Do Ex Boyfriends Come Back? Sure They Do, Heres How...

Do you find yourself asking, do ex boyfriends come back? Of course youre asking yourself that question right now or you wouldnt be here, would you?! Coping with a break up is no fun. Its painful, anguishing, and depressing. Youre hurt and upset even when everything seems to be going right. When that special song comes on, or you get a whiff of his cologne on someone else; its enough to cause a break down when you least expect it.

So if youre trying to figure out a way to get back with that ex boyfriend of yours and put all of this pain behind, then you need to follow a plan of attack. Everything you do and say needs to be with a purpose. Saying (or doing) the wrong thing at the wrong time will completely destroy any chance you have at re-connecting. You need to know what you are going to do before you do it and what needs to be said before you open your mouth. Weve got to put our emotions in check (at least around the ex), and do what tens of thousands before have done Get him back!

Its actually much easier than you may think, but we have to prepare for it. Before we do anything else though, you need to do some soul searching ask yourself if you truly want your ex back. Couples break up for every reason under the sun. Some are for what seem to be silly reasons and others are due to pretty bad situations. If you are just getting out of an abusive relationship, I cannot under any circumstance recommend trying to get back with your ex. You deserve better and you need to move on to greener pasture. If you were in a enjoyable and loving relationship, things just kinda fell apart, and you deeply desire to reconnect with your love, then read on and lets get to work!

Step One Be Strong

Its hard to be a strong and confident woman when you are dealing with a broken heart. You are miserable, upset, and dealing with every emotion in the book. You may even feel compelled to let him know how miserable you are and how badly you miss him. Guess what men arent attracted to women out of pity. Despite every urge and gut-feeling that telling him how you feel is the right thing to do, its actually one of the worst things you can do. Besides, how much of an ego boost do you think you will provide him by telling him you cant live without him?

So how do you portray yourself as a strong and confident girl when you feel like the complete opposite? When your self-esteem is at an all time low? Time to do a little day-dreaming. When you are feeling down and need a little boost, close your eyes and imagine what its like being back together with your boyfriend. Were not talking about past events or memories here, but the future. Imagine his embrace after all this time apart and how happy you are to be back together. You really need this to be as real as possible and avoid slipping into past memories. This does two things it will make you happier and feel more confident and strong. It also provide a goal. Envisioning the two of you back together will serve as motivation and provide easier self control for the step-by-step action plan to get him back.

Step Two Limit Contact

When all you want to do is surround yourself with his presence; whether its on the phone, email, chat, text STOP IT! Weve gotta be strong and strict with ourselves here. While you may see it as an instinctive measure to re-connect, hes going to view it as stalking. Even a phone call or text a couple of times a day will send him the wrong signals. The purpose behind not contacting him is that if you have broken off communication, he will begin to wonder how are, what you are up to, and begin to miss you. With repeated phone calls, he does not have the opportunity to miss you. If you struggle a little picking up that phone, go back to your happy place and use the day-dreaming trick mentioned above. No pain, no gain, right?!

Step Three Get Busy

While you may scoff at the idea that this will do anything to get your ex back, its actually quite powerful. By picking up a new hobby, spending more time with friends, whatever you find interesting you are doing two things. You are distracting yourself and having less time to miss your ex. This allows you to regain control of your life and gives you more self-confidence. The odds of your ex boyfriend noticing youre over it and moved on is a powerful motivator in men. The new self-confidence you exude and the fact that hes seeing his dream girl slip away, knowing that he screwed up will have him crawling back to you on his knees.

We can all do this, cant we girls?