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Journey Through Loss and Change

Wed, 05 Dec 2007 00:00:00 -0500

We all feel that the world is stable and secure, that change and loss will not come into our lives. When it does, not only do we experience deep shock and sorrow, but our normal anchors disappear. Confusion, numbness, and helplessness can arise. Needless to say, it takes time to absorb these changes. Along with a sense of abandonment and sorrow, anger and struggle often replace the comfort and strength an individual needs. Most have little understanding of what they are going through, or what to expect in the future. Yet crisis means opportunity. This period can become a time of growth and inspiration when handled properly. There are many ways in which loss and change can be dealt with so that an individual can benefit and grow as a result of it. When the journey of loss and change is properly understood and handled, much later grief and difficulty can also be forestalled. The Dynamics of Loss And Change When change or loss comes into our lives we see that we are not in control. Some have depended greatly upon a person, job or situation and have not gotten in touch with their own inner strength. **End Summary** Topics: divorce]]> loss]]> death]]> cancer]]> illness]]> grief]]> parting]]> psychology]]> relationships]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Turn a time of change and loss into one of strength and hope. In award winning e-book Journey Through Illness and Beyond; Get copy at http://www.journeythroughilllness.com . Top psychologist, mediator has helped thousands find strength, comfort and balance. Free Ezine and articles, http://www.brendashoshanna.com , topspeaker@yahoo.com - http://www.mediate.com/everyonewins

How To Develop Trust In A Relationship

Tue, 04 Dec 2007 00:00:00 -0500

When distrust, arises in a relationship there are many factors which can be causing it. Unless we understand where these feelings are coming from, it becomes easy to act out, blame the partner and put all kinds of unhealthy demands upon them. We can even believe that they are cheating when they are not. When feelings of distrust arise, some begin to create more and more restrictions upon the partner, demand more information and make them feel closed in. This often can be the beginning of the end. In all relationships every individual needs time alone, time with friends and of course time together. When we take away a person's individuality and freedom to grow, sooner or later the individual feels trapped. Not only does this destroy your partner's trust and good feelings about themselves, but they can easily grow to feel that there is no way to ever make you secure and happy. The best way to develop trust is to take a moment to first understand some basic laws of healthy relationships, and what love truly means. Loving another person does not mean possessing them, or having them there to make you feel better about yourself. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> psychology]]> cheating]]> realtionships]]> divorce]]> conflict resolution]]> marriage counseling]]> sex]]> cheating]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Hear men tell you why they left and what is needed in top relationship program Why Men Leave, http://www.whymenleave.com . Psychologist, Founder of Everyone Wins Mediation, relationship and divorce mediator, has helped thousands find fair solutions. Free ezine and articles, http://www.brendashoshanna.com-:topspeaker@yahoo.com - http://www.mediate.com/everyonewins . (212) 288-0028. Talks, workshops and consultations.

How We Sabotage Ourselves And What To Do About It

Sun, 02 Dec 2007 00:00:00 -0500

Everyone wants to be beautiful, young, healthy and fit. There is no end to the diets, workouts and health plans. Yet the most important diet of all has been overlooked. This is a diet that releases stress, relaxes muscles, offers sound sleep, diminishes appetite, and makes you look and feel younger; it brings you new friends, a happy work environment, good relationships, and adds years to your life. This is the diet from anger' one of the worst plagues facing our nation. Anger is a serious problem for one in every five Americans. Road rage, workplace violence, school shootings, domestic abuse and addiction are just a few of its many outlets. The reason such a huge proportion of our nation is on anti-depressants, involved in alcohol, and drug addiction, overweight, in broken relationships and involved in all kinds of destructive behavior, can be directly traced back to the effects of anger, particularly the hidden kind. It has also been well documented that anger strongly affects physical health and is directly related to heart attacks, blood pressure, back pain and many other physical disorders. This is called symptom substitution. We also turn our anger against ourselves in other ways. **End Summary** Topics: anger management]]> divorce]]> stress reduction]]> relationships]]> psychology]]> dating]]> marriage]]> marriage counseling]]> panic attacks]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Watch upset melt away on The Anger Diet. Get award winning program by top psychologist at http://www.theangerdiet.com . Family, divorce and relationship mediator, and speaker, Dr Shoshanna has helped thousands discover strength and fulfillment..Subscribe to free ezine at http://www.brendashoshanna.com . Contact - topspeaker@yahoo.com. (212) 288-0028.

