Giving Advice To Women To Attract Even More Women

Unsolicited advice is hardly ever really welcome. When a man gives advice to a woman, the automatic instinct kicks in that drives a woman's senses down, as she knows full well that while she might learn something from a male advice giver, she is also playing right into the hands of the age old viewpoint that women can't do anything without a man's opinion.

Use extreme caution when delving out advice to a woman that you just met. In fact, with some women it should be totally avoided altogether. Women who chronically experience the old boys club are chronically having a man's friendly advice shoved down their throat while they have to work harder and with more purpose to get an even footing in the eyes of her counterparts. Certainly receiving advice from a man during her down time isn't going to strike any positive chords within her.

There are other women who will just pretend to eat it up as though they are doing you a huge service to your ego by allowing you to ramble on and on about something that you believe you know a lot about. These women are playing into the same age old perception that a woman can't do anything without a man's advice, but they are using it in their favor. For the most part, she isn't listening and that is insulting to you.

When it comes to dishing out your opinion or advice, don't bother unless you are asked. If you are asked, which usually means that there is some reason that she thinks you would know more than her about the topic, be careful about the way you put things. Explain it without adjustment. That means don't quantify your statements with "I am sure you already know this," because if she doesn't then she might take that as though she was stupid. Don't put little jokes in there about her gender, "Women always think they have to do it this way, but if they would just back up and think a minute," as you have just called all women stupid and inflexible.

It is always better to either ask a woman to give her advice, but only if you feel you can really listen to what she is saying, or to give the advice requested and then ask for her advice on a different topic as well. "Since you got to pick my brain for a few minutes, now I would like to pick yours," evens the playing field. Neither women or men like to feel as though they are losing the balance of power. They don't like to feel as though the other individual is getting in all the "good stuff" while they just sit there and feel incompetent.

You have the capacity to talk to her without being condescending or sounding as though she should already know the same things you do, but when you get nervous or start to feel like you are being put on the spot, you might forget and then slip up with some statements that might close her down.

Advice giving can be a very slippery slope. You might want to avoid it altogether until you are fairly sure that your relationship can withstand the argument that might ensue. The biggest problem with giving advice is that it puts you in a position that makes you appear that you know more than someone else. Since advice usually applies to someone else's life, how can that really be true? Why not try asking some questions that help her figure something out. She knows what it best for her way better than you do and she is perfectly capable of finding the answer that works best for her. Most guys will take the track that they have the answer so she should listen. The results that can follow by putting your faith in her and just helping her with a few non-directive questions can be amazing.

Questions like, "What do you think would be best for you?" and "what would be the worst case scenario?" and "Can you live with that?" give her an opportunity to be real and honest without feeling the threat that normally happens whenever anyone is under the impression that someone else knows more about their life than they do.

Advice is just talking with a strong opinion of authority. If you remove the opinion of authority, then you turn into two people just talking and figuring out the world together. What a great way to bring her closer to you! What a fabulous way to work through all of your situations together and to learn to grow in a totally different way than before.