How To Approach Women - Your Opener Is Meaningless!

One of the things that gets most guys who want to learn more about how to approach women caught in a vicious and almost never ending cycle of disappointment is, they are coming from the mindset that they need to have a perfect opener if they are going to get a woman to feel like she wants them. And that could not be further from the truth.

Yes, whenever you see things in movies or on television about approaching and picking up women, they always make it seem like the big "secret" is to have a perfect opener. Because of this, this is what most guys think is the missing piece to puzzle. And it's NOT.

Your opener is meaningless!

How can I say this? Simple. Because all an opener is designed to do is to start an interaction or a conversation with a woman and nothing more. Yes, a good opener will allow that to flow but it's not what will get you her number, a date, a hook up or anything else.

What gets you a phone number, a date, or a hook up is the conversation and the interaction that happens AFTER the opener. So, while you should try to come up with something that does not make you look like a typical guy to open the conversation with, it should not be seen as the "holy grail" of approaching a woman.

You need to be able to PROCEED beyond the opening line.

I can't tell you how many guys I have seen put almost all of their time and energy and effort into cultivating and crafting the right opener, only to find that they have nothing at all to go with AFTER the interaction has started. And that is where the "gold" lies. It's in the conversation, the kino, the escalation that comes after you have started the conversation.

If you think about it in terms of percentages, the opening line is like 5% of the whole deal. Maybe a little bit more or less, but that is about it. You should spend much more time and energy figuring out how to lead a conversation or an interaction to where you want it to go. If all you are looking for is some good flirting, lead it there.

It's all about leading the conversation after you approach her and open her and taking it to where YOU want it to go.

What happens to most guys once they have finally crafted that big opening line is, they either have nothing at all to say and the conversation dies before it even begins, or they let the woman lead the interaction and they end up coming across as just another typical guy trying hard to hook up and getting nothing in return.