My Lover: My Child Women That Make Excuses For Men

Before I began, I'd like you all to know that everything I speak about in this blog, I have experienced. I've made mistakes, had my heart shattered, and had the painful pleasure of healing from the bull. I am NOT scarred; I am wiser from lessons learned. This blog allows me to share painful lessons learned to hopefully help you avoid/fix the same situations. So, listen up, and get real!

Excuse(s) by definition according to dictionary.com - 'to serve as an apology or justification for' or 'to release from an obligation or duty.'

Recently, my family and I went to "Red Lobster" for dinner. We were having an awesome time, listening to my "mom" tell stories about the clinic she works at. Just as the food was arriving, a couple walked in to sit at the table in front of us. Of course that table was also seated in front of a television. As the man proceeded to demand the channel be turned from CNN to ESPN, the woman looked simply brokenhearted in her eyes. The waitress, trying to appease both customers, looked to the woman as if to ask if changing the channel would be appropriate. But of course, trying to avoid embarrassment, the lady dinner plastered on a fake smile and said, "it's our anniversary, it's the least I can do." The waitress shook her head with understanding and walked quickly to get the remote.

Ladies, can I be honest? This was by far one of the most upsetting situations that I've encountered, I just wanted to hug the woman (and throw my shoe at the man!) But, nevertheless, did you notice how she justified his behavior? She even took the blame for it. Stating that allowing him to watch the T.V. ON THEIR ANNIVERSARY was the least she could do... what a disgrace!

Ladies, why do we do this? Why do we treat men like they are our children, like they don't know any better? They do! They are just as grown and adult as you are!(I'm sure you know this to be true, whenever the lights go out...but I digress) Like the man in this story, they deliberately do what they want! But why? Who has taught them that a woman will accept WHATEVER they dish out? The sad but true answer... we did! Be honest, the woman in this story could have called him on his negligence, but why didn't she? We'll never truly know, but I have a funny feeling she kept her mouth shut out of fear. Not fear of abuse, but of embarrassment and loneliness! What would the waitress and the dinners have thought if she had caused a scene? What would her family think if they split up after 10 years? So, instead of "rocking the boat" she instead took the heartache like any scared little girl would....

Ladies, Stop the madness! Ask yourself, is he your lover or your child! Pick his position, and MAKE HIM STICK TO IT! Now I'm not telling you to go out there and start attacking men with extreme feminist babul, I'm simply pleading with you, woman to woman to stop accepting/formulating excuses for men! Understand that for every action, there is and has to be a reaction! I know that as women our first response to hurt is to nurture BUT, if you are always taking care of him, who is there taking care of you? Remember, "what's good for the goose is good for the gander." so the next time he complains about "quality time" or your appearance, you make certain that before you go on that new diet, that HE is on the treadmill right next to you!