He's "too Busy" For You, Or Is He?

Each and every one of us in this day and age has a lot of things going on, but being "too busy" in a relationship can often be a sign of trouble. However, you must understand the situation completely before you can accurately gauge whether your man really is too busy to hang out with you or if he's using that as an excuse to create space because he's not entirely into you anymore. Understanding men can give you deeper insight into exactly what he might be thinking and feeling.

It's natural for both partners to become slightly less infatuated and googly-eyed as a relationship wears on and the newness wears off, but if your man seems to constantly come up with excuses not to see you, then be forewarned. Trouble could be brewing.

In general, neither men nor women like confrontation. This is part of what makes relationships so difficult and confusing sometimes. It's often easier to come up with excuses rather than tell someone how you truly feel about them. The truth is, when a man truly loves a woman, he will do his best to make time for her, even if he truly is busy. But remember, he will do this on his own.

If you try to push a man into being there for you, it will only push him further away. If you approach him and tell him he's not there for you when he truly is stressed over something else taking up his time, then it will only stress him further. In these cases, try to be understanding, give him space, and do your own thing, and approach him when he can be more emotionally available to listen.

If you know of no reason why your man should be so busy, but he continually finds a way to wiggle out of doing things with you, then chances are he's lost some of his attraction for you, but is afraid of telling you the truth. If he makes excuses to avoid spending time with you, but then goes out to the bar with his buddies, then it may be time to re-think the relationship.

Men don't like to talk about relationships or feelings so if you approach him in this way, you will have very little success. Instead, show him through your actions that you are questioning his ability to be there for you emotionally.

Treat him more like a friend than a boyfriend or someone you're potentially interested in. Make plans with other people and do your own thing. When you talk on the phone, keep it short and casual. This will get you the answer you want.

Either your man will feel you becoming distant like you're slipping away and will take action to keep you or he won't. If he doesn't, then he's probably not the right man for you anyway.

Women often want the perfect man who has everything and is good at everything, but he doesn't exist. They then want the successful man, but he's too busy chasing success to be emotionally available. Then, they want the man's man, but he has his heart sealed off from feelings and emotions.

The man you truly want and need is the one who will give you his time, his attention, and most importantly his heart.