Signs Of Cheating Husband

Your intuition nags at you, telling you somethings wrong. You find unexplained charges on your Visa bill of jewelry or gifts hidden away that vanish but are never given to you.

Are these signs that hes being unfaithful to you?

While you know it in your heart, your mind needs convincing to accept or confront it. To be honest, youve probably already gathered enough evidence on your own, using your own intuition or common sense, that, deep inside, you know the awful truth.

What youre hoping now is that someone will help you dismiss what you know so you can stay, or prove youre right, so you can file.
If you do prove hes being a cad, youll have some decisions to make.

Divorce, counseling or reconciliation (forgive and take him back, no matter the emotional cost) are all painful, no-win situations. There is no happy ending here, except to learn that youve been misreading things and your marriage is intact and as secure as ever.

Even lack of action is making a choice. Ignoring the problem really is one option, or pulling out all the stops to try and win him back if staying in your marriage is that important to you.

But you have come here because you need something, so here are some pretty substantial red flags that the man you love is stepping out on you.

Emotional intimacy vanishes, or is replaced by phony over-attentiveness

Stops calling you at lunch or calls more than usual.

Sudden, unexplained (guilty) gift giving

Sudden sharing of interests and activities he didnt use to do with you (guilt)

Secrecy and territoriality (of his briefcase, mail etc.)

He no longer wants sex or suddenly wants it more and wilder/differently

Unexplained absences

Lies

Mysterious charges on your Master Card

Overnight bag packed and stashed and ready under the bed, in the closet or in the trunk of his car

Suspicious calls or behavior regarding calls, hushed low voice, defensiveness, hanging up when you walk in.

Picking fights

New email or cell accounts

Renewed interest in his personal appearance, new cologne

New favorite show, music, hobby, hang-out, food

Unexplained birth control devices youre not using (i.e. condoms if youve had a hysterectomy, for instance)

More frequent, longer or oddly-timed shopping trips

Withdrawal from your family life

Getting an STD

Sudden, open dissatisfaction with your looks/dress/cooking/housecleaning/sexual style, etc.

Preoccupied/distant

Change in alcohol consumption

Lots of late hours at the office with no increase in take-home pay

Eagerness to embark on business trips, especially when he used to hate to leave you

Time spent carefully evaluating a gift item that seems out of the ordinary or doesnt make sense and that never appears under your tree.

Doesnt show up for or bring presents on special occasions/holidays

Had enough?

It hurts. Im sorry. But you already know, deep inside. We all try to fool ourselves when the evidence we see is just too painful to face, but that doesnt change the facts.

If you think hes cheating on you, more than likely he is, and fooling yourself by denying it or turning it into a game of skullduggery only serves to prolong the pain, divert your attention or stall the inevitable.

Conclusion

Youll need to take the tough road and face this head on. That doesnt mean an ugly confrontation; perhaps a professional can help get the two of talking constructively.

But dont stick your head in the sand unless the sanctity of your marriage isnt a priority in your life. Your love and trust is too important to throw away, and many marriages can be saved through counseling.