Handling Child Bullying

Bullying is when someone, or a group of people, upset or create a risk to another person's health and safety - either psychologically or physically - or their property, reputation or social acceptance on more than one occasion.

When your teen is the victim of bullying, however, these issues multiply. One form that teen bullying often takes is constant anonymous, harassing phone calls or hang ups. While you may be tempted to let your teen work out issues on his or her own.

The current measures which attempt to address bullying in our schools are failing because so many of them have failed to properly addressing the underlying dynamics which cause violence and these are: Shame and to a lesser degree, attachment.

We should spend more of our energy on the things that we can control rather than the things that we have limited or no control over. We need to teach children about the power that they already possess.

Educators or parents may try their best to combat this behaviour with constructive advice and words whenever possible, however, no-one can possibly moniter anyone's activies twenty-four/seven no matter how well meaning.

There is plenty of research to support the fact that most people do not condone bullying and would try to stop it. The problem is that the average person lacks the knowledge and strategies needed to defuse a bullying situation.

All bullies are the same no matter how old they are. Unless someone tells them to stop they believe what they are doing is acceptable. Travel with a group. Bullies like to take advantage of their victims when they are alone.

As a parent, you may find it difficult to accept that your child is a bully at school, because it makes you feel that you are not a good parent. But you must understand that your child's bullying behavior must not be ignored, because it affects the lives of other children as well.

Remain Calm:

Upon learning that your child is bullying, remain calm and focus on getting as many facts, not opinions, as possible about the incident before discussing it with your child.

It is often the case that within some Asian families, the older children will be expected to take on responsibility for the younger brothers and sisters which if considered in a western cultural context.

Just staying away from those awful malls will solve two other aspects of problem behaviour in children. If you are out and about in the country or near the sea, there is no demanding of stuff that you should buy them. There have been lots of studies which show that kids are just calmer.

The second type of problem behavior which could arise is the possibility of drug addiction among kids. I was quite shocked to learn only about 4% of parents believe that their sons and daughters of 9 -11 years old could possibly be into the drugs scene.

One mistaken way to fix behavior is when parents identify the child with the bad behaviour and they become one and the same thing. The child is identified as being 'bad' but the behaviour is glossed over or ignored. A much more effective way is to talk it through with the child.