The Power of Thankfulness

Thu, 22 Nov 2007 00:00:00 -0500

There is one sure fire medicine which cures all pain and opens the way for your greater good. It allows you to sleep well at night, wake up refreshed and filled with enthusiasm for your daily tasks. This medicine is abundantly available, has no side effects and can be taken in large or small doses regularly. You need no one to prescribe it. The more you take, the sweeter it is. The medicine is the practice of thankfulness. Although there are endless cures for anxiety, one thing is impossible - to be upset and grateful at the same time. When we take thankfulness on as a practice, we see that gratitude is more than a fleeting feeling, it is a daily practice, a basic way of life. In fact, no matter what we are feeling, we can always perform deeds of thanks; actions that express our gratitude and awareness of the good we constantly receive. Actually, when we perform these actions, our feelings often turn themselves around. And as we constantly express our gratitude we become more and more aware of all we have to be grateful for. There are two important aspects of this practice; **End Summary** Topics: love]]> psychology]]> relationships]]> well-being]]> family]]> health]]> Zen]]> stress reduction]]> depression]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Discover The 2000 year old Zen secrets for being calm, balanced and positive, no matter what's going on in your life in Living By Zen, by Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, ' http://www.livingbyzen.com ' Dr. Shoshanna is a psychologist, speaker, long term Zen practitioner and teacher, relationship expert on http://www.ivillage.com and author of many books. Get her free ezine and articles at http://www.brendashoshanna.com ; contact her at topspeaker@yahoo.com.

Why Men Need Adventure In Relationships And How To Handle It

Wed, 07 Nov 2007 00:00:00 -0500

There are certain men who crave adventure in their relationships and also in their lives. This is the craving to be challenged, grow and become all they are capable of. For some the call comes in connection to work, sports or feats of daring; others hear it in relationship to women, who they see as their primary challenge. This need for adventure in relationship can manifest in various ways. Some men are drawn to disturbed and disturbing women. They find this exciting and stimulating, despite the difficulties that come along. Also, they can then use this as an excuse for not staying too long. This kind of relationship protects them from intimacy. It also protects them from having to focus upon themselves. Others crave relationships where the sexual chemistry is intense. "From the day I moved in it we were making love morning, noon and night,” John said. “I felt powerful and on the edge. But, when that started to wane, there was nothing else left. She was just an ordinary person and I was just an ordinary guy as well. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> psychology]]> male psychology]]> dating]]> divorce]]> separation]]> relationships]]> counseling]]> help]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Hear men tell you in their own words why they left and what is needed to make a relationship work. Top psychologist, speaker, divorce mediator, award wining author presents an eye-opening look at relationships in Why Men Leave, http://www.whymenleave.com . Contact her at mailto: mailto:topspeaker@yahoo.com . or http://www.brendashoshanna.com .

Steps To Breaking The Addiction To Anger

Sat, 03 Nov 2007 00:00:00 -0400

It is easy to become addicted. Habits provide a sense of certainty, security and stability in our lives. When we depend too much upon a habit for our sense of well being, it is easy for it to develop into an addiction. Addiction to anger is one of the most common and lethal addictions, and one most seldom recognized. The anger addict becomes hooked by the false sense of power anger brings. As the addiction grows, it consumes more and more of their lives, producing painful consequences. The best way to undo an addiction is to look it squarely in the face, see what triggers it, how it functions, the false promises it offers and the huge costs we pay. The next step is to undo the lack of awareness and false thoughts the keeps the addiction alive. As we begin to take charge, we regain power back over our lives. To begin to dissolve the addiction to anger, we must learn more about it. What function does it serve in our lives? What effect does it have? Functions of Addictions When we are in the grip of an addiction many troubling aspects of life are blocked out. **End Summary** Topics: anger management]]> stress reduction]]> divorce]]> divorce mediation]]> marriage]]> marriage counseling. love]]> psychology]]> relationships]]> help]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Watch stress melt away on award winning program The Anger Diet, (30 Days to Stress Free Living), http://www.theangerdiet.com . Dr. Shoshanna, top psychologist, relationship expert and certified family and divorce mediator has guided thousands to resolve difficulties and designe a blueprint for relationships which works for all.www.brendashoshanna.com , topspeaker@yahoo.com, 212-288-0028., http://www.creativedivorcemediation.blogspot.com

