Looks Versus Personality In A Relationship

In the long run, personality is more important to women than the way he looks. While a woman is willing to make many concessions on what she considers to be physically attractive in a man, she isn't nearly as willing to allow for those same concessions when it comes to his personality. In fact, personality is so important that you can be a little short on the looks department and still end up with the hot babe of the bar not as a date, but as your wife.

Going to extremes, you can be the most seductive and incredibly handsome individual on earth and still end up being a horribly condescending, arrogant, and emotionally or physically abusive individual. We have all seen it and it isn't very attractive. And yet you can have marginal looks and provide a safe, nurturing, loving environment that keeps a woman interested in living and being with you for the rest of her life. You can offer her fun and safety and excitement and security all in one reasonably good looking package. That's why so many dorks we thought were losers in high school ended up with these really incredible women as their partners.

Your personality is something that you can choose, but it isn't something that you can fake. If you are interested in building the long term provider personality that attracts women for the long haul, but you tend to be swiftly romantic and have trouble making a commitment, you can uncover your subconscious beliefs about women that make you act that way. The same applies for the opposite path. Any time we want to make a change for the purpose of getting ourselves a woman, we have to make the change from an internal place first and then work on the external.

The most difficult part about making these changes is that if you develop a reputation for being one specific personality type it can be hard for those with a preconceived notion to take any changes you make seriously. Sometimes changing your hang outs helps considerably. If you are able to engage with a whole new crowd, you can put these changes into effect immediately so that you can ensure they stick. Otherwise you have to break through one misconception at a time, which can be done with a little time commitment.

In the end, personality always wins over looks. Although it is usually the initial looks which attract you to engage with the woman in your sight initially, in the long run, personality is what makes you stick around with them or them sticking around with you.

Never under estimate the power of a great personality.