What makes a good relationship? Affection and a little give and take. It will require more than a little bit of compromise if you want to
get back together with your ex-boyfriend. It is not impossible to repair your relationship, but it will not be easy. Why did the relationship end? You need to know this and understand the why. By knowing what were the causes, you have the ability and power then to begin working on fixing the issues.
A breakup is an obvious sign that the relationship had issues. It is possible that he felt that the relationship had stagnated. If he felt like he was being controlled, he might look to a breakup as a solution. Neglect could be another reason. You cannot make changes if you do not know why he left in the first place. Once you know, you can see where you need to make changes within yourself if you truly want to get back together with your ex-boyfriend.
You might discover that the breakup occurred because of something you did. It comes down to some activity or some behavioral issue. Ending a relationship can happen by some small act. The good and the bad needs to be taken into account when you begin analyzing your relationship. It is very important that you are able to do this. Were there patterns of behavioral changes such as distancing himself or just plain moody? What were you doing at the time that he withdrew? Wanting him back means that you have to make changes in your behavior that led to his feeling of neglect. If you're willing to put in the effort to make changes, you have a shot at getting back together with your ex-boyfriend.
These changes are not supposed to re-create your entire personality. Focus on changing any destructive behavior that you exercised and that led to the end of the relationship. Try not to be too hard on yourself about this. You do not have control of every reason for breakups. If the scenario is that you have found him cheating on you and he walks out to be with her, do not convince yourself that it is the same thing as him wanting more out of the relationship. You can control your actions but not his.
To get back with him, fix what is fixable. Ignore the rest. Sometimes when the boyfriend sees you making the effort to change the areas that were problems, he might initiate getting back together.
