Fertility Issues - Using Eft To Overcome Negative Emotions

Susan was having difficulties getting pregnant. She had been trying for a long time and was very frustrated. She was feeling many negative emotions and feeling "like a freak" for having all these negative emotions. I reassured her that all of these feelings were normal and very common with women with fertility issues. There was a bit of relief when she heard this. We used EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) on the fact that she felt like a freak for feeling these emotions as well as tapping on all the negative emotions.

At the beginning of the session, Susan declared herself a worrier, "stress head" and said that she was a very negative person.

We started tapping on her strongest emotions which were jealousy and envy - these rated 9 or 10 on the SUDS level.

Even though I feel so jealous of my neighbour because she's got a baby and I haven't, I'm open to accepting myself and my feelings

Even though I feel envious and I don't want to think about my neighbour because it's so unfair that she's got a baby and I haven't, I accept how I feel about this

Even though I feel jealous of my neighbour - she's a lucky cow and it's so unfair that she's got a baby and I haven't, I'm open to accepting myself

Even though I'm not happy with myself and I constantly wish I was someone else, I accept all my feelings about this

After several rounds the jealousy and envious feelings had subsided to 0. To test this I got Susan to visualise her neighbour again. She laughed and said - I could visualise her no problem, whereas in the past I wouldn't have wanted to think about her. She said she felt less nasty towards her neighbour and could feel a shift had taken place.

Next we addressed her "I shoulds". I should be grateful for everything I do have. I should have children by now, it's not fair, my brother and sister have children, why haven't I? We tapped on:

Even though I should be grateful for everything I do have, I don't feel grateful, I feel life isn't fair and I'm open to accepting myself

Even though I should be grateful for everything I do have, I feel what have I done to deserve this and I'm open to accepting myself

Even though it's not fair, my brother and sister have children, what makes me different, what have I done that means I haven't got children yet, I accept my feelings about this.

Tapping through the points using:

Why me?

What have I done to deserve this

It's not fair

Life isn't fair

My brother and sister have children

Why haven't I got children

What's so different about me

I should feel grateful for everything I do have, but I just don't

I wish I was someone else

Everyone else is much happier than me

The feeling "what have I done" dropped from a 10 to a 0 after a few rounds. There was also a cognitive shift about "everyone is much happier than me". This had transformed to "I don't really know that other people are happy - it could just be a front! I don't know what goes on in other people's lives."