Is Self-love Really Such A Big Deal?

You can never love another enough to make up for any lack in love they have for themselves. No matter how good you are at it, no matter how deeply it runs, your love can never make up for any lack of self-love. You can love someone dearly, and they could still be in despair or even suicidal.

The greatest gift that you can give them is the gift of self-love. Many times people are unsure of how to give that gift; and yet often times the simplest answer is the most powerful answer. The simple answer, is to give yourself the self-love you require and then demonstrate that through your choices and actions.

When you step back and be an observer of yourself it is easy to see if you give yourself the love, acceptance, compassion and kindness that you wish for another. Take simple examples: do you accept yourself as you are, and know that you can improve any personality trait that you would like to improve? Do you accept the appearance of your physical body? In each day, do you give yourself fulfilling work, nourishing food, self care habits such as exercise and quiet time, fun and supportive relationships? Do you make it a priority to laugh as often as you can? Are you determined to care for your emotional health by choosing thoughts that are positive?

In setting the example of loving yourself, you are first and foremost being a focused creator of a wonderful life for yourself. In addition, in demonstrating behaviors that support you, you are role modeling that for others who observe you. If you have children, you know that you are their most influential role model and what you do, they will also do. What better way could there be to guide them in loving themselves!

A side benefit to you loving yourself is that the love then flows to other people. It is unavoidable. And so, once again you demonstrate the care that comes from cultivating self-love. No matter what you give to them, they will only be able to fully receive love from you if they love themselves. Obviously, for our children this is clear, and crucial. And it also applies to all your adult friends.

The other action you can take is to guide them to resources that will encourage and reinforce self-love. How can you give them the gift that keeps on giving? Direct them to many of the other authors who focus upon self-love: Abraham-Hicks, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Louise Hay, Dr. Christiane Northrup, etc. Self-love is a very big deal, and will determine their happiness throughout their life.