Learning To Compliment And Start Conversations To Get Yourself A Date

Whether you are trying to meet an attractive woman for the first time or you are with a woman every day, there is a gift in learning how to honestly compliment. Compliments are more than just stating the obvious facts and hoping for a great response. Compliments have to come from a sincere place, offer a genuine insight or revelation, and compose the facts into your opinion in order to be dealt with dignity. Otherwise you just sound like you're looking for some action and the compliment carries no significant weight at all.

When you are learning how to really compliment a woman, ask yourself (before you open your mouth) why you are about to compliment her. Do you want her to think you're a great guy? Do you want her to believe that you find you attractive? Or do you just want to give her your thoughts and hope that no matter what the outcome, she feels better for having known you, even if briefly. A true compliment comes without strings. You should be able to walk up to a woman and tell her truly how incredibly beautiful she looks and walk away and feel good just for the smile you left on her face. When you can reach that stage, an interesting phenomenon occurs. They start to believe you.

And because they believe you, they become more interested in having you around. Women like compliments, but some women are not interested in hearing the same old compliments that can be written on the back of a cereal box. What woman really want is for someone to notice them beyond the obvious. Telling a beautiful woman that she is beautiful is obvious. She's heard that one. Telling her that you find her to be graceful is a different story. Or perhaps you think that she is incredibly intelligent and insightful. Go for the real heart of the matter and really mean it. When you can do that you also start to realize that if you aren't rewarded that it's perfectly okay. You'd be surprised what this level of honest expression can do for your social love or your relationship.

People like to be around people who feel good about themselves and the world around them. We all know someone who can't speak without complaining. They talk about the negative aspects of the world so much and put everyone around them down so they feel better. When we are around them, we are either annoyed or have stopped listening. It is human nature to go toward what is positive and away from what is negative. Negativity doesn't serve our needs very well.

So when you are developing your skills and you consider how you talk, remember that the negative complainer can't lay out a good compliment. This is because they are too consumed with themselves and their own negativity to be able to step outside of their own thoughts and really notice something positive about someone else. If there is a compliment that leaves their mouth, it is often short sighted and lacking insight. Because of this, the compliment falls short and the response they were hoping for doesn't happen. Before you know it, the cycle is repeating itself because now they feel slighted for not receiving what they expected for their effort to compliment.

If you are using a compliment to open up a conversation, tie the compliment to a question. For instance, you can say that she is really looking incredible today and ask her if there is something new in her life. You can go farther and tell her that you can't help but to notice how graceful she is and then ask her if she was a dancer or a figure skater. Complimenting first and then following with a related question puts a totally positive spin on the conversation and also allows a woman to feel comfortable talking about herself long enough to answer the question.

You can then use something she has said to ask another question, and then another. The more questions you ask, the more she feels that you are a good listener and the longer the conversation is going to last. Using this method you can open up a conversation long enough to find yourself in the position of having a really good time, listening to a beautiful woman, and then building a relationship right there from the start.

The deeper you can take the compliment, and the farther away from her physical appearance you can take the compliment, the more meaningful the compliment will be. If you can start to notice qualities outside of the physical realm, you are not only growing into a genuine man with a great understanding of the human element, but you are going to be better received by the women you extend yourself to.

What makes it so difficult for us to do this regularly is that we fear rejection or we fear not being taken seriously. If we are coming across like we are trying to pick her up, she might shut down. If we come across with sincere interest, she is likely to continue talking. So as we move and progress through our ability to compliment and open up a conversation we start to realize that the more sincere we are about just making her feel good for having been around us the more she is interested in being around us. Being on the prowl is unattractive to most women.

You can easily practice this skill by noticing cool things about the people you come in contact with every day and then end your conversations with some sort of compliment. Walking away before someone has a chance to really respond or offer their gratitude helps us to give compliments without expectation. The better we get at this skill, the more sincere we are when we hand them out and the more we simply feel good for saying it. That is often the key to starting a strong conversation with a woman. Of course, if you already have a woman, there are many areas of your life that will improve simply by being able to di this, especially when it comes to the woman you are with.