Surprising Reasons Why Men Leave Relationships (And How To Handle It)

Thu, 25 Oct 2007 00:00:00 -0400

After a relationship ends, whether it’s a 20 year marriage or a promising romance, women ask themselves over and over, what went wrong? They ask themselves, their girlfriends and their therapists. Sometimes they even spend weeks and months blaming themselves and become afraid to try again. Once they know what really happened, it’s always easier to move on. Below are some top reasons men leave and some guidelines on how to handle this. They’re Waiting For The Perfect Partner Some men have a secret fantasy which whispers that a perfect partner is somewhere, around the corner, waiting for him. This perfect partner will not only accept him as he is fully, but he’ll finally be able to express the parts of himself that are hidden. She’ll bring out the best in him. Rather than criticize and make demands, the perfect partner will give unconditionally and fulfill his every need. This fantasy should not be discounted, as it fuels much of this man's inner life. When a woman understands this fantasy fully, she has a secret for helping the man really thrive. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> psychology]]> men]]> relationships]]> dating]]> singles]]> divorce]]> separation]]> marriage]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Hear men tell you in their own words why they left and what makes a relationship really work, in top psychologists e-program Why Men Leave, http://www.whymenleave.com Award winning author, speaker, relationship expert, family and divorce mediator offers guidelines, information and exercises. Free ezine and articles at : http://www.brendashoshanna.com . topspeaker@yahoo.com

How To Stop Waiting For The Perfect Partner and Find Love Now

Tue, 16 Oct 2007 00:00:00 -0400

All have a dream of perfection, of the perfect mate who will understand their every need before they say it and match their inner image of woman/man at their best. This person is the perfect complement, able to bring out his best, free the person from inhibition; someone they will be proud to be seen with in the world.Some might say that this is really a search for the Holy Grail. Others might suggest that clinging to this image of perfection is a defense, preventing a real life person from being able to win the seeker's heart. The yearning for the perfect mate manifests itself differently, and has various consequences in a person's life. Some realize what they're feeling. Others are entirely unconscious of what is going on inside. I was looking for perfection," said Hans, "I would only go out with extraordinarily beautiful women - models, women like that. Then, when I met someone who seemed to fit the bill there was initial crush and a certain period when it kept up. Then she got on my nerves.I would suddenly start to realize little things that they weren't perfect; **End Summary** Topics: love]]> psychology]]> men]]> dating]]> sex]]> singles]]> marriage]]> loneliness]]> recovery]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Men tell in their own words why they left relationships, in winning e-book Why Men Leave. Build a relationship that really works. Download now at http://www.whymenleave.com . Top psychologist has helped thousands. Free ezine and articles http://www.brendashoshanna.com . topspeaker@yahoo.com

Why Anger Arises In The Family: And How To Let It Go

Wed, 03 Oct 2007 00:00:00 -0400

The family is the most common place for anger to erupt. It is also the place where the seeds of anger are sowed. When we live closely with others, when we are bonded to them, attached, dependent or vulnerable these individuals have the power to affect us deeply. In these relationships our expectations and demands greater. Images Of The Family We have strong images of how parents, siblings or children "should" behave. We feel we have the right to demand love and attention from those in the family. Parents have strong feelings that they have the right to loyalty and obedience, just because of their roles, (no matter how they treat their children). Children often feel the same. There is a common craving for a "happy family", where everyone loves and cares for each other, and where everyone accepts all of each other's difficulties. Unfortunately, this craving is often unfulfilled. For the most part the myth of a happy family is often a dream. Families are often hotbeds of misunderstandings, resentment, sibling rivalry, jealousy, inappropriate expectations and demands and lack of acceptance. **End Summary** Topics: anger management]]> psychology]]> stress reduction]]> anger]]> divorce]]> abusive relationships]]> domestic violence]]> custody]]> self help]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Watch stress and sickness melt away on The Anger Diet. Learn how to give up one form of anger a day and replace it with a healthy antidote in award winning book by top psychologist http://www.theangerdiet.com . Dr Shoshanna, speaker, relationship expert, has helped thousands discover the strength, fulfillment and well-being they"'re looking for. Subscribe to free ezine at http://www.brendashoshanna.com . Contact - topspeaker@yahoo.com. (212) 288-0028.

