Relationships Breaking Up And The Magic Of Making Up

In the beginning, when you are first in love, the rush of joy and happiness is like a drug, bringing lovely feelings of bliss. Our consciousness feels expanded almost to the point of ecstasy! Well, perhaps that's just a little dramatic, but if you've ever been in love you definitely understand. Most of us will go to any length to keep that wonderful state of being because we live for love and when a relationship breaks up it can be the most painful and gut wrenching experience imaginable.

The feelings of loss, grief, sadness and longing that come from love breaking up can be overwhelming! It is a road most of us have walked at least once and hope to never walk again so if you are walking that road right now, allow just this little sliver of light in. Relationships can be healed! People can be reunited. Love can grow again. It happens every day and it's not about "tricking" your beloved into loving you again, using deceit, or hypnotizing them back into your life. That would be unethical and is unnecessary. It really has more to do with you, and what you are going to learn from this experience of loss and rejection. You may find in the end that it took the break up to bring you to a place of being a better partner and even the person you were meant to be.

So where does it start? What do you need to do if your marriage is breaking up? How do you need to do it? First, calm yourself and recognize any desperate, needy, jealous or frightened feelings that you are having and then begin to let them go. Then formulate your plan of action while your relationship is taking a break and know that through this process you are becoming the person that your beloved saw in you when you first fell in love. That is why love can be rekindled! Love does not die, but people become hurt, disappointed and disillusioned and then it seems that love has died.

If you are willing to learn and grow, you will be well on the way to returning to your love. Relationships breaking up are painful, but there are techniques, and behaviors that you can learn that will help you rescue your relationship or your marriage. Have no doubt about it, to heal and repair a relationship takes doing, not avoiding, so take action and you may very well find that it isn't too late. Be willing to see your part in the break up and you may be surprised how forgiving people can be. In relationships, divorce and separation happen, but it doesn't always have to be final! Follow your heart!