Does The Narcissistic Emotional Abuser Have A Golden Egg?

Does The Narcissistic Emotional Abuser Have A Golden Egg?

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You've asked yourself no less than a thousand times, "Why do I stay in this craziness?" Perhaps you've processed one possible answer of the fear of being alone and accepted that your experience might not necessarily be a fear of being alone, but that you would prefer not to be alone. Through assessing whether you've remained in such an emotionally destructive relationship due to the alone factor, you've concluded that though you prefer companionship and quite possibly might be afraid of being alone, you've also realized that the discomfort and emotional pain resulting from the alone factor is no where near the emotional pain experienced by remaining in relationship with the narcissistic emotional abuser in your life.

You've realized that when experiencing feelings of loneliness that by diverting your attentions from this reality you are in deed able to distance yourself from the sadness. You are able to, if not completely, at least momentarily, experience relief from emotional pain and discomfort. Unlike the emotional pain experienced by the craziness created by the narcissistic emotional abuser which regardless of your attempts to divert your attentions by various activities avails no relief whatsoever.

You've found you can be in the midst of loved family members and friends, at a professional sporting event, attending a long awaited concert, vacationing on a beautiful beach with perfect weather, and yet your heart breaks and your guts wrench with emotional pain. No relief, not even for a moment, can be felt.

You are unique, unfortunately so, with this experience. You've read, "Life goes on. Get over it. Quit playing a pity party for yourself. You shouldn't be giving this person the time of day thinking about them. They certainly aren't thinking about you, etc." If the well-intended outsiders only knew just how hard you are trying. What is it they are thinking you are getting out of remaining in this world of anguish? Have you yet been told, "You must like the pain because you're the one that's choosing to stay with the narcissistic emotional abuser"? Yes, you are unique. It makes no sense to others and it makes no sense to you.

So, you keep asking yourself the question, "Why?" This is a good thing because the answer does lie within you and only you, yourself, can find this answer. Your journey is so completely unique. Will this curse ever become a blessing? If you survive, yes. The struggle if you are sill involved with a narcissistic emotional abuser is, of course, whether you will survive.

This is not to say that you will physically die, however, that, too, is a possibility. What is being referred to here is the you that existed before crossing paths with the narcissistic emotional abuser. The you that used to laugh, create, skip and run, smile and enjoy the simple things in life. Since involvement with the narcissistic emotional abuser, life's colors, sounds, and scents have lost their affect on you. You live and breathe, but you feel dead inside, except for the gut wrenching pain. Nothing makes any sense anymore.

One more time you ask yourself, "Why do I remain in this chaos? Why do I love them so? Why do I love them more than my very own life? Why?"

Does the narcissistic emotional abuser have a golden egg? This is not just in reference to monetary substance as one would perceive when using the descriptor "golden egg." Have they promised you travel or to own a home or to build you a bigger, more beautiful home? Do they have a pension plan, or relatively speaking, sufficient retirement monies? Do they make you feel like no lover has ever made you feel? When in their presence are they completely into you like no one else has ever been into you?

Think about this. What is it that they have over you? It is like a curse with unseen power and at the same time that you feel a curse is upon you, you feel drawn to the narcissistic emotional abuser. It is like being in a jail cell with the door open, yet you are unable to muster up the sense to walk out and stay out.

What is the golden egg they have that you want? What is it that they do for you that somehow you have come to believe you cannot exist without? If they are involved with others, though they remain denying this reality even though you've definite evidence to support your belief, do you want to win over the others? Somewhere in your mind do you think you are the winner of the prized goose, if they choose you instead of all the others?

Finding and understanding what the golden egg is with the narcissistic emotional abuser will be a challenge. In discovering the golden egg, you will uncover your own main insecurity. This fear is so great within yourself that you would risk the demise of you. You would choose to endure abuse instead of facing the very thing that if you'd choose to face and develop would birth the real you.

It has been written and said that most humans die with the music still in them. Will you dare to be you? If you seek and find the golden egg with the narcissistic emotional abuser in your life, your present cursing will become a blessing. Dare to be you. Be encouraged. Dare to be you.

About the Author:
Professional mental health provider with website helping people get out of emotionally painful relationships with narcissistic emotional abusers. For archives and further help, please visit website at:
http://www.dare2bucounseling.com



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