How Unpredictability Attracts Men

How Unpredictability Attracts Men

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The mechanisms of attraction can be very difficult to define and pinpoint for most women. Mistakenly, many women believe that attraction is completely based on physical appearance or attributes. What women generally do not realize is that a big part of what attracts men and keeps them coming back for more is an ability to mix the serious with the fun and do it in an unpredictable way. Being unpredictable in a sassy and fun way with a man is fodder for attraction. When it's coupled with something serious, it's a sure recipe for attraction and creating mystery that makes him want to stay - as either a date or a boyfriend.

This seemingly duplicitous nature trips a man's trigger in several ways. First, it makes YOU memorable and desirable. You are not just another boring but pretty face if you can keep him on his toes and trying to guess what you are going to do next. Second - it actually creates attraction for him - especially if you can keep your demeanor aloof, exhibiting to him that you don't need him and that you are not there to sell yourself to him. Rather, it shows him that he needs to prove that he is good enough for you.

For example, let's say you're in a club or in a restaurant and you're talking with a man who you are attracted to. What most women would do is ask him some common questions about himself, his job, his daily life, his family, etc and he will start wondering who is going to pick up the tab for dinner. This is way too predictable and only works in a few lucky situations or if you're some supermodel who makes into drooling droids just by walking into a room. And yeah, while you could get to know a guy talking about this stuff, you'll see that he's got his eye on some woman across the room who's laughing, having a great time, and is obviously fun and exciting to be around.

Predictability is the reverse of interesting. If you are always predictable, then by definition you're not interesting. So keep doing things that are interesting and unexpected. Talking about this regular stuff, while it has some value in getting to know some details about a man's life and history, can be an attraction killer when you do too much of it.

So what to do instead? Try playing with him a bit. Make up answers to his questions that are obviously not true, like saying that you are actually sent here to measure the intelligence of the life forms at the bar by NASA. Tell him you slipped truth serum into his drink and you will answer his questions only after it has taken effect and he is sure to tell no lies. Tell him you are a hypnotist and now he will start clucking like a chicken whenever someone says the word "tree". The point is to keep the conversation fun and keep him guessing as to what you are going to do next. This will spark the attraction for him like crazy, and before you know it, he will be chasing YOU.

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