How To Save And Heal Your Marriage

PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE, SO THEY MARRY
It is human nature to fall in love and have the desire to spend the rest of one's life with your beloved. But then one day, your spouse might just up and announce simply, "I am leaving you because I don't love you anymore".
There are already signs or red flags before this painful moment of truth when your spouse decides to leave you. Absence. He has nothing to talk about or doesn't like talking. He no longer tells you how nice you look, especially when you are looking really good. Or those frequent touches have faded away, and that look he used to give you is gone. It is a telltale sign if your spouse doesn't give you the attention he showed you before you tied the knot. It can be very painful, but since you both chose to be in a relationship together, try talking to him about it. It is the communication after all that is the key, and one of you has to unlock the door.
The opportunity to react is ever present. But before you do, be mindful that you both chose one another to be mirrors for one another in which you are able to see what you both need for your growth. If you are both able to take the responsibility for your own growth, you will be able to talk from the heart instead of resorting to blame and projection which is a dead end road. Sometimes we are not ready to face ourselves, and sometimes in marriage one is ready when the other is not. Patience is truly a virtue. Give one another room to be where you are, and try to talk from there. Don't be quick to give up as everything is always changing. Create and find new ways to be with yourself and with one another.
If infidelity is the culprit, it is best to have a third party as your spiritual advisor. Changes in both of you over time will give your relationship a better chance to survive. Embrace and welcome the challenges you both face as the changes might surprise you for the better. After all, life, and love, is not static. They are both destined to change. Our success in marriage is simply how well we can both ride the waves of change.
You can avoid divorce by staying positive in all your communications even though you may not always agree on everything. Resentment from past hurts will eat away the love you share. The high paying job, the beautiful house and vacation to Paris may never come true. Forgiveness makes room for a new beginning. Do not have unrealistic expectations of your spouse. Live and let live.
They say time heals most things. Plan activities that are only for the two of you, and plan activities just for you! We are most often engaged in a marital crisis when one or both partners are looking to the other for something they need, but can't give to themselves. Taking the time to give to ourselves first, and fulfill ourselves, can be a simple solution for sharing ourselves again more fully and in new ways with the other. Let him watch football and play golf with his buddies while you go out shopping with the girls or take up painting classes. Then plan time to be together and share the interests you both have.
You can both agree to disagree. Find it exciting and stimulating that you are different, but also find the places and interests where you do meet and cultivate those. Otherwise, you may eventually grow apart if you do not make time for the things you both love to do. You can both become better people, better parents, better spouses if you give one another the space you need and the room to grow, both together and apart.