Fantasy Lovers: Who They Are And How To Handle Them

Thu, 20 Sep 2007 00:00:00 -0400

It can be much easier to fall in love with one's fantasy than with a flesh and blood person. For some, their major satisfaction comes through fantasy, even when they are with someone real. For others, that filmy shadow between fantasy and reality can be very hard to detect. Some men impose their fantasies upon real women, others refuse to have on-going contact with a woman in order to maintain her status as a fantasy lover, forever enshrined in their minds and hearts. Although men who prefer fantasy over reality seem to love women, the real women they encounter may forever be strangers to them. Some of the fantasy lovers are men who can't tolerate their own dependency on women because they experience it as emasculating. They therefore withdraw into fantasy. Some downgrade the woman to make her appear a lot less valuable than she really is to them. Others over-idealize women, and projects their strength and gifts onto them. Others use these fantasies as ways of compensating for anxiety or emptiness in their lives. For other fantasy lovers, so called "ordinary life" is fraught with activities and behaviors that are filled with conflict, boredom, or dread. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> dating]]> marriage]]> relationships]]> psychology]]> connect]]> sex]]> marriage counseling]]> divorce]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Men tell in their own words why they left relationships, what went wrong, in Dr Shoshanna"'s top e-book Why Men Leave. Well known psychologist has taught thousands how to choose the right partner and build a relationship that really works. Download now at http://www.whymenleave.com . Free ezine and articles at http://www.brendashoshanna.com . topspeaker@yahoo.com

5 Ways To Increase The Joy In Your Relationships

Fri, 07 Sep 2007 00:00:00 -0400

Usually we enter relationships hoping they will make us happy. We hope that this one is the right one, that we are not repeating mistakes of the past, and that finally we will receive the love, support and companionship we have been seeking. Although this approach to relationships is normal, it usually brings disappointment because happiness comes and goes. It has to, because happiness depends upon circumstances. When things go well, we are happy. When we get what we want, when the sun is shining, others value us, our boyfriend finally pops the question, these are moments of happiness. Joy is different. It doesn't come and go, or depend upon outer circumstances. When things are difficult, when our hopes are not fulfilled, it is still possible to feel joyful. Joy is a positive decision we have made about ourselves, and others. It involves taking responsibility for our lives and relationships. How much joy do you have in your love life? **End Summary** Topics: love]]> psychology]]> relationships]]> marriage]]> dating]]> divorce]]> separation]]> self help]]> marriage counseling]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Discover the surprising truths about love in top selling program Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws to Successful Relationships). Get copy at http://www.truthaboutlove.com , Psychologist and award winning author has helped thousands. Get free ezine and articles at http://www.brendashoshanna.com , topspeaker@yahoo.com.

How To Know If It's Time To Stay or Go In Your Relationship?

Mon, 03 Sep 2007 00:00:00 -0400

Many individuals spend a great deal of time in relationships wondering if the person is right for them, whether they should stay or go. This question can become so persistent that it interferes with being able to relax and allow the bond to grow. There are a number of different factors that cause individuals to doubt their relationships. Some say that although they love the person they do not know if they are loved back; others don't know if they're ready for commitment; some are concerned about qualities or behaviors they're uncomfortable with. Others remain in relationships hoping to change their partners, or from fear of being alone. In many cases individuals don't want to lose the time they've put in, can't face starting all over again. Many fear they always pick the wrong person. There are certain checkpoints we can utilize to see whether the relationship is right, whether we should stay or go. Checkpoints: Ask Yourself: 1) Am I counting on the fact that the person will change one day? It is always a mistake to stay in a relationship if it is based upon wanting the other person to change. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> men]]> psychology]]> relationships]]> divorce]]> self help]]> marriage]]> marriage counseling]]> dating]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Let men tell you in their own words why they leave relationships and what makes a relationship work for them in top selling program Why Men Leave http://www.whymenleave.com Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, psychologist, relationship expert, workshop leader and author of many books has helped thousands. Free ezine and articles at http:// http://www.brendashoshanna.com/ topspeaker@yahoo.com

Save Your Marriage (How To Deal With Threats To Your Marriage)

