Eight Do's And Don'ts For Sending The First Email On A Gay Dating Site

Eight Do's And Don'ts For Sending The First Email On A Gay Dating Site

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Gay dating sites have become more popular than ever, and there's a lot of advice out there about making the process work for you. Getting off on the right foot with a prospective match is exceptionally important, and the first email you send can make - or break - the entire deal. Since we want to see you succeed as much as you want to succeed, we've highlighted four do's and four don'ts about sending that all-important first message on a gay dating site.

- DO mention, and comment about, a specific detail from their profile. For instance, if they mention that they have a cat, ask them how old it is. If they write about enjoying a certain band, ask them what their favorite song from them is.

- DON'T go on and on about what your turn-offs or deal-breakers are. By doing that, you are going to make them feel very insecure about ever meeting you, and they're going to think that you are a very judgmental person. Keep it positive (see DO #3, below).

- DO keep your message brief and to the point. Nobody wants to spend fifteen minutes reading through a message from a stranger. Long-winded messages will bore them to tears - if they bother reading it in the first place.

- DON'T ask to meet right away. Mentioning a potential date or meet-up in the very first message that you send is a good way to come across as extremely desperate. Keep things light, no matter how excited you are about the other person.

- DO keep it positive. Misery loves company, and if you send out messages that are negative, you're going to attract all of the negative people. Stay upbeat and make it clear that you are a fun, happy person. Your positivity will be infectious, and it will prompt them to want to learn more about you.

- DON'T share your war stories. Even if you've had a number of off-putting experiences through gay dating sites, you don't need to share them with another person right away. If you do, they are going to be reticent about meeting up with you and will assume that you are very difficult to please. As hilarious as some of your stories may be, save them for some time down the road - perhaps when the two of you have been an item for a while.

- DO wrap up your message with an open-ended question. Strategically placing an open-ended question at the end of a message increases the odds that it will be replied to. Examples include "Why did you start (hobby mentioned in profile)?" or "How did you get into (job or profession mentioned in profile)?" The recipient is more likely to click on that "reply" button when he or she has a compelling reason to do so - and having the chance to talk about them can be a very good one.

- DON'T give out personal information of any kind. Later on - when you have a better idea about who the other person is - you can give them your phone number and other contact information. For now, play it cool and resist the urge to give them your personal email address or other information; otherwise, you could end up with a stalker on your hands.

About the Author:
Matt Suissa is a co-founder of GuyDater.com, and is part of the human element that combines with the site's IntelliSearch software to provide members with the most relevant match results in the industry! To find out more about how technology is changing gay online dating, visit http://www.guydater.com



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