Confirming That You're In Love

It can be very hard to find love in a world where meeting new people doesn't always fit with the busy schedules and life goals that fill most lives. Knowing how to find love, however, may seem easy when compared with actually trying to figure out if the one you're with is the right one.

Those that want to fall in love will usually have a better grasp of what they want in a new relationship and what will, over time, make them the happiest. For those that had no intention, or were simply not on the lookout for these feelings, the question of is this love real may be both difficult to determine and even a little scary.

One of the scariest parts about falling in love is how out of control it can make you feel. Those who have managed to find new love in their lives often feel almost obsessive about the other person and this can be both an amazing experience and an uncomfortable one.

In order to determine whether or not you are in a relationship that has reached a stage where it feels like falling in love has taken place there are three very important aspects to look at: Yours, your partners' and the future you might share.

*Your Side of Love:

If you happen to be a romantic the idea that you might find soul mate possibilities in this world has probably appealed to you for a very long time and while being open to the opportunity is wonderful thing, you must also be cautious. Those who are too quick to assume that a relationship is everything that they could hope for may be overlooking some very important flaws.

On the other hand it is vital to pay attention to the very feelings which may over power your good sense. All in all it is a balance between what is right for you and what your feelings tell you that will probably best ensure that you are in the right relationship.

*Signs of Love:

Those who have fallen in love often find that they miss the other person when they are not around, even if the time of longing is short. The urge to send messages and let that other person know that you are thinking of them may even seem overwhelming at times.

The desire to make that special someone in your life happy is likely to override your own personal wants. Those who have fallen in love often take the time to go out of their way just to show their partner that they care and often put the needs of their partner before their own, or the very least on equal ground.

*Your Partner's Side of Love:

In the search for finding true love, knowing that you have fallen is only half of the battle. In order to truly allow yourself to continue these feelings it is important that you confirm that your partner feels the same way.

A great way to confirm your partners' feelings is simply to talk about where your relationship stands, but this can be a little scary for some people as it feels like a big risk if the signs are not obvious. If you want some confirmation, looking for signs that your partner feels deeply for you is a great way to go about it. These signals often indicate that a person cares deeply for another and you may want to secretly test your partner before having a big discussion, or profess your feelings for the first time. Does your partner:

*Go out of their way to make you smile.

*Know when something is bothering you, even when the outward signs are not obvious.

*Ask about your day and listen to your explanation, even the boring parts.

*Take an interest in the things that interest you, even if they do not share those interests.

*Consider your feelings when making decisions; whether as small as picking up food or as large as a career change.

*Help you accomplish tasks when they can and especially when you're feeling run down.

*Try to take care of you when you're sick.

*Feel concerned about your safety and health.

*Know what little things make your life a happy one; from favorite iced cream to movie preferences.

*Make a point of being affectionate.

*Ask you what's on your mind.

*Understand what life goals are most important to you.

*Know what types of gifts to get you, however limited the budget.

*Have an understanding of what things are truly the most important to you.

Many of these little actions or pieces of information are important to have in a successful relationship, but the exchange does not end with how your partner sees your side of things. It is also important that you partner shares their desires and needs with you. The lack of interest in their own wants may indicate that they have difficulty sharing their life and in order to truly love and feel loved, they will need to trust you with this information.

*The Future:

Looking at your relationship objectively can be nearly impossible when the rose colored glasses of love are still on. However, in order to know whether or not you can share a future with the one you love is just as important as understanding your feelings in the first place.

Because it can be so difficult to gain perspective in this situation it is often useful to look to others in your life for guidance. The friends and relatives who would have your best interests at heart when speaking to you about something of such great importance can be a valuable tool in determining whether or not you're on the right path.

For those that prefer to take this task on alone, it is vital that you try to step away from all of those wonderful feelings just long enough to look at some very basic facts:

*Do you and your partner share similar visions of an ideal future?

*Can you and your partner grow and change together rather than grow apart?

*Will you and your partner continue to support and take an interest in one anther's lives in the years to come?

*Do you share similar beliefs and desires or at the very least can you accept any differences between you?

*Are your desires to have children or not similar?

*Do you feel that your partner is someone that you can rely on and is the same true of you for them?

*Can you envision spending years with this person?

*Do you trust your partner and do they trust you as well?

Attempting to ascertain whether or not your feelings are genuine for another person, whether their feelings match your own and if the two of you can have a happy life together may indeed be one of the most difficult tasks in life. Allowing yourself to look at your relationship honestly may help you to discover the key to what defines your happiness and if the possibility of increasing it is within the person you have come to care for.