Help Yourself To Greater Self-confidence

Help Yourself To Greater Self-confidence

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HAVE you ever wondered how some people just seem to exude self-confidence, even when what they do or who they are isnt well exceptional? Were you brought up to believe that you arent special or that you have no talent? Maybe school or family taught you that it was in your best interests NOT to blow your own trumpet or set your sights too high?

Yet self-confidence the kind that is based on appreciation and not arrogance is a natural state and one way or another, underpins our entire life experience. When your self-confidence is low, you probably find it hard to make decisions that are going to benefit you, or to take manageable risks.

So here are 5 no-cost ways to begin to improve your self-confidence. Lets face it you really are the only one who can change what you feel and do so choose one idea and work with it for a month or so. Then experiment with the rest.

SELECT three memorable incidents from the last year or two of your life, where you felt that you would have preferred your self-confidence to have been higher. Write down, or just say to yourself, what would I like to have done differently? (For example, you might wish that you had spoken out: or perhaps kept quiet. You might wish you had said no instead of yes or vice-versa. Once you have pinpointed a few key words, write them down and simply notice what you have written.

ASK your family and friends to tell you at least one thing about you that they like, or that they think you are good at. Make a point of saying thank you to each person without pushing the compliment away. Make a note of each comment, and in front of each word or phrase, write the words I AM . . .. (a good friend: funny: a good cook: a good listener etc). Put the list somewhere where you can see it on a daily basis and read it at least twice a day.

BEGIN an Appreciation practice. Whatever is happening to you, or whenever you feel doubt, find something to quietly appreciate and focus on that. It might be the warmth and taste of your tea: it might be that you can walk: it might be that the sun has come out or that you have work that brings in money. Just pause for a moment and find one small thing to appreciate.. Self-confidence is supported by an attitude that sees the best and this practice will help you to find ways to do this.

CHOOSE something you would love to do for yourself and that you have previously considered beyond your reach. Imagine that you will be doing this in say, a year from now and then write down all the little steps you will take to get there. Next to each step, write down the resources you will need time, help, training, money and so on and then next to that, how you will get those resources.

When you have completed your goal, celebrate! And if you have to celebrate alone, then do so! Write yourself a note, now, telling yourself how proud you are that you did it leave it to be opened when you reach 'the day'. And remember, not all goals are right for you: if you change your mind, do give yourself credit for making a movement in the direction of your self-confidence.

CONSIDER the next major purchase you wish to make for yourself. It may be a car, or clothes or a holiday. Make a decision about your budget and once you have done so, consider how big a step it would be to make an upgrade to your purchase? Perhaps you might have to wait a little longer and save a bit more money? Perhaps making another choice might make incur someone elses disapproval? Think about what you truly want and not what you think you are allowed to have and then see if you can adjust your first idea to get closer to what you really want.

IT TAKES SELF-CONFIDENCE, COURAGE and PATIENCE to make good choices for yourself. Think about how much a little more self-confidence would benefit you, then be gentle with yourself as you begin to make small changes. Persistence is the key - once you allow yourself to even think of being a more self-confident person, you're already on your way.

About the Author:
Deborah de Vries is the UK's leading provider of guided relaxation and personal coaching programs. She helps people to succeed in mastering life skills to create extraordinary lives. Her audio and written work gives her satisfied clients an authentic and enjoyable way to learn new and powerful ways of being. Find out more here: => http://thewellnessaudioshop.co.uk



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