Marriage - Just A Contract?

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After a year or two of living together, for many people their feelings toward marriage change. The instant gratification fades as the reality of what marriage represent comes into view. It isn't the cinderella story where Prince Charming comes to rescue you. Nor is it the self-serving biblical interpretation that many men cling to, that wives are to cook, clean, takes on all the responsibility of running the house, caring for the children, satisfy their physical needs and hold down a job. Only in the fantasy of someone's mind, can a woman perform all those things.

Historically, marriage brought two people together to exchange vows before God, family, and friends. It was entered into with some trepidation and an awareness of the sacred and contractual obligation you were agreeing to as a couple. And most importantly, it was seen as a lasting commitment to each other.

Today many still follow the traditions of the past, at least ceremonially. They stand before the minister, gazing into each other eyes, uttering their vows with heartfelt sentiment. Yet, there's a sense that what's being said at this moment, doesn't have
the lasting meaning it used to. In time all that will be left are memories on a DVD and photograph pictures of this special day. The contract that was enter into will have no significant to them.

The marriage that many people enter into today seems to be self-centered around their individual needs and wants. It has a more "Me" then "Us" mindset. For some it's a tax shelter. It's a way out of Mexico. It's freedom from their parents. It's financial
security.

The sacredness and esteem that marriage once held has been tarnished by a me attitude that permeated throughout the American culture. It is reflected in the permissiveness that easily accepts today's lower standards of marriage. The value of
a marriage contract sealed with vows before God and people, and a commitment to each other, has little significant.

Trying to find someone today that's committed to marriage is very difficult. Most wouldrather justify getting out of a relationship, then staying committed to one. For many it seems easier to nullify the marriage contract, move on to someone new, and toss the other person away like you would an old pair of shoes. Except what they're also tossing aside is their commitment, the heartfelt words of love and core convictions that formed the marriage.

Now going forward to another relationship, in the back of your mind there's uncertainty and lingering doubts. You question if you can ever commit to marrying someone again. You join that mindset that thinks relationships don't last, and neither does marriage. Yet, millions have a lasting marriage. For them marriage is not just a contract. It represents their
vows, the heartfelt love expressed, the feelings of sentiment, most importantly, it is the lasting commitment they gave to one another on that day.

About the Author:
Beverly writes for www.mrmarriagesaver.com.
Visit now to find extensive articles, tips and best resources on How to Save a Marriage , marriage counseling, Tips to Stop Divorce, Couples therapy and other Relationship issues.



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