Thu, 23 Aug 2007 00:00:00 -0400

In every marriage there are times when the partners are tested and required to stop and re-define their relationship, to look and see what is going on, decide what it is they need from one another and what it is that they can or will provide. This is a process that one may have to go through many times during the course of a long relationship. In this article we will look at some of the basic dangers to a marriage, why they occur and ways of handling them. Handling Change Itself Before we deal with specific trouble spots, it is crucial to understand that the central factor which causes difficulty for many is change itself. Many do not realize that as time goes by people change, circumstances alter, (children are born, jobs change, family members may become ill or pass away, it may become necessary to move to another part of the country). New stresses appear and with them old, unfulfilled wishes may come to the surface. Parts of an individual that have not been expressed in the past may emerge and require expression now. This can be frightening when it happens. **End Summary** Topics: Marriage]]> Marriage Counseling]]> Divorce]]> Dating]]> psychology]]> love]]> relationships]]> singles]]> cheating]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Men tell in their own words why they left relationships, what went wrong, in Dr Shoshanna"'s top e-book Why Men Leave. Save your marriage and learn how to build a relationship that really works. Download now at http://www.whymenleave.com . Psychologist, award winning relationship expert and speaker has helped thousands. Free ezine and articles http://www.brendashoshanna.com . topspeaker@yahoo.com

How To Know If it's Really Love? (Finding the Real Thing)

Fri, 17 Aug 2007 00:00:00 -0400

"Something is always missing," Karla said. "In the beginning of the relationship, he always seems like the perfect one, finally. We're happy, excited, deeply in love, and then - reality sets in. I start wondering who he really is, and the thrill of seeing him disappears. I look at him and wonder what I loved, I don't feel beautiful anymore. The light has gone from my eyes." Of course the light can never leave Karla, but this experienced of disappointment has taken place because she was in the grip of counterfeit love. She didn't love her boyfriend, but the illusion she had about him. Most likely she knew little about him. She certain was not in touch with the part of him that was perfect, his true self. Upset, she talked about her disappointment to a friend. "I loved him so much," she said. "I thought he was so beautiful, so perfect. Now my dreams are smashed." The friend looked at her slowly. "You didn't love him at all," she said. "You loved your fantasies about him. If you can know the whole truth, and still love him, then that is really love. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> relationship]]> psychology]]> sex]]> marriage]]> divorce]]> dating]]> marriage counseling]]> self improvement]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Discover the surprising truths about love in top selling program Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws to Successful Relationships). Get copy at http://www.truthaboutlove.com , Psychologist and award winning author has helped thousands. Get free ezine and articles at http://www.brendashoshanna.com , topspeaker@yahoo.com.

How To Be Well Nourished In Your Relationship

Sat, 11 Aug 2007 00:00:00 -0400

It's delicious to feel well nourished in relationships. There's a yearning and hunger we bring to our partners for all kinds of food: warmth, kindness, appreciation, time spent together. However, when food is not forthcoming or not enough, some will do anything to get fed. Right from the moment we are born, we connect being fed with being loved. Many become fixated on one person, who they see as their sole source of well-being. The first thing to notice is the intense desire for receiving. This is the idea of the child - feed me and all will be well. We must be aware of all kinds of food, emotional, mental and spiritual that are needed in a complete relationship. It is necessary to stop a moment and recognize what we are consuming in a relationship, is it healthy, is it food our system can digest? We can eat all day, but if we do not taste and digest what we are eating, we will never receive the nourishment we need. Some spend all their time wanting to change their partners. "There's so much that's wonderful about him," they say, "but what I'm hungering for, I don't get. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> dating]]> relationships]]> marriage]]> singles]]> family]]> divorce]]> marriage counseling]]> meeting]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Discover the surprising truths about love in top selling program Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws to Successful Relationships). Get copy at http://www.truthaboutlove.com , Psychologist and award winning author has helped thousands. Get free ezine and articles at http://www.brendashoshanna.com , topspeaker@yahoo.com.

Why Men Are Afraid of Commitment (And How To Help)

Tue, 31 Jul 2007 00:00:00 -0400

Freedom means different things for different men. For some, the main joy of relationships is challenge. They happily pursue a woman as long as they don't have her, but once they do, they start feeling trapped. These men feel as if excitement and new possibilities are now cut off. Once commitment is in the picture these men feel as though they are trapped and imprisoned. They often say that once a woman has him, he'll be putty in her hands. In the end he feels he will lose his sense of masculinity. For them it's all a power game. The one who's strong is the one who needs less. The power is in not needing. These men need to be in control to feel their power. It's no wonder that men like these cannot stay with one woman long. Sooner or later feelings of dependency start to grow. At this point, these men take to the hills. No matter how strong they think they are, their loneliness and frustration only intensify each time they run. Other men start to feel used when time comes for commitment. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> dating]]> relationships]]> psychology]]> male psychology]]> marriage counseling]]> divorce]]> stress reduction]]> mental health]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Men tell in their own words why they left relationships, what went wrong, in Dr Shoshanna"'s top e-book Why Men Leave. The problems often had nothing to do with the woman. Learn how to choose the right partner and build a relationship that really works. Download now at http://www.whymenleave.com . Psychologist, award winning relationship expert and speaker has helped thousands. Free ezine and articles http://www.brendashoshanna.com . topspeaker@yahoo.com

