Create Happy New Environments - Three Reasons To Avoid Staying In A Negative Reality

People are about as happy as they decide to be.
- Abraham Lincoln

You know when you're in a situation and you just aren't lovin' it? You start to get agitated and you're thinking to yourself. This is uncomfortable, this is boring, this isn't what I was expecting, this isn't how I want to spend my time, get me out of here, etc...
You may feel stuck but the solution is very simple - create a new reality.

Creating a new reality can mean anything from changing your attitude/perspective to changing your physical location. But one thing is for sure; change is required because the situation is not going to change unless you do.

When you find yourself unhappy with your environment you first have to take responsibility for creating it and then realize you have two choices:

Stay in it and stew
Create a new reality

After going thru a divorce there are many circumstances you may feel uncomfortable in now that you are on your own- dating again, going solo to a party, bridal showers, making new friends, teacher/parent conferences. But if you think about it, you'll realize it's nothing more than a mind-set. If you choose not to change your mind-set you'll experience the following three things:

Anxiety or annoyance - sending out low energy vibration
Attracting more of the same making you feel even more miserable
Discomfort to those surrounding you. Yes your mood directly affects those around you.
You cannot hide your inner unrest - you may think you have the best poker face in town but your vibes are out there and they are finding an equivalent match and bringing you more of what you don't want.

And really what's the point of stewing - you will carry this energy into your next event of the day, or worse yet, to bed with you. If you do not ditch this energy you'll wake up with it and start your day behind the eight ball and have another crappy day.

On the other hand, if you choose to create a new reality you will empower yourself and your life. I had this choice last New Year's Eve. I had plans to go to my favorite spiritual center with some friends - I was so excited thinking it was going to be a great evening of visualization for the year ahead. When we got there it was a complete disappointment - there was no special spiritual service - the only thing going on was a food line set up like a soup kitchen in South Central with the floor being the only available option for seating.

My friends and I looked at each other and made a decision - we would not enter 2008 in this environment. So we left at 11:15 and drove to a beautiful hotel in Santa Monica making it just in time to watch the ball drop. We were given party hats and blowers and lovely glasses of champagne to toast in the New Year. There was upbeat music and lots of people laughing and having a good time. What a fun and festive atmosphere and WHAT A COMPLETE DIFFERENCE from where we had been just a few minutes earlier.

It was a valuable lesson to carry into the New Year. Whenever you are in a situation that doesn't make you happy remind yourself that choices are always available to you. Make a conscious decision to choose what will make you most happy.

If you cannot physically leave make a decision to change your attitude - do the opposite of what you are feeling and you'll be surprised how things will change - interject humor, show love, ask a question or give a compliment.

This may open a door to learn something you never knew before. Even if that something is the realization that you have the power to create your reality.

So what's it going to be - stay in your mood and stew as a miserable martyr, or recreate as an empowered magician...who will YOU choose to be?

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