Self-nurture: What It Means And Why No One Else Can Do It For You

Everyone loves a little indulgence every now and again... Is there anything better than a warm bath with dimmed lights and great soft music; a gently rhythmic, luxurious facial; a glorious hand and foot massage; a superbly moisturising body scrub... Oh heaven, just thinking about it all makes me question: Why don't we just indulge more often?

The most excellent type of indulgence. The kind that make us happier and healthier and more vibrant in our lives? Isn't it sad that most often when people think about indulgence, they think of excess - and mostly of the type really does not support us in living our healthiest and most vibrant lives?

What if we changed that concept for ourselves? What if instead we planned to connect more with the parts of ourselves that we so often seek to drown because we just don't have time to 'deal' with them? Part of improving the quality of our lives is learning how to connect - with ourselves and others. In order to do this we need to learn how to acknowledge and validate ourselves.

Mastering this lesson brings peace of sprit, which quietens the 'busy-ness' of our hearts and minds.

How would it change the quality of your life, if you connected more with yourself; your sister or brother; mother, father, friend, husband or wife, daughter or son? How would it make you feel to share more, live more, laugh more?

These are the questions we need to be asking ourselves because it is so easy to get lost in the buzz we create in our lives. It's so easy to 'steam roll' through our daily experiences just to "get things done". We do this so often that even when it comes time to have fun, we have trouble embracing the notion and get lost for what 'to do'.

When did we start focusing so much on our 'outcomes' that we've stopped enjoying the journey? How did we learn to rush so much that we forgot what makes us feel truly alive? And when did we stop taking responsibility for our choices and started blaming everyone and everything else for 'making us' so unhappy?

But herein lies the key... You see, we've learnt, so often, to blame and justify that we forgot the power we have to change our own lives; and that this influence, lies in the command only we have in changing ourselves. We often underestimate the inborn knowledge that we have of this supreme fact: For things outside of ourselves to change - first WE must change. And at those times when we inevitably feel we are being neglected in certain aspects of our lives - the same principle applies: first we must give and nurture ourselves... before other people can learn "how to".

So when was the last time you really nurtured yourself? When was the last time you took a moment to look in the mirror and say to yourself: "You know, I really love and accept you, just as you are..."? And really meant it?

Now if you find that hard to do... you may find it easier to becoming open to the possibility - of truly loving and accepting yourself first and that's ok too. The more you keep saying it to yourself that you are really open to this possibility, the more you believe it and soon this becomes your truth. Keep saying it to yourself and focus on just liking yourself that little bit more each day - this is the true gift of self nurture. Enjoy!

P.S. Be truly inspired by the power of your self-talk and positive visualisation. It can really change - EVERYTHING! (if you will let it).

Copyright (c) 2009 Gabriela Rosa and Natural Fertility & Health Solutions P/L.