Every Affair Is An Emotional Affair

Yes an emotional affair still counts as cheating. We need to work hard and get these things to stop happening around us on a daily basis. An affair is likely one of the hardest things to ever find out about your spouse. At first your brain will be so heavy with thoughts that its likely a bad headache will be around.

If you suspect an affair its because the little things have changed. All of a sudden your spouse is getting text messages in higher numbers and at weird times. They go out of their way to defend the messages but they never offer to show them to you. Its just the little things that has you wondering and has you senses tingling.

It is a horrible feeling to have to start snooping through your spouses things like text, emails and phone messages but an emotional affair or any affair for that matter is absolutely not acceptable. There are always better ways of dealing with relationship problems other then getting mixed up in an affair.

Of course you need to do something once you have looked around and found things that just are not acceptable. You cant delay, you need to ask your partner about the emotional affair they are carrying on.

Of course you arent going to be very popular and you will very quickly become the bad person for snooping. Of course your spouse will make things look like they are your fault. If they cant make it your fault they will go after other reasons to show why things may have happened. Of course at first they will say its just about friendship and then they will move on to blaming you for not being there for them.

There is going to be a number of excuses but your mission needs to be you staying calm and doing what it takes to fix the relationship after the emotional affair.

It may be all about starting at the beginning with baby steps. Moving forward is the only steps you want to worry about. You will keep sane as long as you make sure you don't start going back wards in anything you are trying to accomplish.

The main thing that needs to be worked on is communication. There is a good chance that since the relationship has gotten to this that the communication is long gone.

You have two options, they are verbal and non verbal communication. Verbal is you can start talking slowly to your spouse. Even if its just about how there work is going or about the latest book they are reading. Non verbal can be something like sitting down to watch a movie or something together.

Bottom line while it may very well be devastating an affair or emotional affair does not have to be the end of the road. If the love was and is strong enough with some effort, communication and tweeking things can be saved.


Copyright (c) 2011 Dale Mazurek