Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back - Why Crying Never Works

Getting an ex boyfriend back depends on you and your attitude. Period.

Regardless of why the breakup occurred, every relationship has the opportunity to be salvaged and repaired, but that doesn't mean there's a fail proof method that works 100% of the time. Rather, it is extremely rare to have a breakup occur where the two people don't give it a second thought or question whether they made the right decision walking away.

This is great news because it means you WILL get your chance to get your ex boyfriend back, but it will be your attitude that determines whether or not you're successful. So, listen up.

When a breakup occurs, what do most women do? They cry. It makes sense. Who wouldn't cry and be emotionally distraught when their heart gets ripped from their chest, right?

Truth be known, it's perfectly ok to cry and you SHOULD cry because it will help you feel better. Just don't let your man see you do it. Cry by yourself, cry with girlfriends, or cry with family, but don't cry around your man or you will only confirm to him that leaving you was the right choice.

The case of the crying woman is pure poison to any chance you have of getting your man back. Why? Crying is a sign of desperation and neediness. When it comes to breakups, crying usually goes along with begging and pleading with your man to take you back, professing your undying love for him and how you can't live without him, and makes you appear desperate, needy, and dependent upon someone else for your happiness.

These are all unattractive qualities in a partner and only make your man want to sprint for the hills. He wants to be your partner and lover, not your babysitter. He shouldn't feel like he has to take care of you the way a husband and wife take care of their child. Understand?

If you want the best chance of getting an ex boyfriend back, you need to do a complete 180 from what you're currently doing and go in the opposite direction. Be the independent, attractive woman you were in the beginning that made your man fall in love with you in the first place. You had nothing to lose when you first met your man and it's that attitude that attracted him in the beginning and the same attitude that will bring him back now.

To win him back, accept the breakup and start acting like you're single again and most importantly happy about it. You can even verbally tell him the next time you talk to him that you've thought about things and you agree that giving each other some space right now is the right thing to do. Then, stop being available.

Don't take his calls all the time, and when you do talk, keep conversations short. Go out with friends, have fun, and show him through your actions and attitude that you are strong, confident, independent, and perfectly capable of being happy on your own. These are all attractive qualities.

When a man breaks up with you, he will look for confirmation that he made the right decision. When you're crying and desperate, he feels he made the right decision. When you turn the tables and do the opposite, it puts the relationship back in your hands and will have him thinking about you constantly.