WILL SHE GO OUT WITH YOU ON A DATE? Men hate it when women reject them. There's nothing worse than having your ego smashed to little pieces when the woman of your dreams turns you down for a date. From the male point of view, women are often far too subtle and indirect (or just plain confusing) when revealing their romantic interest. And yes, women often send mixed messages because they're not sure of what's going on inside their own heads.Here are a few signs that should tell you that she probably wants you to ask her out.
She's always around
Suddenly, you'll become aware of her presence everywhere. She "just happens" to show up wherever you hang out; you keep passing her in the hallway at work; she "accidentally" bumps into you; she maneuvers to stand close to you at a club.What she's doing is trying to get you to notice her and giving you an opportunity to make the first move. The problem with this female strategy is that a lot of guys are completely oblivious to it and consequently throw away a lot of chances to hook up. Men are direct; women are indirect. So, next time a woman starts appearing regularly in your path, be aware that she's likely doing it on purpose.
She has all the right moves
They say that the body can't lie. Nature has programmed humans with a complex set of non-verbal flirting signals that just flow freely when people are interested in someone. These range from the widening of the iris when looking at the object of desire to more overt displays such as smiling or touching.Here are a few body-language cues to watch out for:
- She points in your direction with her leg, foot or shoulders.
- She leans toward you while talking.
- She plays with or tosses her hair.
- She fidgets with a piece of jewelry (like an earring) or strokes the stem of her glass.
- She keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks.
- She mirrors your body movements (for example, if you put your hand on the table, she quickly does the same).
- She smiles when you check her out.
She's never too busy
This is a cardinal rule in the dating game: if a woman is interested in going out with you, she will make herself available. This means that she will give you her work number or e-mail address, she will quickly answer or return your call and she will accept your invitation to get together; and if she's busy on the day you specify, she will propose another day.You'll never hear from an interested woman things like, "I'm really busy right now," or "Let me check my schedule," or "I just got out of a bad relationship, so I'm all mixed up about men." Even if she's currently actively dating someone else, she will keep the lines of communication open with you for the possibility of future contact.
She's curious about you
A woman who's interested in you wants to know everything about you (so she can talk about you with her girlfriends). She will ask you about your family, your background and your tastes in such things as food, music and movies. Very often, what she's doing is trying to catalogue your interests so that she can mimic your likes and dislikes in order to bond with you. If you're crazy about hot air ballooning, suddenly, she is too.
She "investigates" you
She asks what seem like a series of casual questions, but behind them is a ruthless calculator that's ticking away. When a woman first meets a man that she might be interested in dating, she will quiz him on his job, where he lives and what kind of car he drives, all within the confines of a natural conversation. If you give the "right" answers, then the flirting signals will follow; but if you aren't up to her "standards," she's gone in a cloud of dust.
She "futures" you
An interested woman is wide open for any future plans with you. In fact, she will often say something like, "Oh... you like bowling, too? We should do that some time." When she's operating in this mode, make no mistake about it, she wants you to ask her out.
She's on pins and needles
If she's really interested, she'll be nervous around you, especially if you're clueless about reading her signals. Of course, she could be just a normally shy person, so watch how she interacts with others; if she's only fidgety around you, then she's probably thinking romance.
She's jealous of other women you talk to
An interested woman will watch her competition like a hawk (and with talons bared). So, if you notice her steaming just because you're joking around with other women, you can be sure that she wants you to be more than just her friend. It's time to make your move. These are some of the most obvious signals women emit when they want you. But be on your toes -- spotting just one of these signs might not necessarily be enough to determine her interest (a lot of women are openly friendly to everyone). However, if a lot of these signals are coming your way, it's a pretty safe bet that you could score a date this weekend.
YOU'RE ON THE DATE. WILL IT BE A LUCKY NIGHT?
Once you're on the date, one of the most complicated things is knowing whether or not she is actually interested in you, especially since it's easy to misinterpret a mere act of kindness as romantic or sexual interest. How do you know when an intimate conversation with someone you just met at a nightclub can potentially become a one-night stand? If you're interested in statistics, here are some numbers. In a recent on-line survey, Dateable.com asked women a series of questions on dating and what it takes for men to "get lucky".The first question was: how long does it take for you to get comfortable enough to have your first kiss? 47.5% answered within the first two dates. The other respondents said that it "depends on the person."Second question: "What does it take for women to go further?" Almost 30% say they are willing to "sleep with a man on the first date" and 41% say they are willing to go all the way the second time around. The remaining say they would wait at least "a couple of months" before they slept with a man.Surprisingly, sense of humor ranked as the number one determinant in getting lucky within the first few dates (38%). Financial success ranked second (26%). And physical came in third position (20%). A variety of other answers from "scent of a person, cleanliness and good breath" came in at 16%.Truthfully, there are no surefire signs you'll get lucky at the end of a date, but there are a few behavioral clues to look out for. Some are obviously the same we talked about before.
She makes eye contact, touches her hairTouching and caressing her hair and maintaining prolonged eye contact (i.e., longer than five seconds) with you during your conversation shows that she likes what she sees and isn't afraid to explore it further.
She buys you a drink
If she offers to buy you a drink, it is a clear indication that she is confident and goes after what she wants. It is also an invitation to join her, and potentially keep her company for the remainder of the evening.
She touches you
Body language is the key to knowing whether or not a woman is into you. If she touches you affectionately on the arm or leg in the midst of conversation, chances are that she'd like to take that touching to a more intimate place later on.
She lets you touch her
If she's touching you, take that as an invite to return the favor. By allowing you to touch her affectionately or not shying away from any accidental touches to her hand or leg, she's showing you that she's comfortable with you and attracted to you. These are two probable signs you'll get lucky by the end of the night.
She compliments you
Women aren't the only ones who enjoy compliments; men like their egos fed too -- a trick most women know. So, if she's going on a complimenting rampage about your physical appearance or the smell of your cologne, you can take that as a sign that you'll probably get some kind of action by closing time.
She leans in
When talking to someone they're not interested in, both men and women ensure to maintain their personal space so the other person doesn't get the wrong idea. So, if your woman of interest leans in while talking to you, you can interpret it as a clear sign that she is comfortable sharing her personal space with you, and probably wouldn't mind sharing her private space with you too.
She shares private details
A woman won't open up to just anyone; she needs to feel comfortable and safe with the person she divulges personal information to. So, if you find yourself engaging in a conversation in which she's sharing personal or emotional information, read it as an act of being open to receiving physical consolation from you.
She starts talking dirty
No sign you'll get lucky can be more clear than this one. If she starts engaging in a sexual conversation with you -- she tells you what she likes, she asks you what you like, she tells you about past experiences, etc. -- you can be sure that she's flirting with you in the hopes of taking your relationship to the next level.
She shows you her tattoo
Some things are only meant for certain eyes to see, especially when it comes to private features on intimate body parts, like a tattoo on her lower back or a birthmark on her breast. If she raises her shirt to show you anything of the sort, she's giving you a glimpse of what you could have later on if you make a move.
She splits a taxi with you
If, by the end of the night, you still haven't worked up the courage to ask her to your place, she may leave at the same time as you or even go so far as to offer to split a cab ride with you. Consider this your last chance to get lucky for the night.
There is no scientific formula to help predict how your evening will end. But if you take the time to be aware of these small signs, you can be sure that your success rate for "scoring" with women will increase significantly.
