Counseling - Are You A Relationship Addict?

Counseling - Are You A Relationship Addict?

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Going from one lousy relationship to another with little time betweeen is perfectly acceptable for some people. As strange as this may seem, a closer look reveals that being single is viewed as unacceptable by these people. The only solution appears to be a relationship, any relationship, just as long as their not single and alone.

First, let's clarify the meaning of the word addiction. One of the keys to identifying an addictive behaviour is whether or not the behaviour is being done as a means of avoiding or neglecting other important priorities.

Excessive eating and work are two of the most highly regarded addictions in our society. A spouse is disheartened by the lousy state of their marriage. They increase their pursuit of activities they can succeed at. They know how to work and eat. They feel good engaged in these activities. Not a whole lot of positive is coming out of their marriage.

Now, what is the person who is addicted to relationships trying to avoid?

People with a relationship addiction are generally trying to get healing for a wound. These are generally left over wounds that were experienced when they were kids. They usually involve parental neglect, mistreatment or abuse. What happened in their formative years, they are trying to get relief from. What they should have received from their family of origin, love and positive reinforcement of their value, they are striving to get from a partner or mate. Not being in a relationship for an extended period of time is quite trying for them. As soon as one relationship ends, they're as eager as a dog chasing a stick in their pursuit of another mate. The issue of compatability is given little thought.

A person's life only gets more difficult the longer they avoid dealing with their addictive behaviour and the impact it's having on their life. The addict gets less and less out of their addictive behaviour over the course of time. In order to get the rush they're looking for, they need more of their drug of choice.

The solution for one dealing with a relationship addiction is to be honest about their problem and get help to heal their wounded state. It's essential not to get caught up believing that their behaviour is particularly unique. Using a relationship to get a fix is far too common.

The process of attempting to heal old wounds through relationships is rarely done conciously by a person. Their mate isn't aware of this objective. When their partner fails to supply the level of healing love and affection they want, they blame their partner for not being able to heal their wounds from childhood.

About the Author:
Chris Keenan is regularly heard on radio and is the founder of http://www.easyrelationshiphelp.com
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