How To Get The Right Guy - Ask The Right Questions

Hey ladies, you better know the right questions and get the right answers before you get too involved with that man. If you do, you will be able to avoid the intense pain that awaits you if you do not. These questions are time tested and simple. The answers you get will tell the whole story. Here are the questions that will help you avoid idiots and catch winners.

Before we get to the questions, a word about your approach from a guys point of view. Do not carry a note pad and pencil. OK, I know you are not really going to do that - unless you are just stupid. But do not come across like you have one in your purse and as soon as you get to the bathroom you are going to write down your findings. This cannot come across as an interview, with which he would be way too uncomfortable. Put him on the spot and and watch him squirm. Honestly, I know you would like to see that. Maybe you have issues. Anyways, use the creative side of your brain and get your answers without doodad knowing that he is on the hot seat. Just do it in the normal sequence of conversation, OK?

Question number one: "Hey Widget, tell me about your relationship with your mother." Remember, you are not actually asking so bluntly, but at this point it is your job to be creative, not mine. Here's the deal - if he has a crappy relationship with his mother, then he is probably not the guy for you ( I know there are exceptions, but not many). This is a huge red flag. It usually means widget does not know how to either respect women, relate to women, or is afraid of women. I know you think you like the "afraid of woman" statement. "Wow, wouldn't that be fun," you say. Stop it. Hit the delete button and move on. He is not your future boy toy.

Question numer two: "Hey Gizmo, what's your definition of a man?" Does he think meek is weak? Is his idea of a man someone who is domineering or always in charge? Some guys are threatened by a woman challenging their brilliance. For some, the idea that you have a valid opinion is not a possibility. Here is some homework for you - carefully write out your definition of a man. Perhaps a clarification is in order for some of you, I'm not referring to physical characteristics. You would eventually get kinda tired of that if there was nothing else. Get some help with this "man" definition from your friends. That could be fun.

Question number three: "Hey Dufus, how do you handle problems?" The most common flaw in the wrong guy is that he responds to problems with anger. He blows up? Does he have a temper that he justifies with the "I just can't control it" excuse or "it is a family trait" piece of bull. That is such a load of crap. Run!

That is not the only thing you are looking for. You want to know if he can problem solve. You will have problems. If you do not think so then you are a problem. The question is, can he find a solution?

Here is the big one ... can he ask for help? We real men know we do not have all the answers and can admit it. That is attractive to you ladies, isn't it? Even the Bible says there is safety in many counselors. Admit it, you would melt (or die of a heart attack) if your beefcake came to you said, "Baby, I've made an appointment with a counselor. I think it would help us to get another angle on this." Ladies, latch on to this, he is a keeper.

Alrighty then. There you go. No more excuses for being with a loser. You now have the secret questions to get your man. And once you get him, well, stand by your man.