Communication: Best Ingredient For Best Relationship

Many people think that just by mere saying "I love you" all the time would also mean a good relationship. Other people, on the other hand, think that giving all things that their partner needs is the best ingredient for a long relationship. But for those people who have transcended the test of time and still taking that path would say that the best ingredient for a relationship to survive any obstacles is communication.

Many people have misconceptions that a good communicator is born and not made. The truth is a good communicator is made and taught that is why they are what they are right now. In learning how to communicate well, you are also learning how to enhance your relationship or your marriage.

There is an analogy about relationship that would manifest the importance of communication in our relationship and marriage. It states that "communication is to relationship as breathing is to life." Thus, we can say that communication would derive if our relationship or marriage will be a success or a failure.

So how can you have a good level of communication in a relationship? In order for one to attain this, couples must have a high quantity and quality of constant time with each other. If one is busy, one must keep his/her communication channels to be open so that the flow of communication will always be in between your relationship or marriage.

Communication will not be a communication if it will not entail both talking and listening. This is as such so that we can be more understanding with the individual differences that we have. Through communication, we are able to bridge the gap and be able to understand and accept each other.

Here are some guideline that you can use for you to be able to enhance your relationship through communication.

Tell you partner what YOU need with the use of the pronoun "I". It might sound a little bit selfish for you to make focus of yourself but if you will not ask, you will not receive, right?

Avoid using a sentence which begins with pronouns we, let's, and you. Such pronouns are used with concealed motive which becomes a way of attacking, manipulating and accusing your partner that will surely lead to conflict.

As stated, communication is a two-way process. Always find time to listen to your partner. If both of you like to talk without someone yielding to listen, nothing will really happen.

Do not interrupt when your partner is speaking. By just listening, you are letting you partner to put out what he/she wants to say. Instead of looking away from your partner's eye when he/she is speaking, better look at him/her in the eye. In this manner, you are still able to communicate without actually saying a word for you are making use of nonverbal communication.