For Everyday Emotional Woes Take Action

One purpose we all share is the one that has to do with learning to understand and manage our emotions. Pretty much all of us have to work on that. It's a really evolved, highly effective, terribly conscious human being that never acts out in anger, never says a mean thing when their buttons get pushed, and never hangs on to grudges. Even though it seems like it could be aiming too high, in fact, that's what we all should strive for. Emotional management is something we all have to work on.

Given that every single human being needs to learn emotional management, you'd think they teach it in schools. For the most part, they don't. For parents that are interested in giving their children a leg up, there is a great product called Calm Song. It teaches children what it feels like to be calm, and with repeated use, makes it easier for them to be calm naturally. Next time they get angry or anxious, they are more easily able to access that inner calm state. Talk about a head start in life!

What about the rest of us that grew up in houses that not only didn't provide us with a platform of consistent calm but in most cases was chaotic. Well, don't worry, we aren't alone. We're all learning emotional management together. It's important to note that feelings aren't bad. It's necessary to feel sad when something sad happens. Fear can keep you safe and anger can clue you in to some changes that need to happen. Allow the feeling to exist, respect it, but also understand that it is not your reality, it's a feeling. It's a message and it's telling you to do something.

Why is it so important to take action on your feelings? In my mind the main reason is to keep yourself grounded in this reality, and keep you out of the reality of the feeling. What I mean by that is when you allow yourself to be carried away by fear or sadness, the feeling becomes your reality. It takes over. The feeling is doing the talking, walking, and leading of your life. Over time, this will literally make you crazy. Most of us understand this intuitively to a degree, so we only let our emotions take over sometimes, when we have a good reason. While this might be okay socially, it really doesn't serve us. To the extent we can recognize the feelings are messages and should never have full reign to take over, we will increase the quality of our lives. When our relationships, workplaces and homes are no longer the stage on which we act out our emotional state, life gets better. The drama recedes.

The problem or issue that originally pushed you into the feeling likely needs some attention. Take action on it. Not action 'in the emotion', yelling or moping or getting back would be allowing it to take over. I mean action 'on it', like confronting someone for a conversation to clear the air, or making life adjustments to avoid the situation occuring again. In some cases, if you have been angered by someone because 'they did something to you', the action you need to take could be less clear. They are the one that did something to you, right? In that case I still believe it is an issue of giving away your personal power, and precisely the reason while you should take action on your own behalf. It might not be that you take action on 'the problem' because you can't fix other people. Still, get your life moving and flowing with some purposeful action in some area of your life.

If you keep up the purposeful action piece, the angering, victimizing issue will likely be one of the things that gets thrown in your path and worked on, too, even if you aren't aware of it. For the sake of evolving our emotional management skills, in response to our everyday emotional woes, the best thing we can do is to stay centered and take action.