Psychic Discusses The Power Of Forgiveness

Have you experienced the power of forgiveness in your life? Have you ever been forgiven by someone you thought would never forgive you? Are you still waiting for forgiveness from someone? Are you withholding forgiveness from someone? Have you been the one forgiving someone who really wanted you to forgive some type of hurt or transgression? The odds are that every single one of us can say, Yes! to those questions. Let us, for a moment, visit the power of forgiveness from a new perspective.

The first step is to actually define the word forgive. To forgive means to stop feeling angry or resentful towards someone for an offense, flaw, or mistake. My personal favorite definition is, to cancel. The reason I like that so much is because it just says it all. When something is cancelled, it becomes non-existent. I went to a concert one time and as I got to the entrance gates, I found out that the concert was cancelled. I never saw the concert. I never heard the artist play and sing. It never happened. I got my money refunded and it was a done deal. That is the best example of the word, cancel, that I have to pull on from my memory bank. When I ask for forgiveness from someone, that is exactly what I want to have happen with the transgression or hurt. I wish for the power of forgiveness to cancel the hurt completely. I want it to have never happened in the mind of the person I am asking to forgive me, just like that concert did not happen. On the flip side, I have to be able to give people around me the same thing. When someone asks me to forgive them, my challenge is to step up and do exactly that.

When we say we forgive someone, we cannot continue to bring it up in the future. We cannot continue to refer to it as a source or reason for our fears or our anger. The power of forgiveness allows us to put the event in the past and move forward, never looking back at what we have forgiven. We have all watched little children playing. One minute they will be fighting bitterly over a toy and being so upset with each other. They act like they will never be friends again. The next minute, all is forgotten and they are playing nicely together. Children have mastered the power of forgiveness. If you need a forgiveness coach, go hang out where kids are and just sit and watch.

Forgiveness has to start on the inside. If we cannot forgive ourselves first for things we are ashamed of, how can we be expected to forgive on the outside of us? It is not your fault that you were sexually abused as a child. Forgive yourself for that. It is not your fault that relationships around you broke up. Forgive yourself for that. It is not wholly your fault that your relationship failed. Forgive yourself for that. It is not your fault that your parent died. Forgive yourself for that. It is not your fault that you couldn't save your friend. Forgive yourself for that. Where else do you need the power of forgiveness in your life? What other boxes are you standing on, proverbially speaking, for fear of what you will feel or what will happen if you get off of the box? Open the boxes. Let the feelings out. Deal with them. Forgive yourself. Call or write people involved and ask for their forgiveness. Forgiveness does not mean having to be in relationships with the people who hurt you. It does not mean that you have to make nice. You can say, I forgive you. I cannot have you in my life.. Forgiveness is for you and about you, not for or about the person that you are forgiving. Start with yourself! Pick one thing today to start forgiving yourself for and start at a mirror. Look in your eyes and say, I forgive you for _______.. Say it and do it until you actually feel the shift of forgiveness inside of you. If it takes twenty weeks, let it take twenty weeks. If it takes two minutes, let it take two minutes. There is no right or wrong way. There is just unforgiving or forgiving. Once you feel the true power of forgiveness, you will start forgiving all over the place.