Finding The Value: Your Most Vital Closing Skill

Of the many networking skills you'll want in your arsenal, showing people why they should join your organization is among the most important. There is no set system to do this, however, because each person is different and will want different things--wealth, prestige, family life, wellness, time freedom, and so on.

One approach people try is hard-selling, which we can safely say is despised by just about everyone. Hard selling involves pushing the actual product onto the prospect, using the sheer energy of your presentation to override any concerns or objections they may have. This is why many people pretend to not be at home when the salesman comes a-knockin' on the door.

Nobody likes being sold!! A customer may buy your product or service to get you off their back, but you'll lose a lot of goodwill and probably the chance to re-sell too. It's even more detrimental for building a network because your organization won't have a stable relationship to stand on. You'll have a cascade of fall-outs as soon as you turn your back on your new sign-ups.

There's another technique that not only stands a better chance of closing a prospect but also fosters goodwill and a sense of cooperation: presenting your business as the best answer to your client's desire.

This is the opposite of hard-selling. You do less talking and more listening. You need to have some patience, a few appropriate questions, and a sympathetic ear. Your goal is to find your prospect's specific want before positioning your business as a solution.

Think how it would be sitting down with a prospect for the first time. Do you go instantly into a presentation? I would hope not! You'll want to get to know them first. You try and talk for a while to build rapport. This is the appropriate time to ask a few probing questions.

Probing is a bit of an art. You need to come from genuine interest, without coming across as inquisitorial. The key is to get the other person talking about themselves. This is usually easy to do, since we're our own favorite subject.

Your aim is to steer the conversation towards topics that are important to them. Ask them to explain in greater detail, clarify, share stories. Doing so will ultimately lead them to talk about what's missing from their lives.

Here are some topics that can lead towards more meaningful communication:

Family

oHow is your spouse doing?
oHow are your children?
oHow are your parents?

Career

oYou must be doing very well in your job now, right?
oDoes your boss treat you well?
oDo you have time for yourself or your family?
oAre you happy with where you are?

Acquisitions/Achievements

oSo what's next for you?
oAre you aiming to buy a new home/car/business?
oSo are you thinking about retirement? How's it going so far?

You can also steer the topic towards health, children's education, or any present or future expenses. Find out where the problems are. Maybe they're worried about financing their home. Maybe they're disappointed with their paycheck or their job status. Maybe they're struggling with supporting their parents or an unemployed sibling. Maybe they're dealing with an uncertain financial future.

Take the time to sincerely listen, to empathize with your prospect. Let them talk. Resist the temptation to jump in with advice. It's important that you understand what they wish for and that you're genuinely interested in what they have to say. Only after they've finished talking do you thank them for sharing and then lead into your presentation:

"I understand you have these issues and I'd like to see if I can help. I know a way that can benefit you financially/career-wise/health-wise, and you can do it on your own schedule and your own pace. Would you like to hear it?"

When they say yes, proceed to the presentation, making sure to point out how it will indeed help with their concerns. Come from the place of wanting to help. Show them that an extra means of leveraged income will solve a majority of their problems, and that you can coach them on how to do it.

By establishing a specific need, you have the basis for a business relationship. Your prospect won't feel that you sold them something; they'll feel as if you helped them make a wise choice. It will be easier to close the deal. In fact, you won't have to convince them--they'll convince themselves!