Zen Steps to Calming Down Easily

Wed, 18 Jul 2007 00:00:00 -0400

It's easy to calm down quickly. No matter what is happening around us, we never have to become trapped in stress or anxiety. It's important to learn how to calm down quickly this as negative emotions can easily become addictive. The longer we hold onto them, the harder it can be to let go. Zen offers many pathways to becoming free of negativity. This article is based upon Zen principles and value-centered counseling. It offers enjoyable and effective steps to calming down, feeling good about yourself and finding that peaceful place in the storm. Open The Treasure House Within In Zen students are told: "Open the treasure house within." This is a reminder that we are all are endowed with many resources hidden within. In order to access our innate abilities, we must stop looking everywhere else and forget about depending upon others. Instead, we are told to spend time each day taking responsibility for what's going on inside. We turn our attention within, discover who we truly are and stop rejecting ourselves and others. As we do this, we are beginning to open the treasure house within. Pay Attention We are what we think about. **End Summary** Topics: Zen]]> stress reduction]]> divorce]]> recovery]]> health]]> religion]]> ]]> self help]]> yoga]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Discover The 2000 year old Zen secrets for being calm, balanced and positive, no matter what"'s going on in your life in Living By Zen, by Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, "Ë http://www.livingbyzen.com "' Psychologist, long term Zen practitioner and founder of Value-Centered Counseling has helped thousands. Well known speaker, and award winning author of many books including. Get free ezine and articles at http://www.brendashoshanna.com . - Topspeaker@yahoo.com

The Greatest Gift - What is It?

Mon, 09 Jul 2007 00:00:00 -0400

The greatest gift we can give one another in a relationship is our true selves being who we are. For some this is not difficult, but for most it takes practice to take off the masks and become real. At first it can seem frightening to stop playing games, and just be. However, much of the trouble that arises in relationships is because we are unwilling to do this. We think the games we play protect us, though they are actually the cause of the problems we have. Our need for real contact is so strong that when it is not there, our partner can easily feel lonely, rejected or as though they don't matter much. There are all kinds of ways we keep the games going. Instead of finding out who our partner truly is, or what they really need from us, when something happens we don't like, we rush to label them. They become an object to us, a stranger, or opponent in some way. Before we give them a chance to reveal themselves, we throw them away. In this way we constantly separate ourselves from one another and then wonder why we feel so alone. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> relationships]]> marriage]]> dating]]> psychology]]> romance]]> divorce]]> family]]> separation]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Discover the surprising truths about love that will save your relationship, in Dr. Shoshanna"'s top e-book Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships). http://www.truthaboutlove.com . Psychologist, relationship expert, speaker, and noted author has helped thousands become stable, strong and fulfilled. Get free ezine and reports at http://www.brendashoshanna.com . Contact at : topspeaker@yahoo.com

The Secrets To Healing From Within

Thu, 21 Jun 2007 00:00:00 -0400

Modern medicine is based upon the notion of battle. We battle germs and fight for life. As soon as we feel pain or discomfort, we immediately try to stop it from happening, look for some way to soothe what we are going through. We feel we must change our illness or problems, overpower them with our expertise. But this leads to a never ending battle, after one problem is conquered, another arises. Healing from within brings inner peace with it. It arises in a different way. We are taught to stop, pay attention and respect all that comes to us. We do not view pain as bad, as something that must be removed at any cost. Pain arises from lack of balance and brings many messages along with it. When we see our pain as a messenger and learn how to listen to it, healing begins in all kinds of ways. The first step in healing from within is to see pain as an ally, to learn how to "dialogue" with it. At first this requires a complete turn around. **End Summary** Topics: health]]> illness]]> death]]> recovery]]> healing]]> cancer]]> hope]]> cure]]> cures]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Receive psychological, spiritual and practical guidance in award winning program, Journey Through Illness and Beyond. http://www.journeythroughillness.com Top psychologist provides information, guidelines and exercises which turn a time of illness into one of growth and opportunity. Dr. Shoshanna has presented over 500 workshops on all aspects of relationships, personal development, loss and change. Free ezine and articles at http://www.brendashoshanna.com . topspeaker@yahoo.com

