create anything you desire. There is an unlimited storehouse of love and abundance that this substance provides. Many of those who struggle with relationships tend to apply negative thoughts about love into this energy and ultimately create more loneliness, lack and fear of losing the one we adore. You can attract true love by changing your thoughts and working with this amazing formless substance that creates all. This formless creative substance is referred to as God, universal energy, life force and other names that may fit with your personal belief system. Limited v. Creative Mind We tend to look at our life in two ways. One way is to see things as they are and believe we have no power to change them. We have a strong habit of looking at our current situation, making decisions about them based on past circumstances and recreate the situation over and over again. **End Summary** Topics: attract love]]> hypnosis]]> dating]]> relationships]]> dating advice]]> love coach]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract love mp3 download and her weekly dating advice newsletter from her website at AttractLoveToday.com

Transforming Your Money Relationship with Hypnosis

Fri, 27 Feb 2009 00:00:00 -0500

The amount of money that flows into your life is directly related to your inner relationship with the dollar bill. Since childhood, we have been programmed to believe certain things about money. Money is the root of all evil, blessed are the poor, rich people are jerks, or simply that there is never enough. These old ideas are deeply embedded in your subconscious mind and determine whether you attract or repel wealth. Different than the deeper mind, the conscious mind is your present moment awareness including your five senses and your will. This is a very small part of your experience. The conscious mind is the logical and analytical part of your thinking. Beneath your conscious awareness is the subconscious which holds all of your belief systems gathered throughout your lifetime, including ideas about money. You may have certain beliefs of your self-worth, confidence or intelligence that gets in the way of attracting riches. Even if you are lucky enough to win the lottery or get a great bonus, you have a good chance of ending up broke again if you do not believe that you deserve to be rich. **End Summary** Topics: attract wealth]]> law of attraction]]> money]]> success]]> hypnosis]]> hypnotherapy]]>]]> About the Author: ]]> Debra Berndt is a Certified Hypnotic Coach, Host of The Love Coach Radio Show, and Author of the upcoming book, "Let Love In." Get free attract money download and her weekly newsletter from her website at AttractRealLove.com