How Are You Inventing Your Life Now?

How Are You Inventing Your Life Now?

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"Organisms do not experience environments, they create them." -- From A Simpler Way, by Margaret Wheatley

Walking down Lincoln Avenue in Portsmouth, I am struck by the beauty of the day - forsythia, tulips and daffodils, bright sun, warm breeze - and the freedom and privilege I have to walk in a healthy body, through a friendly neighborhood, of my own volition. I think about how much I take for granted, and how easy it is to feel centered and content when life is easy, flowing, and conflict free.

The day prior to was not so. It was rainy, windy, and cold. I hadn't slept and woke up short-tempered and irritable. (Will winter in no way finish?!) A project I'd been placing off could not be postponed any longer, and I knew I had to finish it even though I had no inspiration for it. My entire body ached from difficult aikido exercise the night before, and I felt tired and lacked power. I opened a window and spilled a potted plant all more than my office floor. And the final piece of my favorite toasting bread had mysteriously disappeared from its storage location. Tomorrow - who knows? As my friend Carol says, existence can fall in your head at any moment.

So how do I stroll my talk, alter my attitude, adjust my goals, and reinvent my life even when I don't feel like it? I kept thinking: You are able to do this, this is excellent, exactly what you appear for - perfect possibilities to practice, center, breathe, laugh. Certain, it is easy to be centered when points are going your way. This is the perfect evening to exercise - once they aren't.

I'm embarrassed to say that it was nevertheless difficult. The only great news that I was capable to give myself was that i noticed. I could see I was getting a "pity party," which was a action in the correct direction. Friend and colleague, Joy Jacobs, calls this capability to action outside our selves and acknowledge our reactions meta-communication. My meta-communicator may be the part that says, Hey, Judy, you are truly having a strong response to that plant falling more than. Whoah! Have you been certain you want to throw it through the window? Right, most likely not.

The meta-communicator is the insulation between my reaction and my response. It keeps me from getting dragged down an emotionally reactive route that i will probably regret. The capability to meta-communicate is a sign of emotional intelligence, analogous to self-awareness, and essential to self-control. Without the ability to meta-communicate, I get lost in the emotion and identify with it. There is no distance, no separation in between me and my mental state; the mind-set, emotion, or mood overrides conscious believed and requires me wherever it wants. I can only speak about the emotion again (like this) when it is played itself out and I regain the ability to determine it.

Centering awakens the meta-communicator. Taking a moment of literal and figurative inspiration - breathing and connecting to my power source - provides me the time and also the space to decide if I want to get dragged off or not.

Pity parties are enjoyable occasionally. I can appreciate getting together telephonically or in individual with unique buddies. We dress up in our greatest long-suffering attitudes and moan about this event or that individual, how much function there is to do and how little time. We bring our meta-communicators along, and we laugh at ourselves in the midst of our complaining. It's a lot more fun to whine with awareness.

His Holiness the Dalai Lama said, "If you don't like what's happening in your life, change your mind." How do you like what's happening in your life at the moment? I realize it may be a lot more challenging than winter weather in May. Still, gently experiment with changing your relationship to life events, and see what happens.

When I am willing and able to do this, to change my mind, everything changes. It begins by noticing my reactive state. I'm upset. Okay - Upset Energy. How can I use it in a way that's congruent with my values and vision? I take charge of it, before it takes charge of me. I begin to travel a path of power and presence, instead of a path of reactivity and regret.

As I place that bit of padding between my reaction and my response, I reclaim my power. I reconnect with what is really important. Why am I here? What do I want to contribute to this workplace, this family unit, this relationship? What are my hopes for this conversation? How will I impact this meeting?

Much more sunny days and uplifting moments are on the horizon. But what ever the external or internal weather problems, I am protected by an inner spring of insight that's always awake, aware, and obtainable to become turned on at any moment. And I remember all that I have to become grateful for, including the privilege of getting unsettling emotions.

How have you been inventing your existence these days, this moment? Is life a struggle, or does it flow? It is feasible that the answers are really up to you.

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