Quilting, A Coming Of Age For Young Men And Women

It's a sad commentary on today's society just how much we take for granted, and how much we assume that the way things are is the way they've always been.

Our lifestyle today finds us purchasing a wedding gift at a local store; many people lack the time and the patience to be able to craft a meaningful gift with their own hands. While those who do so are certainly cherished for their gifts and their commitment, more often than not really involved craft projects such as quilt making are considered the purview of women who have retired and whose children have grown up. While this demographic makes up an incredibly important segment of the quilting community, too often others who enjoy the process are looked over. Worse still, many people believe that this stereotype is typical of the historical quilter.

In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. Not too long ago, quilting was considered to be an important endeavor not only for those who practiced it, but among communities in general. Creating a quilt was a skill that was attained through years of practice, and although most had the skills to create a basic design, not everyone was truly a master. Moreover, quilting was an important activity for women of all ages, and many men also recognized the value of a quilt. Quilts were commonly used to mark the coming of age of both boys and girls, as evidenced in the idea of the Bride's Quilt and the Freedom Quilt.

The Bride's Quilt

Back in an age where many girls still brought a dowry to their weddings, quilts were an important inclusion in any hope chest. In fact, there was a certain number of quilts that needed to be included in any hope chest, ranging from ten to thirteen, according to American Patchwork Quilts by Lenice Ingram Bacon. The most important of these quilts was that made by the bride, according to her design and by her own hands.

The Bride's Quilt was to be used as the covering on the matrimonial bed. So a tradition of an engaged couple was to design a pattern for the quilt that would one day cover their marital bed. It is clear from this endeavor that men had an active role if not in the creation of the family quilt, then in the decision making process that guided it. This may come as a surprise to many in today's world of "his" and "hers"! Bride's quilts came in several patterns, the most common using heart motifs. The later 1800's brought, through the influece (and impracticality) of Queen Victoria, a leaning toward white for weddings!), white bridal quilts also gained a lot of popularity, according to Jean Noon, writing for UltimateWedding.com.

The Freedom Quilt

If the role of a man in the Bride's Quilt comes as a surprise, you might be even more shocked to learn of the concept of the Freedom Quilt. While today's historians consider the pre-industrial male to be something of a free person by right of gender, the fact is that many men lived in servitude to their parents until they came of age. On his 21st birthday, a boy was a man in the eyes of the law and thus was truly free to make his own way and to keep his own money. One way in which the celebration was marked was through the creation of the Freedom Quilt. This quilt was usually made by family or friends, especially the young man's mother, and carried heavy symbolic significance. In one spectacular case mentioned in Mrs. Bacon's book, the man's quilt was made entirely of squares stitched by swooning and hopeful young ladies.

Like the Bride's Quilt, the Freedom Quilt was used on the marriage bed, and usually given to the groom on the day of his marriage.

Throughout history and still today, quilts such as the Bride's Quilt and the Freedom Quilt often celebrate important events in the lives of those for whom they are quilted. Both men and women have had their parts in making these quilts, and women of all ages who wish to add a significant piece of memorabilia, an heirloom, to their family history should consider quilting as a unique way to do so.