Getting Her Back - 3 Tips To Sparking Her Interest All Over Again

Separating from a girl you truly love can be very painful emotionally, and getting her back will often be at the forefront of your mind. Every breakup is different. Only you and your girlfriend know the exact circumstances that led to the end of the relationship. It may have ended in an instant or it may have occurred over a long period of time. The good news is most relationships can be salvaged by following a few simple guidelines.

Here's 3 tips you can use to revive your relationship and win her back.

1.) Avoid contact

After a breakup, avoiding contact with your ex can be the most difficult thing to do, but it is probably the most important step to take in getting her back. When the relationship ends, you should avoid contact with your ex for a minimum of 1-2 weeks. This means no emails, texts, phone calls, or showing up at her doorstep, and especially no drunk dialing.

Even if your ex girlfriend tries to contact you, you should avoid taking her call or responding to her text messages for at least a couple of weeks. You need this time emotionally. She needs this time. Every time you contact her or accept one of her calls, you start the whole process over, and she never has a chance to miss you or to really sit down and think rationally about the relationship. Neither of you can move forward until you've had time to let your emotions settle down so you don't make irrational decisions.

Your girlfriend NEEDS to miss you if you want to get her back. If you're forced to be in contact with your girlfriend because you work together or because you have a close knit group of friends that you both hang out with, then be cordial, but not conversational.

2.) Recreate fun in the relationship to bring back the attraction

If you want to win back your ex girlfriend, she needs to feel the attraction she felt for you when you first got together. Attraction isn't a choice. She can't rationally decide to be attracted to you so you need to do things to make her "feel" the attraction again.

Once you've taken a break for a couple of weeks and have started talking again, make sure to always leave things on a positive note. Be fun and funny. Don't make all your conversations about your past relationships. It's time to move past that and start fresh.

Continually bringing up the past will only make her feel pain, hurt, sadness, and other negative emotions. Getting her back depends on reminding her of all the positive things and good times you had while you were dating. Always leave things on a high note, and it will be much easier to revive your relationship.

3.) Change it up

Rekindling the initial phases of attraction and romance you had at the beginning of your relationship requires a personal transformation. It starts with you. You see, sights, sounds, and smells are linked unconsciously to emotions, whether they be good or bad. It's human nature, and it's completely uncontrollable.

As a relationship falters, bad emotions tend to overcome the good, and your ex subconsciously begins to link these bad emotions to you. This means even the sight or smell of you can make her feel pain, hurt, and other negative emotions. The good news is you can break the pattern.

There are millions of ways to break the pattern, but some of the easiest are to start working out, change your hair style or color, change your wardrobe, or start using a new cologne. This has the double effect of improving your own self image and self confidence and giving you a fresh start psychologically speaking as you work on reviving your relationship.

Follow these 3 tips and you'll be well on your way to getting your ex girlfriend back.