It Is Better To Feel Happy Than To Be Happy

I'm a judgment broker who writes a lot. I assert: It is better to feel rich than to be rich. It is better to feel ok than to be ok. It is better to feel happy than to actually be happy. This article explains why I feel confident in making these claims.

Change is constant, and to some level, in some way or the other; everything is fragile and temporary. Nothing on earth is guaranteed or lasts forever. A very rare, yet very clear example would be, what if you are really ok in every way, and a meteor then falls from the night and hits you? I assert that it is better to feel ok, than it is to "really" be ok.

Actually being ok (as judged by an outside society/media standard, or your imagination), relies on the whole shebang, beginning with health, avoiding severe pain, and getting sufficient money.

When everything is going well, you are actually ok in actual life, however sooner or later, part of your actual reality won't be "ok" as defined by imagined or external standards.

Feeling ok could be a choice that doesn't depend on your situation. If you're ok with everything, you tend to suffer less. In life, pain is mandatory, and suffering is optional.

Feeling ok will always make you happier, than wondering if you actually are ok. Why worry about if you actually are now, and are going to remain ok? Really being ok is not as solid or reliable, as intentionally feeling you are ok is. It's better to feel ok, than to be ok.

I assert that it is better to feel rich than it is to actually be rich. About 99 percent of the people in the world thinks and feels they don't have enough money. That means there might be a 99 percent chance you will not really be "ok" money-wise, in real life.

Alternatively, what if you constantly felt like you had lots of of money? You could then use your time trying to save money, make money, and pay bills. You will feel a lot better feeling rich, than if you constantly worried about your bills and debts.

I think about paying bills only when I pay them. If I think about money, I focus only on saving and making money. For me, its a fun hobby. This type of thinking lets me feel good about money, and avoid worrying.

I assert that it is better to feel happy than to really be happy. Many people seem to mirror their environment. If they are poor, sick, lonely, or old, they stay sad. If or when something great happens, they get temporarily happy.

There are 2 ways to get happier. One way depends on everything or something going or staying right.

Another way to be happier is to detach a bit, and feel happy no matter what is going on. Feeling happy if the world isn't, is a learned skill. For me, meditation can help, you must follow your own path. Ideally, you can learn to enjoy your work or your situation, or how to enjoy them more.

Asking "Am I happy?", or predicting a time or event that makes you happy, is almost a complete waste of time. It's best to invent happiness, imagine happiness, or create happiness out of the air, and then concentrate on what you do, not on what the world does.

Worrying is useless. When you can affect an outcome for the positive, then act. When you cannot, then accept you cannot, and hope for the best. An interesting talk about happiness, is at http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy.html.