One Easy Step To Take If Your Child Hits You !

Mothers and fathers must certainly not permit that their child hits them and they must make really clear how unacceptable this behavior is. Being aware of the cause will help you have an appropriate reaction. First of all, be conscious that a little one hitting doesn't want to physically hurt. Hitting actually is a mean of expression when he's furious or frustrated. You have to establish in his mind what is wrong. It is the sole way he will realize it.

You won't get any consequences by saying "No" to something wrong he does. The things you need are the right communication tools to make your little one stop hitting once and for all.

When a child hits, his mother and father in most cases react impulsively and yell at him, express they're furious or even spank him. I want to make clear that hitting a little one, spanking him, will exclusively make him understand that there's no problem with hitting someone when he's angry.

The key advice I recommend you to apply when your child hits you is the following:

* Rather than expressing your ANGER, show your child that you're HURT. Your vulnerability will make him see you are just like him and it will most of all make clear the serious implications of his impulsive reaction. See this situation as a chance to teach compassion to your kid.

Allow me to explain my advice:

When your child hits you, remain calm and make a sad face that shows you are hurt and shocked by his behaviour. Tell him: "You hurt me! Actually it does hurt when you hit me, I am not kidding here. Do I hit you? No. I love you. I am sad you hit me." You can exagerate of course but stay serious. It truly matters. You will see a completely different reaction in your little one then. Simply tell him that his anger or frustration are NORMAL feelings but that he should communicate them with words only. Give him an example of what he could have said instead. Show him how to react differently or he might probably hit you again for the same reasons.

Each bad behaviour such as this one must be taken seriously. If you do not act upon it, you'll find it really hard to take the control back when your child develops a hitting habit. For now, the fact that your child hits you now and then probably is a small issue and this is in fact why you have got to stop it now. You don't want your little one to turn into a teenager who hits when he is overwhelmed by his feelings. Applying a parenting guide can be a positive move as it can give you and your little one the guideline and support you need to put an end to such habit.