I Cheated On My Wife, How Can I Convince Her I Love Her? Here Are 3 Sure Fire Ways

Having helped hundreds of people catch their spouses cheating, I can tell you that very few relationships ever fully recover from infidelity. Here are 3 things you can do to save your marriage after an affair.

Listen, I know that you feel awful. I get it. Unfortunately, what's done is done, and since you can't go back and change time, you're only hope is to try and figure out a way to save your relationship.

What I mean by that is there's no sense dwelling on the past. You should focus entirely on what lies ahead. You're already one step in the right direction simply by being here, reading this article.

Here are 3 things you HAVE to do before your marriage can recover:

Be Totally Honest About Everything

What's that? You didn't hear me? Be totally honest about what?

EVERYTHING!

You need to always keep in mind that you're the one that's cheated here. Under no circumstances should you even entertain the notion of lying to your spouse.

Not even about the way your tie your shoes, or how often you brush your teeth.

I know that many times lies seem trivial, or you think that it's for your spouse's own good that they don't know everything...Recognize right now how deluded that is.

I'll only say this one time...From here on out, if your spouse even SMELLS a lie, chances are you'll have ruined any chance at healing your relationship.

Spend Quality Time with Your Spouse

One of the best ways that you can communicate how much you care is by actually devoting time to recovering what your relationship once was.

The more time you spend with your wife the more she's going to believe that you're being sincere in your attempts to repent for cheating.

And hey, don't just spend time with them! Be nice! Do nice things! Give your wife an incentive to believe you...Make her WANT to spend time with you.

How? Just by being nice!

Open Up to Professional Help...If She Wants it

Many women automatically assume that their husbands won't even consider professional help. You can do something really significant by extending the offer to seek professional help.

This might be sort of an awkward thing to talk about with your wife, and if it is, I understand. But you need to push through that awkwardness and make sure she knows that you've got nothing to hide, from either her or a counselor.

If you think your wife would be totally opposed to counseling, you can still ask. Just make sure you frame your question appropriately. Make it clear that you're in no way pressuring them, but that if THEY would like it you'd be happy to see a counselor with them.

You'd be surprised how much that means to many women. It shows true penance.

Generally, most fully healed relationships follow the same path to get there. Basically it boils down to these 3 separate phases:

1. Heal Yourself

2. Heal the Relationship

3. Heal the Marriage

By learning more about each phase, and where you stand within them, you can really improve your chances of saving your marriage after an affair.