Does My Ex Still Love Me? A Different Viewpoint

Have you been wondering, "Does my ex still love me?" Okay, why don't we spend some time to put the possibilities into perspective. What possible difference would it make in your life whether your ex does or does not continue to love you? Exactly how would that alter your life? If your ex does still love you, could that change your life for the better or for the worse? Either is a possibility if you happen to have feelings for your ex as well. Think about this for a moment. If you still love your ex, and visa versa, how come you are calling this person 'your ex'. A troubling thought, hey! There may be some good answers.

Don't feel bad about considering the possibility that an old flame still could have feelings for you. It does not mean something is wrong. At times all of us ponder about an old romance we at one time really enjoyed. I've gazed back several decades, to when I must have been a youth, and had been dating my 'one and only' for most of my high school years. I had been contemplating what the possibility of that person still thinking of me at times, or had forgotten about me completely. There was absolutely no chance that anything at all could come out of it in any event, nonetheless it felt very good to chill out and wonder 'what if'. Reminiscing now and then is good for the heart and soul.

Okay, it's time to let go of your dreams and come back to the here and now. At this point your inquisitive mind takes charge, and you decide to explore an ex's emotions. Foremost, you must remember that there were good reasons why you two split up. The problems that were the cause of the separation may still be valid. Be careful that you don't become so ecstatic over the chance of reversing the breakup that you neglect those previous issues. You must remember the reason why the relationship dissolved the first time around. On the other hand, if you do not try, you will be asking yourself 'what if' for some time.

So be it, if you still feel that you must find out more about your ex's emotions, it's essential to initially accept that some things may not be as they seem. You have to be able to accept anything that happens. Very much like opening Pandora's box. You are unable to predict just what can happen or any final result. One prospect is that you discover that your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is interested in you. Now what? You are ecstatic. Feelings are cruising around your brain. "Hey, this is wonderful!" Or perhaps, "We're getting back together!"

Before you go off half-cocked and do something permanent, (How can you un-ring a bell?) there are some questions you must ask yourself. Have you got an existing partner? Are you sure it is in your best interest to risk that romance? Do you realize the possible tarnishing of your popularity? Do you want to risk being dumped once again, perhaps by two people this time, if this affair with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend flops? Is a romantic relationship with your ex lover worth wrecking your current relationship? These are a few of the risks you may be exposing yourself to simply by asking questions about your ex; without really starting up with your ex. You may end up having two people mad at you, or worse.

You must have a serious discussion with yourself or a trusted confidant, to come up with some genuine answers to the above questions. You need those answers before determining that you want to throw away what you have, to revive something questionable from your past. Something that has previously been unsuccessful. Regardless of who initiated the original separation, there are reasons why that relationship is over. There are reasons you refer to that individual as "your ex".

Hence, if you are looking back and asking yourself, "Does my ex still love me?", generally it is advisable to allow it to stay a question. Keep the prior lives out of the present. Often times it is best to wonder about a question rather than actually discover the answer.

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