False Allegations, Dishonest Tactics, What Does A Honest Parent To Do?

When an upstanding, sincere, hardworking parent gets surprised by an indignant ex it can really upset you to the core. When all you ever vowed to do was be the best parent and partner you could be. When the union ended you had no idea that you were going to be coerced to explore the boundaries of the outlandish and twisted too.
Once youve spent an eternity with someone, shared happiness, sorrow, triumphs, and failures together, you may take for granted that even if you cant stay together at least you can cooperate together for the best interest of your child. Maybe you didnt spend an eternity married but still had a child together, the same level of trust gets presumed. And even if you only were acquainted with each other for a short time you never gave anyone cause to believe you were a horrifying person.
No matter which scenario fits you, it all ends up with you having the other parent falsely accuse you of a thing that could not be farther from the truth. Why would they do that? Because they are angered, things are not going well for them or even worse, things may be going in your favor. If you give it some thought, Im sure you will be able to uncover their motivation.
But what made them falsely accuse you not just of something you did not do, but something that they know you would never do? Simple, because it upsets you and pulls you off of your doing well streak. You see the best defense is a good offense. If you are busy struggling for yourself, there is no way for you to keep showing what a great parent you are.
So whats should an honorable parent to do? Simple, get back on offense. Your offense changes from speaking about what a great parent you are, to confronting the charge. You see, courts, mediators, evaluators, and Child Protective Services have all been around the block before you and your ex came along. You just remind them of it.
The first thing you do is easy, deny the charge. No need to be fancy, just a matter of fact no, not me. Then you follow on with, you know we are in a high conflict custody battle? Apparently, life is not going their way. Then question why this never came up before. Speak about the many small things that the other parent contacted you about before. How could they worry about all those minute details if this was true? Realize that you are now in a serious battle and journal everything. Time is your ally.
If you are high conflict there will be a reluctance from the courts about allowing joint custody. Because of this you will need to educate yourself about parallel parenting. This is different from co-parenting. Educate yourself about it and embrace it.
Now, armed with the knowledge that you were making progress, the fact that you can document this was never an issue, and the knowledge of parallel parenting, you can use the false allegation and turn it to your advantage. That is the power an honest parent has against dishonest tactics.