Steps To Getting Over A Break Up Quickly And Beating The Hurt

Getting over a break up takes both courage and commonsense. When you combine the two together the process can be much less painful than if you decide to hang onto false hope that your ex will magically change their mind and take you back.

This is especially important for people who are part of a one-sided split - that is, they were dumped out of a relationship but still very much in love. Too many people foolishly extend their painful grieving process by hanging on to hope when there is none. We know this sounds harsh and it's meant too.

This article is not going to sugar-coat the situation especially if you have tried everything possible to get your ex back. Now is the time for the commonsense factor to be applied. The sooner you train yourself to move on the sooner you will invite better things into your life and more importantly, someone else.

There are stages of the grief process which occur for everyone getting over a break up. We have highlighted some powerful steps you could apply which are designed to speed up this process and while the hurt may still be there, it should subside much quicker than if you persist in hanging onto false hope.

Write Yourself A Letter

Pour out your heart in a letter. Don't leave anything out including the best and worst times you spent together, why you loved them and even let them know how you feel about them now. Name calling is definitely allowed.

Don't worry about what you write because this letter is for you eyes only and will never see the light of day. Once you've finished, read it and then burn it. This method helps you release a lot of pent up emotion while the burning ritual defines the end of the relationship.

Exchange anything with your ex that they may have and you may still have. Organize to meet and return each others stuff. Any other stuff you have that was given to you by your ex should be turfed out. Do not hang onto it. This will only continually remind you of them. If it's something expensive then pawn it or if you can, give it away. Also, get rid of any photos you have that will serve as a constant reminder of your past relationship.

Close Out Any Joint Ventures

You need to sort out any financial affairs you and you ex are involved in together. This includes any money owed or any tangible stuff you own together or bank accounts in joint names. This is an important part of the closing ceremony. It's extremely important.

Once this is completed, cut any contact with each other for a minimum of thirty days. Phone calls, email and text messages are included in this. Even agree to avoid favorite hangouts where you are likely to run into each other.

If possible, to get over this period take a vacation, start a new hobby or anything that will get your mind thinking in other directions. This will be hard but getting over a break up requires plenty of courage on your part to make the tough decisions and when it's official that there's no chance of a reconciliation, the sooner it's done the better.