How To Break The Addiction To Anger

Wed, 13 Jun 2007 00:00:00 -0400

Addiction to anger is one of the most common and lethal addictions, and one most seldom recognized. The anger addict becomes hooked by the false sense of power anger brings. As the addiction grows, it consumes more and more of their lives, producing painful consequences. It is easy to become addicted. We are all creatures of habit. Habits provide a sense of certainty, security and stability in our lives. When they are disrupted our sense of well being becomes easily threatened. However, when we depend upon a habit for our sense of well being, it is easy for it to develop into an addiction. The best way to undo an addiction is to look it squarely in the face, see what triggers it, how it functions become aware of the false promises it offers and the huge costs we pay. Then we replace old behaviors with new ones that are easy and enjoyable. As we dissolve an addiction we regain power back over our lives. To begin to dissolve the addiction to anger, we will start by becoming aware. What is the source of this addiction? What function does it serve? **End Summary** Topics: anger]]> anger management]]> stress]]> stress reduction]]> domestic violence]]> divorce]]> abusive relationships]]> psychology]]> dating]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Watch stress and sickness melt away on The Anger Diet. Top psychologist , speaker, relationship expert presents award winning program which has helped thousands become strong and stable. Go to: http://www.theangerdiet.com . For free ezine and articles go to: http://www.brendashoshanna.com . Contact - topspeaker@yahoo.com. (212) 288-0028.

How Love Grows (Practical Steps To Keeping Love Alive)

Thu, 07 Jun 2007 00:00:00 -0400

We are meant to live a life of love. However, no matter how successful some are in other aspects of their lives, they don't feel it's possible to have the same success in love. They tell themselves to "be realistic." But being in love is the most mature and realistic thing you can do. The real question is, how can we learn to help love grow in all aspects of our lives? Here are some steppingstones will show how to help love grow. The One Right Besides You Most of the time we are either searching for the right person or wanting to change the one we are with. We do not take a precious moment to stop and truly see the one who is right in front of our eyes. Look at a person who is close to you right now anyone it happens to be. Notice what you are demanding of them in order to be happy together. Then notice the ways in which you push them away. For a moment, stop it. Spend time just being together. Allow things to go whatever way they do. Let all of it be fine just as it is. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> relationships]]> happiness]]> dating]]> romance]]> sex]]> marriage]]> divorce]]> stop your divorce]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Discover the surprising truths about love that will save your relationship, in Dr. Shoshanna"'s top e-book Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships). http://www.truthaboutlove.com . Psychologist, relationship expert, speaker, and noted author has helped thousands become stable, fulfilled and strong. Get free ezine and reports at http://www.brendashoshanna.com . Contact at : topspeaker@yahoo.com

Vital Secrets To Healthy Workplace Relationships

Mon, 28 May 2007 00:00:00 -0400

We all want to know the secrets of building healthy workplace relationships. Relationships are a powerful factor contributing to our success. Yet so many become involved in negative situations at the workplace which drain their energy, enthusiasm and success. Relationship balancing shows how to turn all this around. Relationship Balancing: What Is It? Relationship Balancing is the natural flow of energy, support and enthusiasm that develops between individuals who are interacting positively. When this flow is balanced individuals become able to fully tap their potential, inner resources become available and work proceeds optimally. When this flow is blocked an energy drain occurs, resentment develops and success is impeded on many levels. Are Your Relationships In Balance? To start the process of relationship balancing take a close you at your workplace relationships. At times of pressure or during difficulties most individuals "react" automatically to those they are working with. Automatic "reactions" are one of the greatest obstacles to positive energy flow. A response as opposed to a reaction is a thoughtful, measured constructive response to what is going on. It is driven by goals and values, not by automatic impulses. **End Summary** Topics: stress reduction]]> workplace]]> business]]> communcation]]> success]]> office]]> relationships]]> psychology]]> human resources]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Discover how to release workplace tension and create healthy, balanced office relationships. Noted psychologist and award winning author has conducted over 500 workshops. She has helped thousands become strong, stable and successful. Author of The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living). Contact at: topspeaker@yahoo.com, http://www.brendashoshanna.com , (212) 288-0028

