People mostly speak just about the negative aspects of a divorce such as how it affects a person's financial and emotional well-being, etc. However, even in the research carried out in this direction, we could notice that although a major chunk of people are affected by divorce, there is still a small but significant group rejoicing in their new-found freedom.
I know of a couple who are unable to stand even the presence of one another, yet remaining married for the sake of money or children. However, their lives have become a struggle and their homes have turned into a battlefield. If divorce is your only solace from these innumerable quarrels and miserable marriage, is it not better to choose divorce and move on with their lives instead of staying together and making everyone's life in the family miserable?
Alone yet Not Lonely
There are a few who act bravely and make a wise decision. And, nevertheless, they have lot of reasons to celebrate their divorce. Here are a few reasons that make them happily divorced' rather than staying acrimoniously married'.
- Reinventing Oneself: There are people who pursue their dreams after their divorce. I once had a friend who was married for 15 years. She dedicated all her time to her husband and children and seldom did things that interested her. One day when she learned about her husband's affair her world fell apart. She suddenly realised how she had lived all her life for others forgetting about her wants and desires. She immediately filed for a divorce and started to indulge in her favourite pastime writing. Today, she is a successful and famous writer in the country. She feels that she has made a wise decision in getting a divorce and that is the main reason behind her success today.
- Career Growth: Unhappy family affects the career of both men and women alike. Tim was a colleague in my previous office. He was an ambitious and enthusiastic young man who put in a lot of hard work. He rapidly moved up the corporate ladder and was expecting his promotion in a few months.
- Suddenly, his whole attitude changed and he seemed very withdrawn. Soon his performance began to take a plunge. He messed up with an important assignment and the company lost one of its valuable clients. He was fired. Only later we learnt that his declining performance was a result of the unhappy life he was having at home. It would have been far better if he had decided to divorce his wife and move on with his life.
- What your Children Say?: There is a general belief that children of divorced parents go through serious mental agony and end up being criminals. However, a survey conducted across of the country, showed that most of the children were able to cope with divorce better than having to live with the couple who fought and yelled at each other every day. When through effective co-parenting you can help the children overcome the pain of divorce, there is no medicine to heal the pain caused by everyday squabbles between the parents. So it is better to stay alone and happy rather than staying together and making life miserable.
- Trivia: Sometimes even trivial things can make you feel wonderful. Laura who was recently divorced feels that she had no reason to regret. In fact, she feels wonderful about being able to do things that she missed during her marriage to John. Now she can go to her favourite restaurant that John did not like, hang out with friends on a Friday night and pamper herself the way she likes.
While they have every reason to rejoice and celebrate, they are just bothered about the image that the media is projecting about the divorcees. A happily divorced person, Casey says that she had made a mistake by choosing a wrong partner. She wonders why people like her should not be given a second chance instead of suffering all their lives with the wrong partner. I think that sounds fair enough. What do your think?
