How To Have A Happy And Lasting Marriage?

Are many couples that have been together for a long time dissatisfied with their marriage? That question has been bothering me for quite some time now. As a consultant of Feng Shui, I encounter several couples with less than perfect marriages. My clients will quite often ask me for some sort of "secret" remedy that will magically fix what is wrong with their marriage.

So, I asked a few of my married friends for their opinion. These couples, which are over 50 years old, were chosen because of their age and the fact that they have been married for a long time The answer they gave was a surprise to me Based on experiences of both themselves and their friends, they believe that ninety percent of married couples are, in some way, dissatisfied with their relationships.

Granted that the don't experience the happily ever after life we see in fairy tales,this is still rather sad - if this is really the truth.

Does a cure exist? Perhaps there is.

In ancient societies such as those found in China, arranged marriages were commonplace, and the horoscope was often consulted. The Ba Zi of the intended couple are checked for compatibility, before they are allowed to tie the knot.

Does this always work? While it may increase the chances, there is still a chance it won't work. However through years of observation, they found out that if you combine it with some conditions, you can increase the chances of having a happy and lasting marriage.

While this insight is for all, it is most important for those with a background of failed marriages or relationships, to remember this.

These are a few of the conditions that apply.

In times past, a husband was always required or expected to be older than his wife. Such as this is a custom. You should not be able to break it, because it cannot be broken. having an aged wife - can oddly be the remedy. In ancient China, even if a wife is only one day older than her spouse, she would be considered the elder. However for better results, a wider age gap is preferred.

The other option for a more successful relationship is for the husband to be much older than the wife. Eight years apart meant much to ancient Chinese. In practice, 10 or 15 years older is perfectly acceptable or desired.

It would also increase the chances if there is a big disparity in the social and economic standard between the husband and the wife. Just for example the husband is a CEO of a big corporation and has been highly educated,while the wife does not near as much education and comes from a family that is poor. Can it be switched to the opposite way? It is unlikely in the old days because the husband is always the breadwinner. However, why can't this be true when, in our modern era, many wives' salaries are greater than their husbands'?

The earlier days the condition applies to woman's only If she cannot be a successful first wife, it does not mean that she cannot be successful being the second or third one. In other words, you can be successful by becoming the other woman! I am not sure about being the other man though!

What if none of the above works?

The final option is to have a spouse that is of a different race or from a different culture. Indians and Chinese from two different culture. Having one raised in China and one raised in the United States would be a good example.

Our ancestors have left us with some great knowledge. So, and especially, if you are relationship challenged, give it a try. There is nothing to lose!