Is Schwarzenegger's Infidelity Affecting Your Marriage?

What affect does Arnold Schwarzenegger's infidelity in his marriage to Maria Shriver have on your marriage? More than you might think. We are engaged with celebrities and their lives. Most of us hope that our movie screen heroes and politicians will live up to our expectations or at least to the public image that they promote especially when they claim to be happily married. We are almost a familiar with them as we are a co-worker or friend. We know that if one of your friends gets a divorce or has marriage problems that it causes you to have a higher chance of having the same trouble.

Wondering why? When your friend starts to share their problems with you it causes you to ask yourself if your spouse is like that, have they done something similar, is there something being hidden from you. Questions start to swarm in your head. Then when you see your spouse again you start to question them with all of your built up suspicions.

With Arnold Schwarzenegger reveling his hidden affair and child from Maria Shriver even though he is not a close friend you might think, "What don't I know about in my marriage?"

If you allow yourself to let these questions into your head a lack of trust can take root. The more you question your mate with questions like, "Would you have told me if you had had an affair?" or "Don't you think Maria should forgive him?" The more the tension will rise between you.

A spouse feeling this distrust even though innocent might say, "Why should I even try to be faithful if you don't trust me?" No matter what they say will it matter? Will it calm and satisfy our upset emotions.

Once you start questioning there starts to be a lack of trust. Where do you stop? Do you go back over your history together looking for clues that your spouse did something wrong? Do you take sides with Arnold or Maria?

How do you stop this rash of bad relationship feelings and suspicions? Don't start! Anytime you start to question or doubt without just cause just stop yourself and think of how wonderful it is to have such a great spouse.

Leave the gossip and tabloid talk out of your marriage. If one of your friends is having marriage troubles don't get in a discussion about it. Sympathize but don't get involved.

You owe it to your happiness and marriage to keep your mind focused on the positive. Trust is essential to a happy thriving marriage.