Finding Work Today Depression & Denial Or Insight &confidence

Anger, exhaustion, depression and denial theyre not only stages of grief, but what happens when your identity is only defined by what you do - and if you are one of the 9.1 % of people without a job, and your world is not the same as it once was your indignation could be justified but will that help you get a job?
The harsh glare of a Newsweek headline, The Beached White Male, tells a story of the devastating pain many men live with today; fatigue, drinking, fights with their wives, low to no sex drive threatened by the loss of their manhood. What are these tried and true breadwinners meant to do in an era where destinys knock sounds like a futile comeback call to geese who have already flown south for the season and who might never see the return of jobs they once took for granted.
It doesnt stop there, the number of people unemployed for at least a year is five times higher today than after the dotcom bubble. Their symptoms of stress appear in night sweats and shame-based idleness when too defeated to even make a move - night or day.
Is just getting a job the cure? And how can you get one if your world is spiraling down with visions that youll have to live with a crushed ego and take less than what you are worthy of just to tread above the line of survival.
Finding a job could bring temporary relief, but it wont cure these symptoms. Life as we have known it is changing in the 21st century. Is there anything we can glean from this situation that will bring greater security in the years ahead?
The most difficult challenges can bring the greatest rewards if we look for them. When I was thirty I lost everything I had. I was the owner of a store in Beverly Hills. I literally walked away from every dime I had put into it, because of a relationship that went south when a partner got involved with drugs.
With no income from the store I was running out of money to pay the mortgage on my home; I had two months left before losing it to the bank. I sold it in the final hour but had to walk away with none of the money I had put into it.
Devastated isnt a strong enough word to tell you how I felt, it was a huge blow to my identity. The thoughts running through my head when I woke each day were as bleak and dismal as I felt about myself.
I wasn't a homeowner, a storeowner, or a person who had accomplished anything now that I was losing everything who was I? It was beyond humbling, it was a crisis of great import, and, what it gave me was a way to view my life that has served me every day since that momentous time.
The pain so many men and women are suffering from today is an opportunity to recognize what is of greatest value in anyones life. You are not what you do, or what you own. When I understood this, I realized that I create how I feel on any given day because I choose to feel that way not because of the images of success that surrounded me.
The trappings we design are an illusion that can collapse overnight. The faade that creates our image can crumble in an instant and for any number of reasons besides the loss of a job; your car crashes into a tree and your secret life is exposed, the CEO of a major corporation who is the envy of his peers, discovers overnight his throne has become a prison, where loss of life is better than living without feeling successful even if its all a fraud.
If you believe you are the identity of what surrounds you, you will suffer a great loss. Knowing who you are regardless of your circumstances could not only save your life one day, it will allow you to ride through even the roughest storms.
When you have gained the wisdom that never leaves you, because its based on true power who you are at your core regardless of what you own, or wear, or drive then you will be able to weather any storms that arise.
Consider that your confident frame of mind from knowing and truly believing that you have value just being you is everything to finding a job and to having a life you love when youre working and when youre not.
Now, whats interesting is that when you really get this, you magnify new possibilities into your life. Maybe its time to find a new vocation. Maybe you now have the time to play in a world you never would have because you were always too busy.
A highly skilled Technology Consultant recently went through a period where he couldnt find work for over a year. During that time, Joe continued applying for jobs while giving himself the gift of doing what he always dreamed of but never had the time.
He used his talents to produce stories on video that helped people to express their newfound work. It didnt earn him a lot of money but he found satisfaction in it, and recognized how much value he brought to people through this skill.
He looked deeper into his spiritual life, spent time in introspection and stillness, and devoured books that brought him a new perspective and enriched his overall vision.
Joes kids got to know him better, the time he spent in reviewing his life allowed him to be with his kids and his family in ways that were more loving and accepting than he had previously been. While he shared that his spirits werent always high, for the most part they were, and in time when he got a new job, he approached it from the new understanding he had gained in the last year.
Joe had been burnt out and had not wanted to return to his previous line of work, but now he discovered through his new way of viewing life, the people and the work became so much more enjoyable.
What can happen to shift our perspective, to be able to weather all the rough terrain of a world that is changing faster than our intellect can keep up with? Maybe it's the loss of a job that can turn your whole life around. How you look at it, and what you learn from it is key not only for getting a job but for having a life you appreciate more each day.

A Few Support Systems
1.Initiate: Take on a new endeavor that will result in a positive outlook, whether that means reading a book that inspires you, starting a new health regime, or anything that engages your mind, while healing your body & spirit as well.

2.Volunteer: There are thousands of communities that need your time, heart and talents. Your outlook and confidence will grow as you recognize the value you have to offer others in need.
3.Educate: Educate yourself in a new field. Now is the perfect time to study more about what youve always wanted to do. Consider giving it a try.

4.BREATHE: Sometimes you can get so caught up with trying to find work, pay the bills and keep your family happy, that stress levels can go through the roof. Practicing Stillness, a unique new form of meditation, solely by listening to music, is a great way to relieve anxiety and regain focus supporting a resourceful frame of mind and an ability to reconnect to the source of inspiration where answers await you.

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