Emotional Affair - In Too Deep With It!

Cheating is so common and so, shall we say, infamous, that many psychologist and therapist are studying why it happens and how it works. I believe it is safe to say that there are different kinds of infidelity: the Mental, Physical and Emotional Affair.

The strongest of these three is the Emotional Affair for it is the most painful when it comes out into the open. It deals with our feelings and the matters of the heart mostly, therefore this may also be the most deceiving one, and it hurts in both ways no matter who it is, either the faithful one or the cheating one.

FOR THE CHEATING ONE

How does this emotional affair begin? Well, more often than not, it begins with the mere blooming of a close friendship with a certain person of the opposite sex. It usually happens when we least expect it. A person never really deliberately plans or decides to cheat on their partner. As everyone says as an excuse, it just happensAnd when it does, they realize that their already in too deep with it that they can no longer escape. So, what are the obvious signs that you are in an emotional affair?

You choose to spend more time with another specific person than with your spouse

You find yourself thinking or daydreaming of a romantic moment with that special friend

You long to be with your special friend all the time talking, eating, and enjoying the moment you have

You relentlessly look for reasons to do something nice to your special friend or to talk with them any time of the day

You notice that your special friend seems to know you more than your partner and is more interesting in you

You feel butterflies in your stomach whenever youre with that special friend,
but when youre with your partner, you feel nothing special.

You talk with this friend so many times, either personally or through the phone.

Dont be ignorant when you realize these signs at some point of your affair, and more importantly, dont try to make excuses, alibis or try to defend yourself by saying Im just giving this gift as a token of our friendship or Is it wrong to do something good to a person once in a while? Dont be a fool. Thats emotional affair right there.

In the end, this will hurt you when you realize you cant be with that special friend forever because you are in a commitment, you are already bound by marriage with your partner. And this will be most especially painful when your spouse finds out and if you have kids with that partner. You not only hurt yourself but also those closest to you.


FOR THE FAITHFUL ONE

Of course, the emotional affair is most especially painful to the one who is faithful. The pain of discovering the truth will hit you like a slap in the face or, excuse the hyperbole, a stab in the heart. All the while you have been a faithful partner, doing what you think is right and sticking to the vows of your marriage. But then you discover that your beloved is cheating on you and you start thinking that every word and act your partner did, these things that you once thought were nothing but the truth, now all seems like lies and acts of deception all this time.

When this crime strikes, keep in mind that even though there may be a possibility that you have a fault in it (like maybe you failed to meet your partners expectations), dont forget that your cheating partner is in greater fault. Now only did your partner lie to you about it but they are physically and emotionally acting on their lies. Honey, why did you come home so late last night? you ask, and they say Oh, I had to do overtime in work for a presentation. Dont worry sweetie, it wont happen again. When if fact, they were out dating with the third party and that it did happen again.


WHAT MUST BE DONE

Now that we know that any affair begins with being close friends with the opposite sex, does this mean that we should be anti-social and avoid hanging out with the opposite sex? Of course not!

The bottom line is to know your limitations in every thing that you do. When you get closer to the thin line to the other side, stop and back up a few steps. Dont make excuses or act innocent, because in the end, you will be guilty as charge.