Learn The Art Of Forgiveness And Open All The Opportunities Life Has To Offer

"Forgiveness" The life changing word that dispels every negative emotion, illness and reason we do not live the life we deserve.

You may ask, but what has this got to do with success in whatever business, job or situation??

I have learnt that forgiveness is the corner stone of turning our lives around. So many people say, all you have to do is forgive and it dispels every negative in your life, however I have found 'forgiveness' is one of the hardest things to do as a human being as there are so many emotions in doing it. The hardest being, the recognition that when we forgive someone else, in that very moment we admit, that it was not the other person that did something to us but in fact that we ourselves attracted the person do the thing to us.

We as humans, as a natural survival want pleasure yet we can be martyrs. We want joy yet we can be victims. We want success yet we carry guilt. It seems a life of confusion, turmoil and constant battle and struggle that at every turn when our natural survival instinct wants what is natural to us, pleasure and happiness, that the more we strive for this the more we get guilt, victimised, used and the opposite of what we want. This is because we, until now, have not understood the true essence of forgiveness.

When we forgive someone else, the biggest thing we do more than anything else is, forgive ourselves. When you understand and totally digest this as being the core of your belief, then you will find forgiveness as an easy thing to do, dispelling negative emotions of bitterness, anchors, triggers that continually bring the same patterns in your life.

Look at it this way. Each time you think of what someone has done to you and feel the emotions of bitterness, anger, pain. If you comprehend what I have just said then those emotions are not really at that person, they are in fact, bitterness at yourself, anger at yourself, pain for yourself. You are now the perpetual victim and martyr.

This being such a hard thing for a person to admit to themselves it is then the biggest reason that humans find it so easy to point the finger and blame at someone else being the cause of what has happened in their lives or how their lives are. It is at this point that we hand the power of our destiny to another human being and we hand over the universal law of attraction to another person for the outcome of our lives. All this because we cannot, in all essence forgive ourselves.

I have on purpose created some pain in this description. As I said earlier human instinctive is a quest for pleasure and happiness. Hence pain can be a motivating enough factor to first see and become aware and a driving force to implement change. I will give you some easy ways to change and actually implement forgiveness now at this point.

First I must advise you what forgiving someone is not. It is not now understanding when you forgive someone else, you forgive yourself for something you did wrong and hence lay more guilt and pain onto yourself. The other thing it is not, is that you now have to make amends or invite this person back into your life. No, Forgiveness is simply about you and only you. In fact it is the complete opposite.

I will show you through my own example that in forgiving someone else leading to forgiving yourself, in that very simultaneous second, you acknowledge your greatest and finest attributes, you release the victim in you and unleash your greatest power. You will actually see, that each person that crosses your path and seemingly to you does something bad to you is merely crossing your path with this act to show you how great you truly are, hence by you not forgiving them, you prolong not forgiving yourself and acknowledging your greatness.

To prove this to you I will share with you one of the most common lines I hear and have used myself and I use it because I am sure anyone reading this will be familiar with it themselves.

Here it is. 'I should not have let (name of person/persons) tell/do this to me. If they had not I would be/ my life would be/my income would be (where ever). I knew I was right, why did I let talk me into /tell me/do this'..Sound familiar? Then follows the emotions, anger, resentment, pain, bitterness. In fact you could punch the person in the face if they were to enter the room right then,or you cry with pain. In any instance it's not a good feeling about that person.

Now let me show you something about this statement above that will prove to you that if you forgive them and see them as a friend not a foe how you are actually forgiving yourself and acknowledging your greatness.

If you really look at that person and the act, they are trying to show you, with a sledgehammer because you can't see it yet, that in fact you have the most incredible 'gut' instinct of what is right for you. The most incredible 'intuition' and the most incredible 'knowledge' to achieve whatever you want. You just have not acknowledged and recognised this in yourself yet. Until you do the same thing will continue to happen. The patterns keep repeating with different people and circumstances until the sledgehammer hits you so hard that you hit rock bottom, the pain is too hard to bare anymore. You have all heard it before, its when someone hits rock bottom that the biggest change happens.

I ask? Why do you want to put yourself through so much pain?? Can you see now that if anyone slights you, you simply see them as a teacher of trying to show you your greatness. This makes it easy to forgive them, forgive yourself and see the greatness with in you.

Unleash and start to acknowledge your greatness now and let go of the shackles keeping you down by immediately looking back on life and forgiving all those people so you can forgive yourself and instantaneously acknowledge the talents you have with in you. Not only will you forgive others, but you will thank and be gratefull for them crossing your life. Now, how does that feel??

If you really look hard enough, and stop resenting someone but start looking at what was this person trying to show you in your value, you will find your greatness and value in every circumstance every single time, guaranteed. At that moment your life and circumstances around you will change for the better. Your confidence will build in yourself and when that happens all the right attraction begins to happen and your skills grow to greater heights.

2 years ago I had a very nasty divorce. Needless to say very negative emotions involving not just myself but also my child. On top of this leaving me with a $175,000 debt at settlement and a business that very much relied on internet skills to grow. My ex husband was the major player on the internet side of the business. He resigned from this business leaving it all to me. Prior to this I had only got my first computer 1year earlier, in fact I did not even have a mobile phone until 3 months after my separation. I was completely reliant on my ex husband with anything to do with technology but now he had left me with a debt and the only way to earn an income with a business that involved technology.

The very moment I saw forgiveness the way I have explained in this article was the very moment my life completely changed. Of course the first step was to forgive him by seeing why he had entered my life and the lessons of value to myself he was here to teach me. In doing so I started to forgive myself.

You see here is how normaly, the vicious circle happens. I was blaming myself for not being in more control and being so stupid for not knowing and taking an interest in the finances. I was blaming myself for being a bad mother and letting my ex do so many negative things and so on and so on. If you keep going with that beating of yourself it starts to really hurt. What you do next to take some pain from yourself, you start blaming the other person, naturally in this instance it was my ex.

Does this pattern sound familiar? However, the circumstances forced me to start to learn technology and I started to realize that my ex crossed my path to show me how intelligent I actually was with technology and how necessary it was to acknowledge this. I realized I was actually very, very good with accounts and taxes and there was nothing to be afraid of there.

In fact if you look at the fact that my ex husband and situation got worse purely until I started to acknowledge that he crossed my life to show me what incredible skills I had in so many areas. In fact unless this necessary situation happened I would never have achieved these skills.

My debts and taxes within a 6 month period are organised and being paid. Within a 3 month period, I alone had acquired over 2500 leads on the internet for FREE. I had become a published author on the internet. My business that was left to me, reliant on technology not only grew but my income increased by 20% over the month before, again helping reduce my debt faster. And lastly, the impact I have had on my Son in the last 3 months has been greater than the thousands I had spent on psycologists over the years.

All this started to happen the moment I forgave my ex husband, which in turn I forgave myself and started to see my true greatness and potential.

Now you have a look at those people you have not yet forgiven, block, resent, angry at, bitter towards. See while you are holding to these emotions, not only are you inviting more people into your life bringing the same situation as the past people but you are blocking your vision of seeing YOUR true greatness. Why don't you want to see how great you are?

I once heard it described this way. "Thank you for-giving me the experience". This is the truest, most powerful meaning of "forgiveness".