Six Quick Steps To Releasing Anger And Feeling Good Again

Sun, 20 May 2007 00:00:00 -0400

Anger is a lethal force that undermines our lives in all kinds of ways. Sometimes it erupts openly and other times it camouflages itself and covertly undermines your life. Some experience anger as strength and power. They feel it is necessary in order to maintain control. Others assume they have the right to express anger. These are some of the lies anger tells us. In fact, when we are angry we are out of control and our ability to respond wisely is diminished. It's time to look at anger in a new way and understand what it really is. Then we can take new steps that help us of anger, make us feel better, and see clearly what to do. Step 1: Realize that anger is a choice you make Anger is not a form of power, strength, or control. It is a toxin, which sometimes provides a temporary high. After this high subsides, the individual is left weaker and more uncertain than before. Not only that, the negative consequences of our outburst have to be handled. Basically anger narrows our focus, creates confusion and limits our ability to find constructive solutions. **End Summary** Topics: anger]]> stress management]]> anger management]]> recovery]]> mental health]]> relationships]]> psychology]]> domestic violence]]> abuse]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Watch stress melt away on award winning book, The Anger Diet. http://www.theangerdiet.com . Dr Shoshanna, speaker, relationship expert, has helped thousands discover the strength, fulfillment and well-being they"'re looking for. Subscribe to free ezine at http://www.brendashoshanna.com . Contact - topspeaker@yahoo.com. (212) 288-0028.

Learn How It's Impossible To Fail At Love

Fri, 11 May 2007 00:00:00 -0400

Usually relationships start out wonderfully. Everyone feels that finally they've found the "one". Then as time passes, as problems come up and old patterns start re-appearing, they begin wondering where has the love gone. Even when each person is trying as hard as they can, unexpected obstacles often arise that cannot be overcome. Many feel lost when this happens. They do not know what went wrong, how to correct misunderstandings or what to do to make things right again. . When a relationship ends, many feel like a failure, like they won't find someone new, or be able to love again. However, stop a moment and consider. We would never try to build a building without first getting an architect's plan. Without a strong foundation, any passing storm would easily knock the building down. The same is true of relationships. Yet, so many jump into relationships wanting to fly to the heights without having any understanding of how to build a foundation that will allow their love to stand tall and strong. It seems to them that love is a mystery. They mistake all kinds of emotions, needs and fantasies for the real thing. **End Summary** Topics: love]]> relationships]]> marriage]]> dating]]> sex]]> romance]]> self help]]> recovery]]> marriage counseling]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Discover the surprising truths about love that will save your relationship, by working with the unique program in Dr. Shoshanna"'s new e-book Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships). http://www.truthaboutlove.com . Noted psychologist, relationship expert has helped thousands to be stable and strong. Free ezine available at http://www.brendashoshanna.com . -Contact at: topspeaker@yahoo.com

How To Feed The Hungry Heart

Mon, 30 Apr 2007 00:00:00 -0400

Most of us live our lives hungry, hungry for love, attention, praise, success. But no matter how much we take in, it's hard to be satisfied and feel full. We may get what we need momentarily, but then before long we're craving more. It is easy to spend each day waiting for tomorrow when we will get what we dream of. Most think that tomorrow they will arrive at their goal, find a new job, have good weather, or finally, magically, meet the love of their life. But when tomorrow comes it's another day, just like this one. Unless we know what this day is, and how to live it fully and truly, the fulfillment we dream of never comes. In Zen this is called being a hungry ghost- someone at a banquet who eats and eats, but is still unable to taste the food, feel full or be nourished by it. The good news is that we can learn to eat, digest and be nourished by all that comes to us. Zen practice is about stopping the merry go round of our minds and heart. **End Summary** Topics: stress reduction]]> Zen]]> happiness]]> recovery]]> addiction]]> compulsion]]> divorce]]> cravings]]> relationships]]> ]]> About the Author: ]]> Discover The 2000 year old Zen secrets for being calm, balanced and positive, no matter what"'s going on in your life in noted psychologist"'s eprogram Living By Zen, "Ë http://www.livingbyzen.com . It has helped thousands. Contact her at topspeaker@yahoo.com or http://www.brendashoshanna.com .