Dating Advice: Five Traits Guys Look For In A Woman

Men are as variable as women when it comes to what they think is attractive in the other sex. Some guys are drawn to eyes to begin with, some men notice the way she moves or sense of humour, while yet others may be attracted to fashion sense or personal style. It changes across the spectrum.

The upside is that when it comes down to personality, guys are surprisingly similar. There are just some qualities that men are drawn to. For the most part, these can be reduced down to 5 key traits guys seek in a woman.

1. Self sufficiency Dependant women are a real turn off. Being independent and pursuing your own agenda not only demonstrates that you are a one of a kind, lively woman, it also indicates that you are confident enough to leave your boyfriend for a while, and gives himthe required and often-talked-about space. It is great to feel loved, but too much dependence can feel like suffocation. Having other interests and activities is essential and also gives your man reason to miss you while you're away!

2. Confidence Study after study shows that the sexiest trait in both sex is confidence. When you are content in your skin, it shows other people that there is something to be happy about, that you're living a full and happy life. A little jealousy is natural and can even be endearing, but a constantly whining, self doubting girlfriend, who always asks about your actions and intentions is extremely unattractive. Be confident and take him at face value. If he's unfaithful, he's the one that loses out, and you're secure enough to leave him for someone better.

3. Be Calm A woman scorned is a man's living hell. From his pestering mom to his irritating ex, your boyfriend has likely witnessed his fair share of feminine freak outs. These situations are frightening for guys, who steer clear of them at all costs. Be open, relaxed, and rational at all times, and the friendship and respect between you will grow. If you are frequently agitated and/or irrational, your man will not want to spend time with you, especially when he probably wants you the most. Be there for him, in a composed, empathetic and reasonable manner.

4. No Guy Wants to be Hen Pecked! Pick your battles, and select them wisely. Like everyone, guys can be somewhat strong headed or silly at times. You should learn when to stand your ground and when it'll cause more throuble than it's worth. Pestering rarely is the solution, usually impedes a resolution, and always ends up evoking resentment.

5. Respect (for his interests, his family, his buddies, etc.) This one is a deal breaker. There has to be respect in any relationship, and it has to go both ways. This means take time to understand alternatives, give full support and don't demean at all especially in public or in front of friends and family. If this isn't really you, just suck it up. You may not like all his behaviours, or certain aspects of his life, and you don't have to however you do have to respect them.